Female tantrums - the phenomenon quite famous and common.
Let's try to figure out where they come from and what to do with them.
What is hysteria?
Hysteria itself is a form of neurosis that has mental manifestations.
Its main feature is that it is characteristic, first of all, for women.
Last scientists attributed to the fact that women have a noticeable increased estrogen levels in blood.
Hysterical psychopathy is a mental illness that manifests itself in vivid emotional outbursts, abrupt changes in behavior, most often accompanied by a torrent of tears.
How does a hysterical woman behave?
Female hysteria manifests itself in different ways, it is quite individual. But there are two main types:
- Hysterical seizure. It is acute and may arise as a result of a situation unpleasant for a woman or some harsh words. In this case, the woman begins a very rapid expression of emotions. She screams and cries, sobs, stamps her legs, waves her hands and generally gesticulates abruptly. At the same time, her consciousness at this moment is clouded, so often women can very vaguely remember what they were doing at that moment and what words they said. Such seizures can be repeated quite often.
- Hysterical behavior. In the movements and words of such a woman a lot of imagination and theatricality. She makes up some stories about her life, very emotional and unpredictable. This is not the seizures that occur periodically, but a lifestyle.
Causes of Female Tantrums
Tantrums do not actually appear from the air and do not arise from scratch, as men often think. The most common reasons include the following:
- Improper nutrition. Most women are desperately trying to lose weight, even if they are already slim. Constant malnutrition and following incomprehensible (and most often harmful) diets lead to the fact that the diet lacks the necessary elements and vitamins.
And constant restrictions put moral pressure on a woman.
- Overwork. Nowadays, women often have many responsibilities: career, chores, cooking, taking care of children and husband - and this is not a complete list. It is not surprising that sooner or later the extreme point comes, which is expressed in hysterics or nervous breakdown. For her, this is just a way to shake off the accumulated fatigue.
- Problems in intimate life. Irregularity or the complete absence of sex, as well as dissatisfaction, immediately affect the emotional state of the woman. Negative emotions accumulate and then find a splash in the form of hysteria.
- Lack of time for yourself. Often a woman is so immersed in various matters and tries to take care of everyone, which completely forgets about herself. Not paying attention to herself and her needs, she pushes herself into a corner. First, mood swings begin, flashes of unreasonable aggression, and there it is not far to hysterics.
These are only the main, most often encountered causes of hysteria, but in reality there are many more.
Do not forget that they can be individual.
What should my husband do?
Many men think that female tantrums arise on the empty place.
Therefore, when confronted with it, they simply get lost and do not know what to do.
And, more often, just ignore the situation, hoping that everything will pass somehow by itself.
This is the most wrong tactics behavior. A woman, of course, is likely to calm down, but her hysteria will last much longer. And then she will remember for a long time how you ignored her and ignored her.
So how do you behave if your wife has hysterics?
- Do not demand an explanation from a womanwhy she cries or swears. It is unlikely that you will hear a reasonable argument. Just because a woman does not control herself at the moment.
- Help her throw out the accumulated emotions. Let him cry in your arms or speak out.
- Show empathy and understanding. Do not blame, do not scold and, especially, do not shout at her.
- Be attentive to what she is saying. In her words - the clue.
More often than not, in a fit of a woman, they themselves call the cause of their hysterics, and even say that they now need to calm down.
It remains for you to listen and to respond correctly, depending on her words.
How to deal with seizures?
If the female tantrum is frequent, then this alarm bell.
It is not enough just to listen to your chosen one.
We need to take serious measures. So if you want your woman not to be hysterical, or at least do it extremely rarely, then you should listen to the following tips:
- Give her a break. Let him meet with friends or go to a beauty salon. Better yet, take the whole family and go on a vacation somewhere for a week.
- If there is no opportunity and time for rest, then at least help your woman around the house. Take on some of the responsibilities, such as walking the dog, washing dishes or cooking.
- Take a closer look at your woman’s lifestyle. Maybe she again went on a diet or even starving? Try to help her unobtrusively to establish a balanced diet.
