How to get rid of the complexes
Everyone has complexes, even the most successful, talented and beautiful. Get accustomed to many recognized beauties, for example: someone has an asymmetric face, someone has short legs, someone has more serious flaws. In some cases, complexes give a person strength and make it possible to achieve success, but not always, and the success of such people is not very happy, because they strongly depend on the opinions of others. Well, and most of us are not only not allowed to move forward, but they just interfere with living.
What is a complex
Before you get rid of the complexes, you should think about why we need them and what it really is.
Thus, the classic of psychology Jung considered complexes to be another person living within us, more precisely, the shadow side of our self, which sometimes breaks out. Complexes own those parts of the body that you hate and therefore can cause various diseases.
But modern psychologists believe that the complex is the source of our strength. Why? Because sick, depressed and unhappy people often become the main ones in the family, and sometimes they learn to manipulate their superiors, friends and relatives. This is a kind of energetic vampirism, but we have a lot of energy and it’s just that it is often chained ... into shackles of complexes.
How to get rid of the complexes and teach yourself to love, to remove these shackles?
1. We explain the reason
Think about what complexes prevent you from living, and then think about where your legs grow from? It seems to you that people are whispering behind their backs, it seems that the authorities are dissatisfied with you, it seems that you have an ugly figure, it seems that you are bad? Keyword seems to be. As for appearance, we seem to be far more ugly to ourselves than others. And so the opposite sex has completely different ideas about beauty than we think. Only we ourselves are to blame for the emergence of our complexes, as well as our low self-esteem, uncertainty and suspicion. By the way, you are very interested in whether there is a capillary mesh on the skin of your neighbor, do you often pay attention to it? Most people around do not care about acne on their foreheads: people are too anxious about their troubles to think about a couple of your acne. No, this is exaggerated, of course, but close to the truth.
2. We evaluate the situation soberly.
Are there really people who have everything in order: family, money, friends, character ... everything is perfect? Yes, there are no, that's what's the matter. Even a lady or a mister has perfection, there is a reason and a reason for complexes, it’s just that someone doesn’t dwell on it and doesn’t focus attention, and someone only thinks about them, which is very attractive to others. Just think that you are not the only one, but some of them are faced with more serious shortcomings and live without restrictions. Live immediately will be easier. And someone even kills and robs, without thinking about how bad he is, and at the same time he is even respected ...
3. Getting rid of fears
This refers to the fear of public opinion. It is impossible to build all my life focusing only on him, and it is not always censorious. So do not be afraid to be ridiculous or ridiculous, do not be afraid to show yourself and even make a mistake ... just take it easier to the world and do not think about every step, and then do not chew on every word or word you hear. And also, do not try to please everyone at once: it is impossible and unreal. And do not dwell on mistakes: you are not a robot, and they make them ... Over time, the complexes will become smaller.
4. We go "on the contrary"!
If you are afraid to seem ridiculous, try to be ridiculous all day. It is better, however, to do this with close friends who understand or on vacation. Immerse yourself in your complex, watch it and ... forget it!
5. Believe in yourself and love yourself!
This is not taught anywhere, so everyone should have his own formula of self-love and belief in oneself. In order to love yourself, you need to realize that you do not need to break into the wall, where there are no doors. Well, you do not grow taller than nature gave you growth, so what, chew on your hair because of this? Grow up, you will not grow, so even get a flush! So, you need to accept yourself as you are and understand how good it is to be you and not another person.
Believing in yourself is even easier. Just know that you can do everything and be able to do everything, and you still have the right to make mistakes. Try to write on a piece of paper all the qualities that you can not boast, but would like to have. Read your list every day and out loud and over time these qualities you will have exactly! Well, exclude the particle "not" from the lexicon: they do not understand, could not, do not like, do not appreciate ...
6. We are active
All of the above does not mean that you need to sit down and admire your shortcomings in the hope that they will leave. Nowhere will neither the excess weight, nor the feeling of inferiority leave, if you do not take up the body or start to establish contact with people ...
The most interesting thing is to set a specific task, the achievement of which will help in overcoming the complexes. By the way, working on yourself, more precisely, the fact of its presence, will help you to increase your self-esteem, and this will help in overcoming all the complexes.
7. Treat mistakes wisely.
During your school years you were probably cursed by your teacher. They scolded everyone, but someone convinced himself that it was bad and somehow unfinished, and someone tried to do something with mathematics, which is not given. Teachers are also people, and parents, but often they do not give us the right to make mistakes. And you have it, and the chance to always fix it too.
8. Think about your merits.
We have them more than disadvantages. Write down all your positive qualities. If you do not find, ask others and you will understand what they think about you better than it seems. And what you take as a flaw, loved ones can appreciate and love. Focus on what you can do better than others.
9. Do not compare yourself with anyone!
There is always r from who is better. But firstly, this does not mean that you cannot achieve the same, and secondly, you can always be better than yesterday’s.
10. Love life.
Know that she is beautiful and too short to kill her for sadness and despondency, as well as Samoyed.
