Every woman has universal secrets of seductionthat help to achieve the desired from men.
But most often, the fair sex act on an intuitive level, without being aware of their own actions.
Therefore, information on the psychology of seduction useful and relevant for every girl.
Psychology of seduction
Essentially, seduction is way to achieve the desired (closer to the object of interest).
This curious "science" only involves the inner potential and resources of the seductress, who already has everything necessary to conquer a man.
Some mistakenly connect the concept of "seduction" and intimate intimacy. But in fact, a woman, charming a man, can pursue a variety of goals: a useful acquaintance, a pleasant pastime, sex, relationships, marriage.
Seduction is not a one-way process (as opposed to a simple flirt). It is very important to involve the object of seduction in the "game" and then allow it to enjoy the process.
At the time of contact with a man of interest, a woman should create a favorable background in order to:
- reveal your greatest strengths to your interlocutor;
- allow the other person to reveal his strengths (so that he feels successful next to a woman);
- create the illusion that the initiative comes from the man and he is in complete control of the situation.
Well, directly in the process of contacting a woman can use all sorts of tricks, to obtain or consolidate the effect of seduction (provocation, flirting, NLP techniques, the use of role models, etc.).
The temptress - what is she?
Seductive woman must think and act like a temptress, who not only sharpens the skill of seduction, but is already popular with men.
The first and most important condition - it is self-confidence (not to be confused with self-confidence).
The temptress knows that she is attractive for the opposite sex and dangerous for other women as a competitor.
Therefore, the seductive lady keeps calm, with dignity and does not fuss. Outwardly, it appears as straight posture, straight and bold gaze, clear movements.
No attempt to pull up a dress or skirt, for the hundredth time to straighten hair, hunched or scouring around.
Seductive woman is smart. She can keep the conversation going and captivate a man with just one conversation (without sexuality). In this case, the temptress does not over-focus her attention on herself, trying to show off her intellect.
She only skillfully directs the object of seduction, maintaining contact and allowing the other party to discuss an interesting question, speak out and even boast.
Another important point - the ability to have fun. A woman should broadcast positive emotions. And the man will remain in the confidence that he is the source of pleasure at the time of intercourse.
Awareness of self-importance / usefulness / value for the representative of the stronger sex is the best incentive to maintain contact with a woman.
Seductive woman accepts attention and assistance and does it with dignity.
She would not crumble in gratitude if the man held the door, gave a hand, offered his cloak or volunteered to walk home.
However, she would not refuse, asserting that she would cope on her own, would do without help, or would not want to cause inconvenience. Temptress feels like middle ground and allows the man to be courageous next to her.
Stages of seduction
Seduction can be different. A woman can resort to passive or aggressive tactics, can balance somewhere between, and can arrange a real presentation for the object of seduction.
But the main stages of seduction remain unchanged:
- To attract attention. It is necessary to get into the attention zone of the man before the meeting happens. This will help “prepare” the object of seduction and set it up to communicate with a woman. Otherwise, the acquaintance / conversation may end before it has begun, since the interlocutor will become confused and will hasten to end the conversation in a situation that is not winning for him.
- Start contact. At this point, the woman sets the tone for further communication or introduces the man to the role that was chosen as the main one (a lost stranger, a guest bored at the party, a colleague interested in the conference schedule, etc.).
- Contact. Directly moment of communication with the object of seduction. During this period, a woman should hold the attention of a man and bring him to dialogue / interaction.
- Anchor. The woman prepares the ground for the next contact or agrees to the man's proposal (a date, a request to give a phone number or tell the office coordinates).
- Completion of contact. The true seductress always leaves first, so that the man does not have time to get fed up with the company of her companion. At the final stage, the woman, referring to compelling reasons, leaves the man, leaving a pleasant impression.
At some stages, the initiative may come from a man, if the representative of the stronger sex is interested in further communication. But if he is not yet imbued with a sense of admiration and a desire to meet again, you can resort to tricks.
Anchor role can perform a “accidentally” forgotten scarf, please help to reinstall the program on the computer or by the interlocutor's handle, stuck by mistake. This will serve as a reason for repeated contact, but at the same time it will help to avoid the sensation of frank interest on the part of the woman.
What is art?
Speaking about the art of seduction, it is impossible to ignore sign language and non-verbal cues.
A truly seductive woman can talk on completely detached topics, but also cause romantic thoughts in a man.
It's all about the movements, posture and facial expressions. Coquetry, expressed in movements, captured and perceived on a subconscious level. And it seems that a woman tells a colleague about boring annual reports.
