How to become an interesting conversationalist
Have you ever noticed at various meetings that a group of people can gather around one person, listen attentively to every word from her lips, and interest in the subject of conversation may not subside for several hours in a row?
Does a person have, that with the help of a word, keeps the sight of attention on himself, some secret? Why do some manage to be an interesting conversationalist, and the rest at the same time have to remain in the shadow of the "speaker"?
There is no clear answer to these questions. It is clear that before embarking on satisfying the curiosity of others, one must also accumulate a stock of original information. Even if the child was an excellent student at school and learned the entire program of study, the knowledge base, laid down during the school years, may turn out to be insufficient.
Progress does not stand still, and in the world every day there are some events, certain changes, so the general awareness of the present is necessary for a person to be considered an interesting interlocutor.
It is possible to make it a rule to study any yet unfamiliar topic weekly. Flexibility of the intellect is trained by reading books, watching interesting movies, attending various events. In addition, mastering the literary opuses, a person replenishes his vocabulary and develops eloquence.
Oral skills will be needed to line up their conversation in such a way that it finds a response from a wide audience. Everyone can learn how to tell about the usual, because this or that information can be given in different ways.
Before you open your mouth to the public, you should learn how to express your thoughts in writing, advise social coaches, suggesting a personal diary as an exercise.
Having laid out any information on paper, one should return to it after a certain amount of time and analyze how clear and understandable the written text is.
Once a person has mastered the ability to express his thoughts in writing, one can proceed to verbal practice.
Important touch:
even if the subject of the narrative is extremely interesting and relevant, not clear diction, sluggish articulation and unpleasant timbre of the voice can spoil the impression from the conversation.
Others will quickly get tired of listening to the interlocutor who stumbles, starts talking, “eats” the ending, speaking too fast or, on the contrary, stretching phrases. In addition to consulting a professional speech therapist, ordinary tongue twisters and a number of exercises aimed at improving the correctness of pronunciation and forming vowels and consonant sounds can improve the quality of speech.
Also, with the help of training, you can learn how to breathe properly during speech and arrange stylistic accents. The work on themselves will be audio and video recordings of famous speakers. A little trick: you can practice keeping the attention of the public both in front of the mirror and in front of the video lens, and it is advisable to view the recordings as one as an introspection as well as with like-minded people who will notice the shortcomings and help them correct.
It should be borne in mind that in order for the story to be remembered by others with originality and emotionality, the subject of the conversation should be interesting first of all to the person who tells about it. And in addition: most people are not averse to talk about their own persona, so in a dialogue it will not be superfluous to put the vis-a-vis several questions, the answers to which should be heard carefully.
Well, a dosed number of compliments and one or two witty jokes will help to complement and enhance the pleasant impressions of the person and strengthen it in the position of an interesting interlocutor.
