The melancholy gray small shadow penetrates the heart, cobbles there in the most inconspicuous corner for the time being to release the claws at an opportune moment and begin to strip the soul on the ribbons.
Therefore, at the first signs of the appearance of this evil, you need start preventive measures as soon as possible.
Concept
it spiritual imbalance, poisoning the man his current existence due to loss of taste for life.
Nobody pleasures the pitying one, but he perceives positive news through the prism of negative perception, which is why the state is gradually and steadily aggravated.
It can be said that longing is foundation for the development of persistent clinical depression.
On the physical level melancholy is manifested by a aching feeling in the chest, a decrease in pressure and a deterioration in overall tone. In parallel, a person may be tormented by insomnia, lack of appetite and irritability due to unwillingness to contact with others.
All that a person wants is to immerse himself in his thoughts for the sake of the opportunity to recall the past happy days or to dream about how everything could be great if it were not for some circumstances.
Nostalgia - so called longing for the past. It arises from the impossibility of returning to the past days, when the heart was light and the butterflies fluttered in the stomach from the anticipation of something pleasant to the soul and, possibly, to the body. Nostalgia is subject to people at any age.
What can it be?
What can be melancholy:
- Light and light. A person with a smile in his heart recalls some good moments experienced with someone or in some place. He is a little sad that everything is already in the past, but he doesn’t see any reasons for giving up the next life and joy in it. In general, the person aims to continue to live, occasionally taking inspiration from pleasant memories of the past, pleasantly rejoicing the soul a little bit.
- Moderate. The emotional state of a person is similar to scales in motion. One bowl outweighs, and the yearning plunges into disturbing memories, then the other, and the person finds the strength to take an interest in the world around him and move forward despite the feeling that destroys him from within.
- Black absorbing. In such a state, the one who experiences it loses the desire to live, refuses any entertainment, as they seem to him to be disgusting and even offensive towards the subject or object, which has been overcome by anguish.
Such an experience can in a few days devastate a person so emotionally that he becomes seriously ill or even die.
After all, literally in every manifestation of life, the sufferer sees a connection with depressing memories, and this becomes too unbearable for his heart.
Causes
Why is it so depressing?
Young they may be longing for friends who are far or completely out of sight, for loved ones who have broken up, because of their own stupidity or because of prevailing circumstances.
In elderly or lost health people can develop this feeling not only because it is impossible to contact any close relatives or friends, but also because of the loss of former physical strength and, as a result, of opportunities.
Common Typical Causes developmental melancholy:
- Loss of loved one person
- Moving to a new place of residence and a period of temporary social isolation due to the lack of acquaintances, knowledge of the language, local traditions.
Especially important for people who are difficult to establish contacts with others.
- Loss of health, physical injury that prevents you from doing your favorite thing, work, sports, forcing you to be dependent on others.
- Insulation from society because of the absence of peers, who have the same interests and views on the structure of the world - a typical problem for older people who cannot communicate with people of their age.
- Quarrel with a heart friend due to the betrayal of the latter or for another reason.
- Exhausting disease, not allowing to live normally due to attacks of pain.
- Financial difficulties, forcing us to work hard every day in hard or unloved work for the sake of being able to have food and shelter.
- Immersion in life and devoting oneself to someone for the sake of taking care of the latter and the inability to quench one's creative or other impulses, which causes the loss of a source of energy for matters less exciting and laborious.
- The onset of a period in life when a person is forced to lead an unpleasant lifestyle. For example, a choleric person and an extrovert should just work and have no fun at all, and the melancholic and introvert continually find themselves in situations when they have to talk, hang out and participate in fashionable noisy parties a lot and often.
Where does causeless feeling come from?
It is absent as a phenomenon. That is, the occurrence of an unpleasant feeling in the soul is always justified and manifests itself for some reason. That's just not everyone can install it and not always.
The most frequent hidden factors for causeless melancholy:
- the desire to live a different life, but a person lacks the courage to even admit to himself;
- seasonal depression, coincided with a deficiency of vitamins, sunlight and good weather;
- empathy, allowing you to feel the fact of trouble happening to someone close or familiar. Moreover, not every empath is able to understand the essence of the problem and simply suffers from an unpleasant sensation, which seems unreasonable to him;
- unconscious prediction of the imminent collapse due to some mistakes made in the past;
- an abundance of uninteresting work, physically exhausting and not bringing moral satisfaction.
Is it possible to die from her?