But the background is a slight tilt of the head, a neat and short touch to the hair, an attempt to tighten the slightly dropped strap of the dress and a deep look into the eyes of the eyes. As a result, the man can not break away from the conversation, during which he admires his companion.
Seduction goes hand in hand with observant. A woman should be sensitive to changes in mood and reactions in order to correct her behavior (to add coquetry at the right moment, not to bend in terms of candor, avoid unpleasant topics, praise a man when he is waiting for this, etc.).
A woman achieves mastery in seduction at the moment when she manages to become the one next to which a man feels like a king.
But the object of seduction should not just listen to tons of flattery and blatant compliments. He must really believe in your exclusivity thanks to the conversation with the temptress.
Lessons: how to seduce properly and beautifully?
Young guy
Young guys have two weaknesses that you can beat.
First of all it inability to soberly assess oneself.
Boys are distinguished by high self-esteem and faith in their own life wisdom.
Therefore, the girl who wants to please the guy, can note his prudence and rich life experience, to instantly call the location. The second "Achilles heel" of young men - increased sexual activity.
The guys are at the peak of hormonal activity and therefore are susceptible to the “beautiful picture”. Beautiful and seductive pose, languid gaze, easy half-smile, neck demonstration and other non-verbal signals are perfect as a provocation.
Well, if a start is made, there will be only to respond correctly on the actions of the object of seduction.
Adult man
To seduce an adult man beautifully, you need abandon vulgarity in favor of femininity. No flashy sexuality. It is best to start contacting a request for help.
After all, there is nothing more feminine than weakness, which forces a girl to look for a strong male shoulder.
Then you need to translate the conversation on the topic that is interesting to man, and at the same time gives the woman the opportunity to demonstrate intelligence / awareness.
You can find such a topic with the help of accurate samples. Well, when a man realizes that he has acquired a curious interlocutor, you must disappear, leaving a keen desire to continue the conversation (the main thing is not to forget to create an anchor so that the meeting will be repeated).
Own husband at home
In family life the best method of seduction is diversity.
A caring hostess can try on the role of a fatal beauty or a naughty girl.
Capricious lady can turn into a tender kitten.
The main thing to add erotic subtext or frankly flirt, so that the man does not write off the sudden changes in the mood of his wife to hurt or desire to teach a lesson. Role playing will certainly produce the desired effect.
Married colleague
To seduce a married colleague, you must pamper the object of seduction. physical contact. A touch to the shoulder, an “accidental” collision in the doorway, a hug as a sign of gratitude for the help.
All this will help to slightly start a man and arouse interest. At the same time it is necessary to carefully monitor the appearance and always radiate positive.
A colleague should feel that next to him is a female battery, who will always give a portion of warmth and good emotions.
It is to such a woman a married man rush during family troubles.
Driving Instructor
Congenital ability to drive is a quality that men are incredibly proud of.
Sincere admiration for the craftsmanship The instructor will help set the object of seduction to the desired wave.
A sensual look, a series of fleeting touches and an embarrassed smile will “finish off” the victim.
Former spouse
In order to seduce the ex-husband, it is necessary to make contact with him (to be alone or in such conditions under which it will be possible to interact without strangers). And then enough resort to proven methodswho previously helped seduce a loved one.
Chosen by correspondence
The situation with seduction by correspondence is complicated by the fact that a woman is not able to use gestures, facial expressions, non-verbal signals. All this with success compensated by a slightly higher degree of provocation.
A little ambiguity (within acceptable limits) inflame the interlocutor, forcing him to dream. And the halo of mystery will only play into the hand of the seductress.
Common mistakes
Sometimes, in an attempt to capture the heart and mind of a peasant as quickly as possible, women make mistakes:
- Demonstration of tender feelings. A woman forgets who is a seducer here, and devotedly looks into the eyes of a man. A silly smile on her face betrays the love of a seductress. And the man, feeling that he achieved the goal, loses interest in the fair sex.
- Perseverance. A woman goes too far, literally blocking oxygen to a man with her attention. Or begins to hint at the wedding and children, barely acquainted with a nice guy. Or maybe she is being imposed at the wrong moment or talking endlessly about herself and her merits.
- Vulgarity / vulgarity. Even if the ultimate goal of a woman is a bed, you shouldn’t be too frank about this man.
Seduction is a part of the game and it is very important for many representatives of the stronger sex to think that it was they who inclined the girl to take a serious step.
- Uncertainty. If a woman feels insecure, the man will instantly feel it. In this case, seduction is impossible, and the girl can only act as a victim of an experienced seducer.
Any woman can be seductive. You do not need to have special knowledge or skills. Just a little practice and desire. After all, nature has already awarded the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity with everything necessary for seducing men.
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