Is it possible to justify suicide? And if he was committed for a serious, but quite solvable reason? The statistics is amazing: about 70% of people with chronic boredom catch themselves thinking about suicide, 15% of them turn it into reality. Lost interest in life is a serious topic that scientists of all countries are studying. Experts say: to make it so that it is not boring, everyone can. This will require a desire and at least a low awareness of the problem.
Is boredom always fatal?
A huge canyon. Near the abyss itself, partially hanging over it, lies a large stone, ready to split and divide in the abyss at any moment. Near the cliff stands a man. He has a chance to turn around and get away from a dangerous place or stand on an unstable stone, putting his life at great risk. What does it look like?
Canyon - an allegory that symbolizes the interruption of life. Stone - severe depression that can turn into suicide. And finally, there is a role assigned to boredom. What is it encrypted in?
In step.
The one that can make people. If he retreats, turns around, leaves, trying to get rid of boredom, he will save his life. If he steps on a stone, then he will expose himself to a critical danger.
The process of falling is irreversible, beyond the control of human power, it cannot be controlled. Standing on a stone is relative. You can go down from a boulder at any second. However, where is the guarantee that, when they want to return to the ground, the stone block will not suddenly split, dropping into the abyss?
Only a step towards or, conversely, away from boredom completely depends on the human decision. Even if a person continues to stand still, fear and indecision will entail consequences - phobias, neuroses, alcoholism, gambling.
When boredom comes
This feeling can appear as if from nowhere, quietly sneak up and capture prisoner over the years. Or it abruptly takes them by surprise. The reasons for a bored attitude to life can be:
- severe psychological trauma;
- satiety life;
- monotony, monotony, routine;
- laziness, letting matters go of course;
- lack of clear goals, ambitions;
- the need to perform a long, difficult, undesirable task without benefit and meaning for oneself;
- lack of constant occupation.
A happy person, in whom all the necessary things are completed, will still find something to occupy himself with. Those who are really boring to live, even at full load will feel depressed. There are three age categories of people who are particularly susceptible to negative feelings.
- Pubertal period. Adolescence is a turning point when character is finally formed. At this time, the child especially acutely reacts to the attitude of others, manifestations of injustice, hormonal surges. That is why delicacy in the behavior of parents and teachers is so important.
- 25-30-year-old frontier. For those who by this age did not have time to achieve their main goals, a difficult stage begins. Society imposes the need for family, prestigious work, personal achievements. It strongly beats on self-esteem, knocks down from landmarks. And where there is no goal, there is boredom and depression.
- Middle age crisis. Children grow up, create their families and go. At work, young professionals are valued more. There are dramatic changes in the world that are difficult to keep up with. The feeling of loneliness, uselessness begins to pile on a heavy load. By reducing the number of duties appears boredom.
However, people of all ages, statuses have a real opportunity to fight negative emotions and not let it ruin their lives. How to make the colors of joy come back to life?
How to cope if it became boring to live
Fortunately, the options are many. It is necessary to proceed, first of all, from the reasons because of which boredom arose. And yet, universal ways to help get rid of annoying feelings exist.
Permanent employment
This is a pleasant leisure time. But if a person is a workaholic by nature, he will enjoy working on a new exciting project. For those who are mentally tired, this option will not work. But meditation, gardening, crafts will help to relax, forget about the problems.
When everything in life suddenly begins to stretch for an incredibly long time, the same events repeat in a circle, it is better to make a choice in favor of activity. Different sports, especially team sports, will lift the spirits and charge for new achievements in any field.
The principle is simple - to fill life with those activities in which the person himself sees meaning. This does not mean that you need to sharply throw a lucrative job and go to the artists, not having a penny behind. It is enough to balance business with pleasure and move in this direction.
Intimate talk
The main snag of most psychological problems is that they are not spoken about aloud. The justifications for this are the following thoughts:
- I will begin to feel sorry and be considered weak;
- I seem a loser, unable to cope with emotions;
- they'll laugh at me, stop respecting me;
- they will refuse me, I will remain alone, I will cease to be needed;
- I will be considered a crazy / whiner / simulator.
In society, a stereotype has arisen: emotions are nothing, to which there is no point in paying attention. This is a big misconception. The soul is the same part of man as the arms, legs, head, heart. And sometimes she hurts. Talking about it with relatives is not a mistake, but an attempt to cure internal wounds. Perhaps it is parents, brothers, sisters or even children who will tell you how to improve the situation, they will begin to actively help with this.
Revision environment
Most often it concerns friends. Rather, those who take their place. It happens that mental boredom manifests itself for one reason - lack of support. Even the most independent person sometimes needs the words “I believe in you”, “Let's try,” “You will succeed” and, finally, “Why not!”.
Sometimes a person tries to break free from the clutches of a bored mood. However, phrases from the closest ones “Why do you need it?”, “This is ridiculous!”, “Don't be cruel foolishness!” Noticeably slow down, suppress all enthusiasm. If so say “best friends”, is this not a reason to think, but are such people needed at all?
It is still a small problem to stop communicating with lazy, passive acquaintances. What should I do if my own family, family, does not allow me to develop?
You can try to explain the situation for the 10th time. Yet the most effective option would be to search for like-minded people and jointly solve the problem. When relatives will see the result, they will calm down and, finally, show care, long-awaited support.
Communication with a specialist
Psychologists and psychotherapists do not solve the problems of their patients. They help to find the causes of a problem situation, ways to eliminate them. In addition, psychology experts will listen carefully, support, if it suddenly turns out that there is no one to talk about your case.
It also happens that boredom is a symptom of a medical diagnosis, more often - a neurological one. In such cases, it is often accompanied by chronic fatigue, apathy, dizziness, and headaches. Therapists can help. After collecting the tests, they prescribe treatment on their own or refer to doctors of a specific profile.
The cycle of good
Helping others is a great way to return to a good mood. First, it is an occupation that leaves no room for thoughts of boredom. Secondly, by doing good, a person often gets a moral return, positive. To feel better, you can:
- help someone on the street - suggest a way, carry a heavy bag, even just smile;
- take part in a volunteer action, become a volunteer yourself;
- send some things to the orphanage, animal shelter;
- organize gardening of a public plot;
- to give something unselfishly and for no reason.
The best thing you can do if you become bored with life is to want to overcome a dreary state, to do something to realize this desire. Retreat away from the stone of depression - scary, because behind it is uncertainty. But it is better than an irreversible fall, at the last second of which the thought is clearly heard: "And yet I want to live."
