Walt Disney received 302 waivers before finding investors for the animation studio. Oprah Winfrey grew up in such poverty that she had no toys in her childhood. If all the great people believed that their life path depended on the circumstances, we would not have heard their names. But they continued to act "contrary to", because they knew that if there is 1% to change their life, it must be changed.
What is life path
Life path is a multicomponent concept that consists of internal biological (genotype, character, talent and life experience) and external social (upbringing, habitat, events) factors. It includes other concepts: the meaning of life, life philosophy, life cycle. The description of life’s journey begins at the moment of birth and ends on the day of his death.
Although there is no precise scientific definition of the life path yet, scientists are studying it. Academician S.L. Back in the 20s of the last century, Rubinstein considered the path of human life from a biographical point of view, since he considered the personality of a man as inseparable from his personal experience. At the same time, Ph.D. Charlotte Bühler introduced the concept of “the life course of an individual,” consisting of five phases of development over the years of life.
But while scientists are conducting their research, I want for myself to find answers to the questions: can I choose my own path? Is it in my power to change something? How does my path blend with my inner values? How to set your life priorities?
How to determine your life path
Let's start with an example. You love to travel, and your friend loves to travel. You choose a tour operator in advance, expensive all-inclusive hotels and excursions along tourist routes. Your friend buys a ticket, collects a suitcase at the last moment, lives in a tent and runs with a camera in abandoned villages.
So it is with life: consciously or unconsciously, we choose roads, routes and means of transportation, we get different emotions from this. And we choose the way to understand our way of life. Someone goes to fortune-tellers and astrologers, someone is looking for a spiritual mentor, someone is trying to figure out the issue with the help of books and self-awareness.
Religious figures, astrologers, philosophers, historians, ethnographers and doctors of social medicine are working on defining the path of life. Genetics is also beaten over this. And according to their research at 57-60%, we are our genes. So, the rest can be changed by ourselves. And the first thing to do is to determine your life priorities.
How to set life priorities
In the prioritization should not be too carried away. There is a risk to turn into another superman looking at his watch, even while having sex. But even without conscious priorities, life becomes chaos, and things go to chance. Therefore, we will try to choose a middle ground in order to have time for everything, but at the same time remember the taste of the salad eaten at dinner.
Understand and realize how priorities in life are set today
Even if you have never drawn a scale of priorities, you have them. All that we have at this moment is the result of prioritized. Consciously or unconsciously, it does not matter. Everything we want or dream about is a theory. All that we have right now is practice and our real priorities.
Unconsciously we prioritize not by what is needed or useful, but by what is important. If we are lying on the couch, it is important for us to lie on the couch. If we are up in the morning for a run, it is important for us to run in the morning. We lie on the couch and think about jogging - it is important for us to lie on the couch, portraying concern about our health.
To recognize your priorities “as they are” is to start an honest conversation with yourself. Do not go to the side, do not make a smart face, do not think. Honestly describe everything about life, what you own at this moment: family, work, income, health, habits. This is your starting point.
Check how priorities correspond to intrinsic values.
Values are the desires of the soul, they come from within. Priorities are often imposed outside. And that's the whole problem. When values and priorities play apart, nothing good happens. The gap in terms of "what is important to me" and "what should be important to me" leads to bad mood, anxiety and depression.
Children, especially small ones - the first indicator of our values. If the parents do not read, no persuasion or instruction will force the child to read. The same applies to sports, nutrition and goals in life. Want to know your real values - watch your children.
The second indicator of our values is our energy. When the energy of priorities and values works in one direction, what happens is that scientists call resonance, and we, the white stripe in life. Follow your energy, not whip it with caffeine or entertainment.
Understand that the list of priorities is not dimensionless and come to terms
Imagine that the list of priorities can consist of only 10 points and you have already entered into it all 10. Have you decided to enter another one in the list? So, something will have to be abandoned. Because it is impossible to combine health in one life with smoking, comfort with a career, high earnings with eternal rest in the Maldives.
Giving up will help correct goal. Before you expose it, think about how you want to feel. Do you want to stay in harmony, in peace or in eternal run with obstacles? Form a goal that will help to find the desired state. Then they will come from the heart, and not from the concept of "so it is necessary." Who actually needs?
Correctly prioritize their breakdown into urgent and non-urgent. Urgent business takes a lot of energy, but rarely important. Cases that do not have a deadline, often lead to the intended goal. This prioritization will help determine what we want to spend time on and what we must spend it on.
To live not for the sake of a resume or characteristics
Why do we constantly live in conflict between external success and internal dignity? The external "must, it is necessary, it is necessary" so litters the air that there is no chance for their own feelings to get through. Probably, therefore, even alone with ourselves, we argue about life with such words, as if we are having an interview with a strict personnel officer.
Need to distinguish personal qualities and their virtues. The first helps to win a place in the sun on the labor market. The second - make us human. The way we build a family, relationships with friends, live outside of work - much more important? Then why do we spend so little time on these qualities, and often we are even ashamed of them.
New York Times held a competition for the best essay about happiness. The results were astounding: many people are not dreaming of accomplishments, but of a “little happy life.” Of course, this life is not for everyone. But there is in this something inexpressibly beautiful and reliable, something that returns us to our real values.
Include leisure and hobbies in the priority list
In the priority list hobbies are often entered in the last line. But it is these things that make us happy. Want to be happy, not just effective? Be sure to include the hobby in your list and give it time every day.
How to find your hobbyif there is nothing interesting? Start looking. Visit master classes, go to the exhibition, even if at the mere mention of painting you want to lose consciousness. Communicating with enthusiastic people will help you understand that you can also make money on a hobby.
By the hobby should not be treated as a occupation for life. In the same way, it is impossible to predetermine whether it is possible then to build a career on a passion The man is the conductor. He needs to receive emotions from the beautiful and throw them out in the form of creativity. Perhaps, then on the hobby really get money, but there is no guarantee.
Fatalists believe that everything is determined at birth, optimists hope for the best. But realists know: it is impossible to determine the course of life today, and tomorrow to wake up an absolutely happy person. The path is a process, it can be corrected at every stage of life. There would be a desire.
