Happiness is the goal of our life. But often the state of happiness eludes, and all the tips to “score,” “be positive,” or “relax,” cause only irritation. Life has lost its bright colors, and bad mood has become daily? Anxious thoughts do not relax for a second? Stop frustrating. Catch 8 daily tips on how to learn to just live. Give them 5-10 minutes every day to feel happier.
Of course, the desire to simply live does not imply the state of a vegetable in a primitive version or the construction of the existence of a lazy cult. But how to take on the solution of universal problems, where it is easier to concentrate on your own happiness. After all, only having tried, you will understand that it was you who did not succeed.
If it takes less than 2 minutes, do it immediately.
Many people know how unfinished vampire affairs suck energy out of us. Unfinished little things are not so critical, but this is only at first glance.
An unwashed cup, an unmade bed, an unfinished repair — all these things, piling up, turn life into chaos. Household problems have the ability to creep from home to the office. As a result, the mail is filled with letters, documents are not printed, and colleagues are waiting for weeks to respond to their requests. This is how trivialities affect personal performance.
Conclusion. Thanks to the rule of "2 minutes" you will turn the current moment into your ally. Just do it immediately.
Do not concentrate on things you cannot control.
In his trainings, Tony Robbins says that 80% of people are focused on uncontrollable things.
What we can not control? The weather and people's opinions, global economic crises, progress, changes in the pace of life and the characteristics of their bodies. What can we control? Their reactions to negative attitudes, tactless statements and rudeness, their income and expenses, the time spent in social networks and the amount of calories and steps taken during the day spent on really useful books. Although, to be honest, we ourselves are not always able to control.
Conclusion. The desire to control everything is the source of our eternal suffering. It is better to stop fighting and enjoy life as it is.
Read success and failure stories
When we see actors and directors on the red carpet or Nobel Prize winners, it seems that they were born so smiling and self-confident.
Celebrities and famous businessmen today willingly share the history of their thorny path. They give lectures, write books, give interviews to business publications and conduct trainings. The main idea of most of the messages: wealth and glory do not fall from the sky. In order to reach heights you need to learn, plow and risk. In addition, there are many other useful thoughts in the books about the intricacies of doing business and relationships with people.
Conclusion. To concentrate only on the bad or to completely ignore the negative moments is a losing position. In all you need a balance. For each case, it is worth making a list of questions on the topic "what is so" and "what is not so" and only then draw conclusions for yourself.
Do not think out thoughts instead of other people and do not generalize.
You are walking down the street and a nice young man looked at you "somehow not so." First, we think about "he thought that I was dressed not in fashion," then we summarized "well, yes, all handsome men are narcissistic egoists." All mood is ruined. Not with him, but with you.
If a person is well acquainted with you, simply decide and find out the situation with questions: "what did you mean," "can you express yourself more specifically" or "did I understand you correctly (la)." Sometimes it’s more comfortable for someone else to explain a situation than to wonder about your displeased face. If a person is unfamiliar to you - reconcile: his thoughts are far from your person and he is exclusively occupied with his own problems.
Conclusion. It is much more interesting to find patterns in the behavior of people and draw their own conclusions.
Do not waste your life in suppressing anger
One minute of anger reduces immunity by 1 hour. And if it is such a powerful emotion, it is better to get to know it better.
Anger is necessary in everyday life. We need to learn how to track it and correctly transform it. If we transform anger into an insult, into guilt, aggression or internal experiences - the emotion will become destructive. In this case, the anger does not get out, accumulates overflows. Bah! Explosion, quarrel, rage, depression, loss of communication with those whom you cherish. The positive aspect of anger manifests itself when its energy is directed towards solving a situation. Then anger can be called sports or gambling.
Conclusion. Anger is neutral, in what direction you will direct it, your emotion will receive such coloring.
Make a list of thanks
Recently, it has become fashionable to blame parents for their failures. Children's conflicts, resentment, and unfinished love are discussed on the show and in articles. It's time to think about what we can be grateful to parents for and life.
If it’s hard to write a book of thanks, start with 5 points. Take a small piece of paper and write whatever comes to mind. Put a piece of paper in your wallet or notebook and reread every day. After several days of this practice, you will probably want to fill up the list with several points. Then you need a bigger sheet. One of the most important habits that can make us happier will gradually be formed - keeping a gratitude diary. Each time, expressing gratitude, try to mentally linger in this sensation and track your emotions.
Conclusion. Say "thank you" every day and pay attention to the little things that teach you to be a little happier and wiser.
Think of your way of meditation.
Meditation is a way to relax the muscles of the brain and just take a breath. It is practiced by many people who are called successful.
Meditation helps to deal with stress, to improve concentration in practice or a certain moment. How does she do it? In the first place - helping to suspend the constant running of thoughts. If earlier a person could proudly declare: “I cannot help but think,” then today it is rather a flaw. Constant "white noise" in the brain and consciousness takes a lot of energy, does not allow to fall asleep and understand what you want in life. Meditation is good because there are no strict laws for it. She is able to solve your personal problems. You can meditate anywhere: in the bed immediately after waking up or before going to bed, on a treadmill, while walking in the park, while soaking in the bathroom. You are well - it means that the meditation was successful.
Conclusion. Meditation can be learned independently. To help those who wish to have useful applications for smartphones.
Do not start complicated cases until you figure out simple ones.
It's like in mathematics - until you learn the division in a column, you cannot master the integrals.
Unfortunately, at school we are taught to write and count, but do not tell about the relationship to work or in the family, do not dedicate in the subtleties of mental torment and doubt. Therefore, we often do not know where to start and threaten too complex things. We dream to build a strong family and do not know how to establish a simple dialogue, we dream about our own business, but we are not ready to spend a penny on additional training, we strive for high wages and are not able to control our expenses.
Council Do you still believe in dizzying success and sudden luck? Read the stories of people who won a large amount in the lottery. Or, once again, hammer in the search bar the names of the actors who became famous in childhood. Perhaps real stories will help correct your own dreams.
