The state of nervousness is not alien to everyone, especially given the high rate of life and a huge amount of information flows. In such circumstances, even minor failures can lead to depression, apathy and other nervous disorders. In order to stop worrying about and without such, it is necessary to learn how to control your emotions. There are certain ways to help calm down and stop being nervous.
Causes of nervousness.
Anxiety and mental anguish can be triggered by various circumstances. Each person has different values, and for this reason, different situations can bring him out of balance. Often, the person heats up the situation, giving excessive importance to things that are not worth it. Causes of nervousness can be:
- Dangerous situations that pose a threat to health or life;
- Fear of failure or, in fact, failure itself;
- Fear of looking inappropriate to others;
- Mandrazh on the eve of important events;
- Excitement due to conflicts, domestic trifles.
The emergence of moral discomfort in any stress factor is not a physiological process, it is a psychological adjustment. From a physiological point of view, nervousness is associated with the properties of the nervous system, and from the psychological, with personality characteristics. Thus, being nervous is not a natural reaction to stress, but a reaction of a particular person to what is happening.
Ways to stop being nervous.
Thanks to hard work on yourself, it is possible to overcome the state of nervousness. The following ways will help control your emotions:
Avoiding or eliminating stress.
If you know that this or that situation causes you to have bouts of excitement and negative emotions, then, if possible, you should avoid them in advance. If the situation arose spontaneously, then try to find an opportunity to eliminate it. However, not all problems can be “run away”. This method is suitable if you are upset by a movie, communication with a new acquaintance, news on a social network - close the movie, leave the meeting, exit the network.
Abstraction.
If you can not use the method of avoiding negatives, this method will be appropriate. If you are forced to be in a situation that makes you nervous, you should try the methods of distraction. A mental diversion is a good option - to think about something of your own, but visual distraction works even better - contemplating something else. This strategy is suitable for meetings, travel in transport.
Drinking water.
A simple but scientifically based method. A glass of water, drunk without haste, is able to start the body's self-rehabilitation mechanism. The method is relevant in all situations.
Hobby interesting thing.
The method is suitable if you can not "let go" of the problem, if it tortures and unnerves you again and again. The techniques can be: reading a fascinating book, knitting, drawing, computer games, outdoor activities. You should be interested in some kind of intrigue, courage, the rapid development of events. In pursuit of new sensations, it is important to follow the rule - do not harm anyone else.
Water treatments.
Water - a healing tool to improve the psycho-emotional state. Water, both literally and figuratively, washes away all the "dirt". The techniques can be used: taking a bath or shower (can be combined with music therapy and light therapy), visiting a sauna or a bath, swimming in a river / pond / sea. Even ordinary dishwashing will help to distract and benefit in the form of directly clean dishes and normalization of the state of mind.
Physical discharge.
This method physiologically causes physical relaxation and, as a result, moral relief. Among the effective methods are: long walks in the fresh air, dancing, spring-cleaning, working in the garden, sports training, the destruction of old things.
Intimacy
Sex is an excellent remedy for the blues. Ideally, sexual contact should occur with a loved one, but other options are acceptable. The main thing is to approach the issue wisely and not to forget about the means of protection, and the stress that can be experienced by passing a pregnancy test will overshadow all other efforts.
Comparison
It is enough to compare your position with a worse case scenario. This method teaches you to appreciate what you have, and to realize that your situation is not worth such nerves. An effective way can be called with minor problems that are not related to health and a significant reduction in the quality of life.
Positive look.
Stressful event should be assessed in a positive way. That is, you need to find the advantages in that it happened. Maybe thanks to this, you will get much more and you will expect pleasant events.
Laughter and tears.
These two opposing phenomena can bring moral relief. Although it is possible and their interweaving: laughter to tears, crying to laugh. Making fun of the problem itself or laughing on another occasion will raise your spirits and help you quickly get rid of anxiety. Crying, with what, the stronger, the better, relieves stress. Suppose that in the process of sobbing it seems to you that it is still far from relief, a new wave of emotions can flood you, but at the end of the hysteria, you will definitely feel better. With tears, toxic substances that were formed during stress are released from the body.
Score.
The standard way to count up to 10 will help to normalize breathing and control the surge of negative emotions. The method is suitable for athletes, and in situations where you want to avoid conflict.
Job.
Passion for his duties at work, additional tasks are very appropriate, if necessary, to distract from the problem. This method is suitable for long-term stress.
Verbalization.
Keeping a personal journal that you trust in all aspects of your life. Not everyone will like this method, but systematically writing out your thoughts on paper will help to relive unpleasant moments.
Socializing with friends.
It is not necessary to speak out on a disturbing subject, especially if it is not significant. It is better not to recall an unpleasant incident, but simply to communicate and enjoy it. But, as an option, it is permissible to discuss your problem. Friends will listen, it can be important for you, and they can still advise something.
What methods are best not to resort to.
There is a group of methods that have only an apparent positive effect from the struggle with nervousness:
- Drinking coffee
- "Jamming" problems
- Smoking
- Drinking alcohol
- Drug intake
Perhaps these methods will help relive stress, but their use, especially in large quantities, brings tremendous harm to the health and, ultimately, the whole life of a person. Therefore, in the ratio of harm far outweighs the benefits.
It is very important to learn how to live without burdening yourself with worries about trivia. Your health depends on this useful skill, as frequent nervous breakdowns can lead to its deterioration.