If you indulge in depression for a long time and every cell of the body, then yes, and even very quickly. No wonder there are statements that mortal longing seized up the churchyard and so on.
From a scientific point of view, this happens due to a change in the course of chemical processes in the body and the problems that have arisen against this background in the body.
Therefore, it is imperative that you struggle with sorrow not swallowed the whole person.
How to deal with its manifestations?
The first effective step connected with the awareness of the problem.
That is, the feeling that breaks the heart and soul must be learned to accept not as a natural manifestation of unpleasant emotions due to the prevailing circumstances, but as a problem hindering further progress.
Second step - this is an honest dialogue with yourself, in order to reveal the essence of the problem that gave food for the development of anguish. If the problem arose due to the loss of a loved one, then the longing is a mirror reflecting your fears of the future and the fear that you will not be able to cope with the tasks ahead.
If sorrow in the heart has settled due to the fact that on the horizon the exchange of the next ten years looms, and you all continue to be engaged in the unloved business and courting people who do not appreciate your care, then anguish is a sign of a lack of self-love and concern for your own desires.
Third step associated with the entry into a new and conscious path in life, which in itself becomes an energy source for moving forward.
And the more things you will have on this way that require your close attention and are pleasant to your heart and hands, the sooner the remnants of withering anguish will disappear from your soul.
Psychology tips
Until longing took root deep in the heart and did not make your eyes see the world in gray-black tones, chase it out of your soul with the help of hobbies, meetings with pleasant people and friends, delicious delicacies (in limited quantities), and even better than dietary ones, traveling to previously unknown places.
Add a little bit to your life sports.
Even a quarter of an hour in the morning, set aside for the simplest exercises known from the school board, set up a positive attitude towards life and give faith in one's strength.
Enter strict taboo on walks in places that bring back sad memories and on watching movies, photo collections with the same impact on you.
After a while, all “x” zones will no longer have a negative impact, and you will be able to come into contact with them without harm to your health.
How to get rid of the sadness of the past?
Accept the fact that the body will not be younger, the trees that have grown are smaller, and the life ahead is longer than allocated. Revise current baggage from experience, skills, and even savings.and then honestly tell yourself what you intend to do with all these riches.
If you like to drag out the useless life of a consumer with someone else's self-pity for yourself, continue to revel in your own longing, waiting for her to eat all your life juices.
If the life of the slug is already disgusted, allow yourself some of the most important madness in your life: go about your own desires and go to do everything that was dreamed of a couple of years ago or even decades.
How to stop pining for her ex-husband?
In most cases, women are quite patient and do not divorce until the moment when it really does not burn.
Therefore, if the marriage is broken up, then, most likely, even To miss the former needlessly.
And an unpleasant feeling in the chest is the remnants of the habit of living together and fat traces of the fear of seeing a woman in herself who can create something good in her life.
Therefore need urgently update your wardrobe, in order to provoke a desire, natural for the ladies, to see admiring ratings from outsiders, and then start a little wild life.
To restore the ability to enjoy life. And let spree will be expressed only in reusable visits to the spa and cafe, where they serve delicious ice cream, but already these two points may be enough to start a new and interesting life.
What to do if you have overcome longing for your ex-wife or girlfriend?
You can compromise and try to renew the relationship. And you can, soberly looking at the causes of the pair, to begin a new lifefilled with unknown and pleasant impressions.
And this has nothing to do with the possibility to meet with friends over a beer or even stronger — as often as you like — this is the road to lonely evenings in stretched workouts at the sadly mumbling TV.
Impressions - this is about trips to new cities and countries, this is participation in men's competitions and meetings with interesting people.
How to cope with longing for a dead person?
Having burned off the first days, when it was especially painful to realize that it would not be possible to bring back joint meetings under any circumstances, decide to live on.
To take from her everything that the departed did not manage to get, that he could like, but it was already in the list of prohibited or inaccessible for other reasons things.
When you don’t want to live for yourself from heartache due to loss, you need to live for the one who I didn't have much time to do, but I really wanted to.
This attitude to the choice of the universe, who decided to take a loved one to other worlds before you, allows you not to drown in anguish and learn to take new steps in life without physical support from someone who has already left.
Tosca is real consequence of a suffering soul. But unlike tears, which flow because of heart or physical pain, relief does not bring anguish. It only worsens a person’s well-being and deprives him of the desire to live. Therefore, such a guest should be avoided so as not to turn into her slave.
How to get rid of nostalgia and longing:
