In life there are different people, and the longer you live, the less you pay attention to the negative, which they are able to “give”. You should always understand that a happy and self-sufficient person, who first of all respects himself, will not descend to insults. However, there are actually few such people, so sometimes you have to deal with situations when you need to know how to respond to an insult.
How beautiful to get out of an ugly situation?
You must understand that the person who is trying to offend you, has a simple goal - to influence your self-esteem. This is precisely what should not be allowed, regardless of whether you decide to enter into a discussion or keep silent. Harsh words, especially when they are pronounced unfairly, are capable of bumping into memory for a long time, not just spoiling the mood, but also affecting performance and well-being.
The easiest option is to ignore. A person wants to attract your attention and craves your emotions. Perhaps this is his classic pattern of behavior, and he, being an energetic vampire, simply lives at the expense of the energy of others. If such an interlocutor receives an emotional response from you, then you risk becoming a victim for a long time (for example, if this is your colleague). In such cases, it is better to just be silent. It is recommended to follow the same tactics if you need to respond to an insult to a stranger.
There are many weak people who are not able to cope with the best sides of their character, and it simply does not make sense to answer everyone.
At the same time, it is necessary to properly assess the situation - sometimes the offender must be repulsed. Otherwise, he will decide that he is stronger, and this manner of communication can become a habit. Politely ask him what happened to him again today, what another trouble could unbalance such a good person, tell me that you are very sorry that he again had a bad day. You emphasize that you draw a parallel between his failures and aggressive behavior. And who wants to look like a loser all the time?
Especially painful are situations when a close person is insulting. In this case, you should not be silent. First, it is necessary to understand, on purpose or by accident, he did it. To do this, it is necessary to explain to him that his words or actions are unpleasant, and to discuss the situation. Under the normal development of relations such stories should not be repeated. Otherwise, you should think about why a person asserts himself at your expense, and what to do about it.
Calm must always accompany you when dealing with such people. If you decide to respond to the offender, then you should talk with restraint, without emotion. The more substantiated your answer, the better. If a person insults you on emotions, then having heard a clear and reasonable answer, he will most likely come to his senses and apologize. If this does not happen, then any conversation will not be productive, in this case it is better to turn around and leave (without slamming the door and not showing that the person has somehow hurt you).
It so happens that it is not possible to resist and not respond to the interlocutor. Well, if your answer is witty and with humor. At the same time, one should begin to speak no sooner than the opponent stops - interrupting him and trying not to shout.
Such people usually have a weak character, and uttering sharp phrases, they understand their wrong. Often it is enough to have a direct and confident look in the eyes, so that the person is silent. A plus will be the fact that he, realizing your strength, does not want to touch you anymore.
What should not do?
You should never lower to the level of the offender and try to hysterically respond to his insults with your own. First of all, it’s definitely not possible to put out the conflict. Secondly, it is not possible for the interlocutor to fail to get in the way, and you, having come out of a state of equilibrium, can still be without mood for a long time. Thirdly, an adequate person always regrets the nasty things that have been said, so you will only make things worse for yourself.
Do not take everything said to heart. Often, people who can easily insult are always and unhappy with everything, but they themselves are “perfect”. It's just that at this moment it’s you who got your arm. Learn to abstract from such situations.
Trying to persuade your opponent is also not a best strategy. As a rule, people who categorically speak out to others are not ready to listen, and they are not in the mood for dialogue. After all, a person who understands that there may be an opinion different from his own will behave accordingly.
Another wrong strategy in such a dialogue is an attempt to somehow rehabilitate and justify oneself. It's one thing when you clearly state the facts, another thing when you try to say something like “I am not guilty”. Regardless of whether they are guilty or not, this is a losing position.
