The question of how to start self-development is put before a person in those moments when the current life situation does not suit him. This may concern any sphere: from interpersonal relations and appearance to self-realization in work and financial security.
The content of the article:
Principles of self-development
Errors in work on yourself
Psychologist's comment
What is the difficulty?
About how to make yourself and your life better, talk, write, read and think a lot. But in most cases, a person who has even crept into the idea that it would be good to make changes in his life stops at the level of reflection.
To act is difficult. From this it is necessary to begin personal growth and self-development. Not from the long detailed plans for the five-year plan, but from the movement already today, looking at your own direction, making mistakes, conclusions, understanding that tomorrow you will need to make or change the strategy too.
But even without a plan to develop will not work - in the end, you can get a lot of ineffective actions and depression from the fact that the efforts made did not bring returns. Therefore, it is necessary to understand what result you want to get in the end and have approximate points before your eyes to achieve it, and you can open them closer to the immediate solution of the problem.
Another difficulty lies in the fact that you can’t stop working on yourself. This is a daily work, and you have to forget about laziness, "excuses", you have to sacrifice established habits. Not everyone is able to transfer his life from the state of “I will decide everything tomorrow” to “it is necessary to finish today, because everything is necessary”.
Any process that does not have an instant effect is complex. Everyone wants to see and evaluate the results right away. But with self-development, this is not always possible: it is difficult to learn to communicate with people in a few days in a different way or to take up a management position after reading several books, but you can daily develop the habit of listening to people, analyzing what is happening, making decisions and taking responsibility, gradually working out , thus, its credibility.
Principles of self-development
- Notebook and pen should always be at hand. Some ideas, plans, ways of solving problems come to my head constantly, but we forget them, after a second switching to momentary tasks. A huge amount of important and necessary information is simply lost. Record everything, returning to the written evening.
- Do not wait for tomorrow. Do the maximum. Even small steps taken on top of the plan every day will bring them much closer to success.
- Even at the initial stage, at the training stage, you should behave like a professional - sharpen your habits, do not think about what you can’t cope with, look for solutions. This professional is always a little knowledge, he is looking for new solutions, analyzes someone else's experience, experiments. Get used to this image from the very beginning.
- Someone gets pleasure from life. You need to learn how to get the most out of it. Make decisions quickly. The main thing is that they were not initially a failure. If you see potential, understand that your efforts will not be lost - move forward and do not waste time.
- "Filter" your social circle. Spend most of your time with people who can teach you something, prompt you, communication with whom will not be meaninglessly wasted time.
- It is advisable to have a notebook in which you will celebrate your even minor achievements. First, it will help fix your movement forward. Secondly, if the moment comes when you get tired, the path already passed will be an incentive not to give up.
Possible mistakes
Even if it became clear where to start self-development, this does not guarantee you much success. Many at the first stage choose to implement the task, the performance of which initially implies internal discomfort - for example, an activity that a person does not like at all, but he does not see other options for himself. Such a choice may result in problems with the nervous system.
Self-development is a serious work on yourself, and you will have to overcome difficulties on a daily basis if you want to get a meaningful result. But the basis, the direction of movement should you like. It is important to get satisfaction from daily work, this is the secret of recuperation.
Do not forget about the rest. At the first stage, it may not be necessary - the forces will be taken from achievements, but sooner or later the body will be exhausted. Allow yourself small breaks.
Very often, people try to cover all areas of their lives, change everything completely. This is a key mistake - all at once just does not have enough strength, so a person quickly gets tired, gives up, gives up. Even if it is necessary to make changes in all directions, select 1, maximum 2 main ones, on which you need to work in the enhanced mode. The rest either set aside, or decide between cases a little bit.
Alena, Samara
