Relationship with a married man - a difficult topic. A lot of female tears shed because of those representatives of a strong half of humanity who have already managed to tie the knot.
The content of the article:
Why tie a relationship with a married
What ends such a relationship
Psychologist's comment
Why do we need such a relationship?
The main advice that can be given in such a situation, if the relationship has not yet begun, and from time to time you only get unambiguous hints - run away from this man, where your eyes are. Very often, it all starts with the thought “So what? Just have fun. "
Most likely, this recommendation will never be implemented, so before you start a relationship with a married man, you should carefully weigh the pros and cons.
Women, rushing into the pool with their heads, rarely think about the consequences. But everything is very simple. What do you get from this relationship? The initial euphoria, the flowery period is beautiful.
Most likely, you will become better looking, your mood will improve with each SMS received - the standard development of the situation for any novel. However, every night your man will go home to his wife. What will you feel at this moment? Do you want a few years to be, in fact, one, hiding behind a supposedly existing relationship?
Married men rarely leave the family. You must be clearly aware of this. Some of these novels last for years, and the man considers it the norm. You can take his position, listen to the stories about the unfolding family life with understanding. But you should always be responsible for what happens in your life.
If you are comfortable in this relationship, the man really makes your life better, helps and supports, perhaps this is what you need in this life period. Here we omit the talk of morality, because if you have already decided to start a relationship with a person who is not free, they are meaningless.
If such a relationship only sucks the energy out of you, it is strongly recommended to gather the will into a fist (even if love seems to be unearthly and last) and strike the person out of life. Before that you can try to talk to him. Ask how he sees the development of your relationship in the future? The classic answer “We are with you and so well” will say it all for yourself.
Of course, any woman wants to be happy and loved, only sometimes forgets that sacrificing herself, enduring deception for this is not necessary. Remember only one thing: a man will be with the woman he loves. He will not look for excuses, excuses, to ask to wait a few more years.
Is everything so bad?
In relations with the married one can find certain advantages. For example, if you are not ready yet to arrange your own family life, and the free men around you by certain parameters do not suit you.
In this situation, there are certainly many advantages. You do not have to spend time preparing dinner and washing socks, since these and other duties belong entirely to the legitimate spouse.
If a man is rich and successful, he can significantly help in resolving financial issues and contribute to his career advancement. It happens. Getting the attention of a man, liking someone you like is great. If you do not expect the man to divorce, you will give birth to a triplet and will live happily ever after, perhaps this is the right option for you. There should be no illusions.
Disaster after disaster
There are women who are just pathologically attracted by married men. One, second, third unsuccessful experience that teaches nothing. Why? Such a woman should be some time alone and understand herself. Perhaps she is not confident enough in herself - she is afraid that she will not be able to develop relations with a free man normally.
Perhaps she believes that these feelings must necessarily be tested with difficulties (but they do not pass). Perhaps she is overly amorous and impulsive, which is also superfluous. There are many reasons, but they all lead to the same thing - a broken heart and a pillow that is wet from tears. That's because you need to take care of your heart and carefully choose the person to whom you can trust it.
As a rule, women who are dating a married man are of two types:
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Predators, who, in fact, do not care whether a man is married or not. They know exactly what they want, and do not allow unnecessary emotions, respectively, do not cry because of unfulfilled desires. - Unconfident girls who cry in such a relationship will have a lot. There will most likely not be another scenario.
Predators, who, in fact, do not care whether a man is married or not. They know exactly what they want, and do not allow unnecessary emotions, respectively, do not cry because of unfulfilled desires.The second type of women really want to wish them to take care of themselves and begin to respect and appreciate themselves. In other words, love.
Happy finals?
Many women believe that a man leaves his family, leaves his wife, and sometimes children for another future. But let's be frank: the chances of this are scanty. But that's not the point. If he is really capable of this, then nothing will prevent him from doing the same, leaving you in a couple of years (perhaps with a baby). If a man talks about a series of mistresses who somehow could not please him, do not think that you are exceptional.
Sooner or later the moment will come when the relationship with a married man will end. Of course, it is better if you become the initiator of this. And to do it better immediately, as soon as you have ceased to arrange something. First, self-esteem will not suffer, and this is very important in this case. Secondly, if you have already agreed to the role of a mistress, then certainly you should not tolerate unworthy behavior or inattention.
In any relationship, both a man and a woman should invest the same amount of effort, time, and emotions. However, in a relationship with a married man there will always be an imbalance - you will never get from him in full what you expect and how much you give yourself.
A man will always have more from this relationship. Therefore, think carefully about what you want in life? If the answer is: a house, a reliable man, children, then an affair with a married man is definitely not for you.
Victoria, Arkhangelsk
