Every person from time to time subject to fears, complexes, anxiety and excitement. These features are considered weak, but this does not mean that there is no strength in it. If you stop comparing yourself with others, reach for the ideals sung in books and movies, it turns out that a strong personality lives in a person. There are 15 basic signs that are inherent in it. It is not necessary to have all of them, it is enough to develop at least a few in yourself.
Self-control
The ability to control one's emotions and behavior is an important quality. Do not confuse it with the desire to wear masks and hypocrisy. Equilibrium and self-control help to survive the storms, to be flexible, to achieve goals.
In stressful situations, you can physically feel anxiety - the heartbeat quickens, the body stiffens or dizziness and weakness is felt, appetite disappears, or the feeling of hunger overlaps. To regain control of the body, you need to be able to calm down. This will help slow the score, breathing exercises, self-hypnosis.
Calm
It follows from the previous paragraph. When emotions are seething, I want to shout, cry, break the plate. Psychologists say that this is useful to do. But it is not always appropriate to let off steam in public. Often the inability to remain calm leads to rudeness and aggression. A person with a strong character, can reach a consensus, not raising his voice, not becoming personal, but gently but persistently giving arguments.
The ability to convey your thoughts
Oratory - excellent quality. It indicates intelligence, a large vocabulary, ingenuity. The ability to enter into a dispute, to find arguments, to parry in a dispute or a normal conversation, to convince - of course, strong features.
Listening skills
It is important not only to speak, but also to listen to the interlocutor. This is the basis of effective interaction. Especially useful to listen to those opinions that do not coincide with yours. This will allow considering the situation from all sides, finding the optimal solution, discovering something new.
Ability to admit your mistakes
To err is human. The strength of the personality is expressed in being able to recognize this, as well as apologize for your failures. Sometimes it is difficult for people to step over pride, as they are afraid of losing their status, falling in the eyes of others or appear weak. But the inability to admit their mistakes is the greatest weakness.
Flexibility
Life is changeable, you need to be able to go beyond your comfort zone, be ready for change. If a person is able to adapt to changing conditions, to learn new things, not to become attached to what pulls him to the bottom, he will always be on top.
Profound thinking
Strong people think logically, dig to the bottom. They are not superficial, do not make hasty conclusions. Decisions are made carefully and deliberately. A good feature is strategic thinking, building a chain for the future. But it is also important to make decisions that are optimal for the conditions of the present.
Charisma
Strong character traits include charm. This is an invisible attraction, due to which a person causes sympathy in everyone. In order to become charismatic, it is enough to learn how to use two qualities - the listener and the speaker. Talking with the interlocutor, you need to look into his eyes, at the same time be relaxed and natural, smile, if it is appropriate. On occasion, it is necessary to ask questions, it is better than trying to give advice, if not asked, or striving to tell about yourself. If the interlocutor says something impartial, you need to show it to him with a look or calmly explain that this is unacceptable. A revelation can be answered with a revelation if there is such a desire.
The ability to defend their borders and say "no"
A person may have personal boundaries, which he defends. They can be physical or psychological. We must not be afraid to show them, it will help people not to cross them. A certain openness will benefit.
The inability to refuse people speaks of low self-esteem. Reliability is never appreciated, most often use such people and do not even notice it. It must be remembered that the opportunity to say "no" is always present. If you want to help and it can be done, not to your detriment, then it makes sense to agree. But no need to violate their own plans, raise parasites. You should not confuse this with egoism, there is nothing wrong with self-sacrifice and mutual assistance, but everything should be in moderation.
Self-irony
The strengths of character include a sense of humor, but it is especially important to be able to laugh at yourself. Witty people attract, it is pleasant to be with them. They can not be outraged, as they are able to translate everything into a joke. Most often these are optimists who see good sides in everything. It is necessary to develop an associative thinking, this will allow you to learn to play with words and sometimes incapacitate verbal opponents.
Self motivation
You can often hear from parents that they live for children, girls stop caring for themselves, because they have already achieved their goal and got married. Do not live for someone, be beautiful, so that someone praised. This must be done primarily for yourself.
The ability to "read" people
Strong character is the ability not to be offended, and for this you need to correctly read people's intentions. To learn to truly understand them you need only two things:
- Listen and do not think out. Conducting internal dialogues, searching for hidden meaning behind a banal smile or an open door in front of you is often misleading. It may just be politeness, which is perceived as sympathy.
- Watch. Often a person sends signals, either intentionally or unknowingly, ignoring which leads to confusion. For example, the guy constantly says that he would very much like to meet and every time postpones the meeting. This indicates that the desire in it is not so much. Or a girl who constantly showered with praise, flirts, and at the same time asks to replace her at work, to perform for her some duties, in fact, a skillful manipulator.
Ability to ask for help
It is impossible to be able to cope with everything and everything. Sometimes, in order to achieve something, you need to ask for advice or real help. There is nothing shameful about it. In this way, you can learn new things, gain valuable experience.
Independence
To become independent, you need a strong character, and for this you need to do two things:
- Give up your own dependencies. Often young people prefer to live at the expense of their parents. Some seek themselves to 40 years, others justify themselves by the fact that parents need them, as they give them the meaning of life. You need to leave the comfort zone and try to achieve something on your own.
- Remove the "parasites". There is also another situation when a person is openly manipulated, pulling him down. For example, an alcoholic husband, an irresponsible adult child.
Self-confidence
Confident people always look stronger than those who always doubt themselves. Strength of character is manifested in the ability to inspire by example, to lead. Such individuals advance faster on the career ladder, earn more.
Other strong traits
There are other qualities that indicate personality strength:
- perseverance;
- hard work;
- courage;
- harmony with yourself;
- purposefulness;
- punctuality;
- responsibility, etc.
A strong personality is a person who does not expect approval from others, is confident in his abilities, keeps emotions under control, sets goals and achieves them, knows how to take responsibility for his life. To become so, you can start small, play sports, to train motivation and self-control, to stop accepting the reactions of others, as a guide for developing your own behavior.
