In each person’s life, at a certain moment, values are re-evaluated. The attitude to the situations surrounding people, to oneself, changes. It doesn't matter what circumstances provoked such thoughts. All that matters is how to change yourself and your life for the better.
What is worth getting rid of?
It is necessary from time to time to throw off the ballast from bad habits, negative manifestations of personality, character traits that prevent successful life. Think about what qualities you don't like about yourself? Why? How do they complicate life? Write them in a notebook. For example, it is worth getting rid of the following qualities:
- Bad habits: smoking, alcohol addiction, overeating.
These are dangerous "hobbies". They gradually destroy your body and mind. They should be abandoned first.
Read the books of Alain Carr. In his works, the methods of dealing with various addictions are available and easily described. Watch science films, broadcasts about their bad habits. Realize fully the harm you do to yourself. Learn ways to get rid of addictions and say goodbye to them once and for all!
- Excessive temper. A person who is too emotional reacting to the comments of others, their behavior, various life situations is difficult to contact with people.
Such a colleague will not be tolerated in any job. In private life, hot temper also brings a lot of trouble. For example, where conflict can be avoided, such a person will surely bring the situation to a “boiling point”.
Pay attention to what kind of people and circumstances cause outbursts of anger. Why? Perhaps, if you honestly answer this question for yourself, the problem will go away or your anger will become much easier to control. Work on yourself, learn anger management techniques.
At the moment of an unnerving situation, mentally count to ten in the reverse order, breathe evenly and calmly. Think about whether the minute weakness of the consequences that will entail your negative reaction?
- Passive aggression. This condition is typical for people who are accustomed to restrain negative emotions in themselves.
Unloved work, people from whom a person is dependent, and other negative factors lead to the state when you have to adapt to the environment. At the same time, under the guise of benevolence, negative and anger accumulates on the whole world.
Such a state can drag on for years and destroy the integrity of the individual. If you don’t want to be in a hospital room with a psychosis or other nervous disorder one day, it’s urgent to change your attitude to the world.
Determine what depresses you the most, and eliminate it from your life. Find what brings pleasure, joy. Perhaps needlework, sports, heart-to-heart talk with a friend, or walking with a dog. Learn sincerity, notice the good things around and find happiness in the little things.
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Depressiveness A state where nothing is needed and not wanted, which can be described in one phrase: “Everything is very bad”, happens to most people at least once in their life.
Depressiveness A state where nothing is needed and not wanted, which can be described in one phrase: “Everything is very bad”, happens to most people at least once in their life.But sometimes despondency, lack of will and apathy become constant companions and turn into personality traits.
It is important not to make a mistake and turn to a psychologist. After all, if you are really depressed, then you need to undergo a course of treatment with a specialist. And if you just see the negative in all situations, most often you try on the role of the victim of circumstances - immediately change!
Look at others - they rejoice, laugh, live, fall in love, be disappointed, but again find a new meaning in everything. Get out of your cozy cocoon of sadness and inaction, in which you hide from the world, and do not be afraid to live. Allow yourself to be happy!
- Passivity. You live by the principle: "And so it will come down!". There is no desire to change anything, to make efforts.
It is better to live with a comfortable person than to look for a loved one. It’s better to sit in a boring, low-paying job than to choose a business that you like and prove that you deserve it.
Return mentally to your childhood or to the days of youthful maximalism. What did you want, what did you strive for? How did you imagine your future? Surely, you were burning with new achievements, you wanted a bright interesting life, to achieve success and happiness.
Watch the movie "Always Say Yes!" with Jim Carrey. Perhaps he will give you an idea how to get rid of the gray routine and not drown your life in it.
Change yourself - and life will change for the better.
Work on yourself, discover new horizons! Dispel your shortcomings and pay attention to your merits. What are you? Kind, loving, understanding, purposeful? Develop good qualities. The universe gives us what we bring into it ourselves.
Do the outside world as well. Concentrate on the merits and benefits. And notice that your most evil enemy is the same person, with his desires, complexes and dreams. And if you just smile at him and turn to face him, you can find a friend.
Do not give in to despondency. All troubles and problems are solved sooner or later, even without your participation. Whether you like it or not, life goes on and goes on. Fill it with good and bright colors!
Exclude from your life people and circumstances that cause internal contradictions and "pull down." Concentrate on self-realization. Maybe it's time to make an effort and achieve promotion at work? Or take decisive steps in your personal life?
Let yourself be happy! Do not be afraid to change, and you will see how everything changes around!
Try to fill your life with development. Think what you have a disposition? What activities will bring joy to your updated "I"? If you lack harmony, then meditation and yoga will help to achieve it. Peace will bring creative work - try to paint landscapes or write a story. What to do if you need emotions, adrenaline rush? Then dynamic sports, extreme entertainment - this is what you need!
