Why do men return after parting? It often happens that a girl has a new life, a relationship, another guy. And suddenly, suddenly a young man with whom the relationship has long been a thing of the past makes itself felt.
Or this option. The man himself decided to stop communicating. He said that you are not a couple, collected things and left. And after a while he returned, as if nothing had happened. Even when the initiator of the gap is a girl, in seventy cases out of a hundred she will receive an offer from an ex-boyfriend to start all over again. Why it happens? Is this some kind of male psychology?
Reasons that encourage a man to return past relationships
In fact, everything is quite simple. Consider the most common reasons:
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After the break, the girl has a new young man. In this case, her ex-boyfriend is driven by a sense of rivalry. After all, for a long time, he believed that it was his girlfriend, and she’s not going anywhere from him. But it turned out that someone else took the place next to her. Naturally, this affects the male ego and stimulates the desire to return the trophy to yourself, to defeat the opponent and to prove to the girl that he is better. - I realized that one is already uncomfortable. The man used to be in a relationship. He wants someone to meet him in the evening and call him during the day. And it is desirable that this was a close person. In terms of domestic issues, men seldom appreciate and notice the comfort created by a girl. Only by being alone with oneself, one fully realizes how lacking a ironed shirt, a clean bed, a delicious dinner and other manifestations of women's care are missing.
- If the cause of the gap was another girl. In most cases, when a man leaves his wife for his mistress, after a while he returns. Why it happens?
After the break, the girl has a new young man. In this case, her ex-boyfriend is driven by a sense of rivalry. After all, for a long time, he believed that it was his girlfriend, and she’s not going anywhere from him. But it turned out that someone else took the place next to her. Naturally, this affects the male ego and stimulates the desire to return the trophy to yourself, to defeat the opponent and to prove to the girl that he is better.Just during meetings with his mistress, he saw the wrong woman, whom she found herself in everyday life. He was fascinated by the thrill of secret meetings, the novelty of impressions. And when the veil of undercover relations passed and all the cards were revealed, a man was visited by a feeling of regret for the family he had destroyed. And the desire to return to the adjusted life and his former life.
- Infantile psycho type of man. Everything is clear here. There is such a type of men who do not particularly think about their actions and their consequences. It's like in the song: "Forever young, always drunk." And it absolutely does not matter how old this man is, and his social status. Such people are selfish and do what is convenient for them at the moment. Here he wanted a bachelor life - everything, forgive, forgive. And I wanted comfort and borscht, then it is easy to come back, without a conscience.
Usually an infantile man regards his return as a holiday for his former woman. And he is indignant when he is not taken back. But do not worry, this indignation does not last long either.
- Feeling unfinished. This option happens when there is some understatement between partners. If the gap occurred due to a quarrel or some external reasons, then after a time the man wants to return to this relationship and see if it could be different.
Also, the feeling of unfinished action occurs when the woman herself initiates a gap, without explaining the reasons. Then her former partner mentally from time to time will return to this situation and try to find an explanation for her. And the resolute man will try to restore the relationship in order to correct some of his mistakes.
The desire to return past relationships with each man arises for their own, personal reasons. Someone is aware of their mistakes and wants to correct them. Someone is drawn back by the power of habit, the desire to return to an established way of life. Someone gives in to their selfish motives, not knowing why he needs it. But to restore relationships, to wake up past feelings or not - it already depends on the woman.
And what about love?
The last option is the most optimal in order to try to build relationships again. Often people break up because of problems that could be solved. Due to frequent quarrels, financial, domestic difficulties, rejection of a partner by friends or family.
But at the same time, people continue to feel feelings for each other, talk on the phone, are interested in the life of the former partner. After the emotions have subsided, the man realizes that everything can be corrected. The attitude to the factors that led to the gap is changing, the feelings and desires of the partner are put on the first place in the list of priorities. It sometimes happens that you need to part for a while in order to understand how important you are to each other.
"Big is seen in the distance." These lines from Sergey Yesenin's poem perfectly illustrate the situation when a man, after breaking off a relationship, understands how he loves the woman with whom he broke up. And decides to return.
If the mutual feelings remained with both partners, it makes sense to start the relationship anew, from scratch. Do not repeat past mistakes and carry the old alliance of old grievances and claims to your partner. Usually after a break, the feelings for each other become even stronger. Exclude selfishness from relationships, love and be happy!
