It has long been the opinion that it is difficult for a girl to find a boyfriend, and vice versa: young people have much more choice. At the same time, there are a lot of those who are not lucky in heart matters. After being defeated a couple of times, a guy may consider himself a loser: “What's wrong with me? Why don't I have a girlfriend, and all my friends are dating someone? ”Well, if such reflections do not remain at the stage of self-pity. What can be done?
Appearance
Not all genetics gave wide shoulders, tall, muscles and other attributes of the standard of male beauty. And although not everything can be changed in its appearance, it is worth working on something.
In the first place - hygiene. With a man who smells foul, it is difficult to stand by, let alone communicate. Therefore you should take care of the cleanliness of the body, hair and clothes.
Hygiene is a manifestation of respect for oneself and for others.
Older men may have one more thing: old, worn clothing. Someone thinks like this: “This costume still looks great with a prom! You can wear it to work. ”Clothes are not cognac, and it does not get better with age. If a girl sees that his shirt is more than five years old, she can think this way: if a guy does not understand why to update her wardrobe, he will not approve the purchase of new clothes for his beloved.
This does not mean that you need to catch every peep of the outgoing fashion. This is not necessary in order to look decent. You just need to understand that clothes over time lose their appearance and definitely does not make its owner more attractive.
The same can be said about bad habits. Some guys condemn the smoking and alcohol abuse of girls, but expect them to say goodbye. Any person wants to have someone who will take care of their health, as well as those around them. In addition, the abandonment of such habits testifies to the strength of will - a quality that commands respect.
Behavior
Good manners - attention is paid to them immediately after the appearance. In the lower grades, the boys pull at the pigtails of girls, they beat them in the head with a portfolio and this is considered a sign of attention. An adult is expected to have more maturity. Politeness and tact - a rarity in the modern world, therefore it is of great value.
Being polite does not mean being a bore. Politeness will help not to ask tactless questions, not to say vulgar compliments to an unfamiliar person, not to be rude and to avoid other awkward situations.
The habit of taking into account other people's feelings will help to avoid flirting - the dangerous edge of an active search. If a guy flirts with each counter, it does not make him a fatal lovelace whom someone wants to tame. This behavior betrays self-doubt and uncertainty in attitudes. In addition, most girls understand - if the guy now does not lose sight of a single girl, he is unlikely to be able to be faithful in a more serious relationship.
Although girls pay special attention to their appearance, they want to be recognized as a person. After all, relationships are, above all, communication. To do this, you need the ability to keep up the conversation, which means that not only can you be interested in talking about what you like, but also listen carefully to what is interesting to the girl. Ask questions on the topic, and try to remember what she thinks about this or that issue.
All the girls are united by one thing: for them, the most attractive in the guy is his responsibility and independence. The ability to make important decisions and be responsible for their results speaks of maturity and delight girls. At that time, the guy who, as an adult, lives with his mother on her salary, and cannot decide after a year of communication whether he needs this girl or not, causes concern.
- The result is simple: if a guy does not have a girlfriend, he should check himself on several points:
- How serious is he about his future?
- Is he polite?
- Does he have a reputation as an aggressive and unbalanced person?
- Does he keep hygiene?
- Is he responsible for what he does?
What else can you do?
There are guys who can say with confidence about themselves: “I am independent, responsible and attentive. Why I don’t have a girlfriend who could fit me? ”And this may be true. Despite the huge number of representatives of the fair sex who are found in the life of a man, there are relatively few among them who will be able to appreciate a good guy and be support for him.
Do not give up - these girls still have, just need to notice them and be interesting for them. It is worth paying attention to those with whom you work together or who you can turn to for help. It is important to have your own interests, and it is not uncommon for the situation when it was the general occupation that allowed to meet true love.
The ability to play the guitar and sing is the weakness of many girls. Statistics show that it is the guys with the guitar that attract more attention - a sort of romantic image. This skill can add chances.
Generosity is another quality that makes a guy attractive in the eyes of girls. We are not talking about expensive gifts, but rather about the readiness to please her.
It is important to be able to accept any answer and not lose the dignity at the same time. There are situations when a girl wants the guy to show the seriousness of his intentions with perseverance. But if a specifically negative answer was given, imposing is not an option. So you can miss the one that is worthy and ready to be around. And she will meet.
