Denis de Vito or Arnold Schwarzenegger, Meryl Streep or Sarah Jessica Parker can hardly be called beautiful in accordance with the generally accepted standard of attractiveness, but their charisma and inner faith in their strength earned millions and made even some politicians of some actors. And would you like to captivate the audience with public speeches, clearly and clearly present all your knowledge and demonstrate skills without hesitation and tightness? Then use the secrets of absolute self-confidence listed below.
Confidently take your appearance.
For a woman, the key stop factor in communicating and positioning oneself in society is inner frustration with its appearance. Half-face birthmarks, an unfortunate congenital bite or a squint can really serve as a weighty argument in favor of female insecurity, but let's be honest: most of these problems have no such problems.
And what is there? As a rule, the weaker sex criticizes itself for those extra pounds, poor hair condition, skin problems, brittle nails, crooked legs, dimples, protruding ears and ... the list can be replenished for a long time.
It is important to realize that most of the problems are contrived, we can correct some of them by starting to take care of ourselves, and we can never change the rest. Plastic surgery as an option to eliminate external discontent and the development of confidence will not be considered. Love yourself the way you were created, with all the imperfections that make you unique against the background of millions of women around the world.
Harmony with yourself = absolute confidence.
For your appearance love yourself? Now it is the turn for inner qualities. "I smoke, do not play sports, laugh loudly, constantly wake up in the morning, smack while eating" also need understanding and forgiveness. Forgive yourself for who you are. Do not be embarrassed and do not make excuses to others around everything. Your demeanor and your personal qualities, if you feel comfortable with them, should not be hidden and repressed at the whim of other people.
Start to appreciate your time.
"You will not be nice to everyone" no matter how hard you try. Therefore, is it worth it to spend your precious time on overtime edits of working reports or small assignments of infinite relatives. "Zaskochi in one place, there next, on the way" - familiar? Now imagine that this watch can be spent in a warm fragrant bath, doing a neck massage. Or make that tasty cake, the recipe of which has been collecting dust for a month on the fridge. That's it.
Say “no” confidently and politely and devote moments of rest to yourself.
Forget about the past.
Memories of past failures can ruin any self-esteem. Try to avoid unpleasant situations and people, but if the event has already happened, you can not wind the tape back anyway, therefore it is highly irrational to spend emotional resources on internal remorse.
Many of us are not well versed in the environment of conflict: after a verbal clash, thoughts and expressions are raging in my head all evening, which the offender should say. It is important to understand that the moment is missed, and let the situation go home.
Praise yourself.
Encourage yourself for every little thing, whether it’s eaten one cake instead of two or a purchased yoga mat. Remind yourself of your strengths more often, keep notes if necessary, and reread them from time to time.
Compare correctly.
Do not match yourself with others. Remember that there are always people who are better or worse. In order to assess your success, it is enough to look back at yourself five years ago or to follow the changes over the past year. Make lists on the basis of a single time period and make plans for the next one. The dynamics of your personal growth will be obvious if you detail your life in several fundamental areas, such as studying, career, personal relationships, hobbies, creativity, travel or others. Record what you want to achieve in the allotted time in each category, and analyze the results.
How to develop faith in yourself? Respect and love your appearance and personality, do not make excuses, knowingly getting into a guilty position, know your strengths and praise yourself. Feel free to use the secrets of absolute confidence, exchanging a large bill in a minibus or refusing to friends in the next ridiculous request. You will feel that the world around is changing and becoming for you an even more comfortable and pleasant place.