And do not forget to give her compliments so that she stops thinking about the flaws of her figure.
- Arrange the romance. Maybe you had sex so long ago that it's hard to remember? Arrange a pleasant evening by candlelight, massage your woman with fragrant oils, and then retire together in bed.
- Offer her to visit a psychologist. Only it is very important to do this carefully. Explain that there is nothing bad in this and the help of a specialist will only benefit her.
- Ask a woman about her condition.. Perhaps the whole thing in physiology. In this case, she should go to an appointment with a gynecologist, who will assign her competent hormone therapy.
Do not ignore the problem. It is very important to discuss this point. to support.
It may be that the woman does not even notice how often she actually becomes hysterical. Your task is to tactfully open her eyes to this and offer your help.
How to calm my wife?
If your woman has become hysterical, then the most important thing is not to give in to emotions and keep calm.
Do not shout at her in any way, so you only aggravate the situation.
Here is a rough plan of action to calm the woman:
- Stay alone with her. Now the extra eyes are completely useless. Therefore, ask everyone to leave, or go to a place where no one will disturb you.
- Offer her water. Pay attention to the woman's behavior and offer a sedative drink.
- Keep away all breakable items., as well as those that may pose at least some danger.
- You can try to do an unexpected act.to bring a woman to feelings. For example, you can clap your hands abruptly, splash cold water on it, or pinch it. Take her by the shoulders and slightly shake.
- Ask her some unexpected question.to switch attention to something else. For example, "What is the motto of the Lannisters in the Game of Thrones" or "What was the last movie you watched with Johnny Depp?" Most likely, she unwittingly thinks and distracts from what bothered her.
- When she becomes a little calmer, Try to find out the reason for her behavior.
If the conversation fails, just hug her and do not let go. She will burst out, cry, swear - do not let go.
- Continuing to hold the woman in his arms, say affectionate words to her, try to calm.
- Sure to listen to her carefully until you see that she calmed down.
How to treat?
The treatment of hysteria is mainly carried psychotherapeutic nature.
You will need to enroll for a session with a psychotherapist who will listen to her, identify the causes of this condition and suggest a method of treatment.
The important points of treatment also include the harmonization of her relationship with a man and the normalization of intimate life. For this follows go to a sex therapist.
You may also need to visit a gynecologist, who will check the hormones and suggest, if necessary, drugs for their replacement.
If we talk in general, then most often the treatment of female hysteria is aimed at eliminating situations that traumatize her psyche, as well as strengthening the nervous system.
To do this, appointed by the sleep mode, good rest, balanced nutrition, moderate exercise, relaxing therapy or physiotherapy.
Pills
Sometimes the radiation of female hysteria includes sedative therapy.
In such cases, prescribed drugs that have all or part of the natural composition.
These can be plain valerian or motherwort, grass collections, and Novopassit, Corvalol, Persen, Afobazol and others.
In more complex and neglected cases of female hysteria, as prescribed by a psychotherapist, it is possible hospital treatment, as well as taking strong drugs, such as tranquilizers and antipsychotics, which have a more serious effect.
Prevention
Undoubtedly, any tantrum best warnwhat to do to eliminate its consequences. For this it is necessary to carry out prevention.
If your woman is notable for heightened emotionality, then try not to provoke her into a conflict and not create situations for which she may respond with tantrum. For example, if a wife is jealous, then you should not give her reasons for jealousy.
Do not put all family matters on her. Help a woman, take care of children, clean or cook. Give her the occasional opportunity to spend time with her friends.
Try at least a couple of times a year. ride together to rest. And don't forget to go out every weekend: meet up with friends or take a walk in the parks.
Support and listen to her. Give advice. Speak nice.
And do not forget to show that it is for you. the most beloved and generally the best.
And then hysteria will be extremely rare in your relationship.
Women's hysteria - A problem that cannot be ignored. Help your woman cope with this ailment and harmony and peace will definitely come in your relationship.
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