Each, even the most exemplary, girls at least once in her life had a situation where she felt guilty before her beloved man, tormented by the question of how to apologize to the guy.
In fact, if the offense is not as serious as treason or insulting an offense for a man, you can fix the situation quite simply. Any man will not be able to resist if his beloved, even if the girl is to blame for him, follow the advice given below.
The content of the article:
Where to start an apology
If the guy does not forgive
Psychologist's comment
Be prepared for any reaction.
Just before you apologize to the guy, think about how he can respond to your action. People have different temperaments, characteristics, habits, and therefore they accept apologies in completely different ways.
In addition, his decision will depend on two additional criteria:
- the degree of closeness of your relationship;
- the severity of your offense.
The longer you are together, the sooner the likelihood that your apologies will be accepted without delay: firstly, you already know him well enough to present them correctly, and secondly, you are already dear to him, therefore he will not think long over whether to forgive you or not.
If the relationship began recently, and you have no idea how he can respond to your sincere apologies, then this is a good reason to check his true character and attitude towards you.
So feel free to go to him and ask for forgiveness: if you mean something to him, he will only be happy, and if he starts looking for a reason to humiliate you, then he is hardly worthy of your apologies at all.
Start by expressing your regrets
Starting any apology is always better with the words about how painful it is for you to realize that you have hurt your loved one. And that's why:
- it will help you ease the burden on the heart;
- it will bring you closer to this person, because he suffers too.
Hearing that you regret your act and worry, the guy should relent to you - so he will understand that you have offended him unintentionally. Tell us how hard it is for you because you made him suffer - admitting your mistakes, you will take the first step towards reconciliation.
At this stage, try to convey to the guy as much as possible what you feel. It’s not at all easy to do, so the most shy girls can express their feelings on paper first, and then read the note to their lover.
The underwater stone of this stage is verbosity. Do not focus on expressing your emotions, almost immediately go to the main thing, so as not to seem selfish.
Touch it, look only in the eyes
Tactile and eye contact are keys to a successful apology. A direct, calm look will convince the guy that you are sincere, that you are not hiding anything from him and really want to make peace.
Gentle touches to his palms and clothes will help to get closer, ease tension between you, reminding you how well you are together.
The main thing in this business is not to overdo it. If you see that he is still too offended, and your touch is not pleasing to him, it is better not to run ahead and still stop at an open look.
Apologize briefly
After the preliminary steps (expressing your regret and establishing contact), which are designed not only to prepare the young man for an apology, but also to determine the degree of his willingness to forgive you, you can proceed to an apology. This stage is really the most difficult, but without it the business will be incomplete, even if the guy is already ready to rush to your arms.
Apologize briefly, and then promise your young man never to do that again. Say that it is very important for you to keep the peace between you, that it is very dear to you. Show that you are not indifferent to his feelings, and that you no longer want to hurt him, even unintentionally.
If a guy can't forgive you
There are situations when a young man is not ready to give an answer right away or cannot forgive you at all. If you don’t know how to apologize to a guy for a serious offense, then it’s better to wait out for a while: when the first strong emotions subside, the wounds heal a little, and the guy misses your society, it is likely that the time will come for an apology on your part. Try to be patient until this point, and then you can change something.
Any apologies that you bring should come from your heart. The words on duty will not be able to warm the offended heart, and sincere repentance will help to overcome the coldness.
A girl should apologize only when she really regrets her action and wants to improve relations. It should be understood that the outcome may be unpredictable.
With any succession of events, you can relieve your own remorse of conscience by dropping a load of guilt from your heart with the help of sincere apologies. Therefore, if you feel guilty, do not be afraid to apologize.
