What is interesting second date? Feelings sparkle with bright colors, there is excitement, unpredictability. However, unlike the situation at the first romantic meeting, the nervousness is noticeably weakened. And this is good. A quieter state allows you to take a sober look at your pair. How to invite to the second rendezvous? What to talk about it? How then to say goodbye, depending on whether the person liked or not?
How to invite to the second meeting
What is best not to do is to make the next date already at the first dinner. Of course, sometimes you want to immediately voice or get an offer to meet again. However, this can turn into problems. For example:
- feelings suddenly cooled down after the meeting. A typical case when emotions are included only if a person is nearby. He leaves the door - and sympathy for him disappears with him;
- no time to think. The evening can be wonderful, but when he comes home, he / she suddenly realizes that there is something negative or something that you cannot get along with in your partner;
- interlocutor may not share feelings. It seemed to one that everything went well, and the second barely restrained himself, so as not to look again at the clock;
- meeting with another / another was more interesting. If there are several candidates for the role of boyfriend / girlfriend, the next one invited to a date may seem to be the best.
What remains? One out of two. Or overcome unpleasant awkwardness and cancel the scheduled evening, risking to run into contempt or resentment. Or go to a meeting out of pity, fear of explaining, insulting, and then the whole evening looking for a couple of compromising materials, allowing to end the conversation.
Both situations are unbearable, so it’s best to avoid them by delaying the invitation.
Then it will be possible to schedule a rendezvous over a telephone conversation, through social networks or in person (if people often come across each other). Next are a few rough phrases that can be used to suggest the next date.
“I liked that dinner / concert / museum / club so much! With you, everything went much more interesting. Maybe repeat the other day? ”.
“You are very intrigued by me and I want to know you better. How about a second date? ”.
“Last time you did not tell about your favorite memory. And I want to know what it is. Would you like to share it at another pleasant meeting? ”.
What to talk about on the second date
Surely all the questions about work, hobbies, pets and other open topics have already been asked. Then what can you talk about?
Last meeting
- Recall what the other person was saying last time. Deepen inquiries. A person will be pleased by the fact that his words or preferences are remembered.
- Share emotions that arose when meeting.
- Laugh at the nervousness that tormented you before the first date.
- Explain what you liked about the person at the last meeting.
If the previous time he / she did something, said (a) something incomprehensible or unpleasant, it is better to discuss it immediately. A polite conversation in a calm tone will help solve the problem, avoid misunderstandings, learn more about a yet unfamiliar individuality.
Plans and goals
- Find out life priorities (family, career, self-development, etc.).
- Ask a question about where he / she would like to live (in a small city or in a metropolis, at home or abroad).
- Directly ask about the main goals for the future.
- Ask to imagine that the relationship has already formed. Find out about your place in the plans of the individual.
What is desirable not to touch at all is in-depth financial issues. Getting to the bottom of specific amounts, concentrating on the current and potential earnings of someone who is barely familiar is a bad form.
Memories
- Ask to tell your favorite childhood memories.
- Share the most exciting / scary / happy moment. Ask to tell the same.
- Play “I never ...” (Russian version of the game Never have i ever).
- Talk about school or student years, especially funny incidents.
Remembering funny incidents, funny incidents is a pleasant thing. What can be said about the hard periods that I want to quickly forget. In such situations, it is important to closely monitor the reaction to the question and carefully switch the topic if the person clearly does not want to stir up the past. The second conversation is not yet suitable for discovering secrets and affecting old wounds.
A typical mistake - a story about the former relationship in detail. You can call a common cause of parting, but it would be good not to touch the dirty details. Excessive admiration for the ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend also looks suspicious.
Family
- Ask about the personalities of the next of kin.
- Learn more about the relationship between and with parents, brothers, sisters.
- Ask about the personal ideal of the family (who is the leader, who works, how many children).
- Inquire about opinions about civil marriage and legalization of the union.
Not everyone is lucky to be born in a happy family. Opponent can be hard to talk about their kindred squabbles. It is advisable not to put pressure on the person with such inquiries in this case. If gazebo himself wants to talk about difficulties, it is important to listen to him, without interrupting. And after a while it would be good to change the topic to a more joyful one.
How to complete the rendezvous
If a person liked
- Unlike the first meeting, the second allows you to invite to the next date immediately. However this does not meanThat this right can always be used. If the partner is in doubt, with the invitation it is better to wait, using a pause for thought.
- The relationship proposal is already at this stage - taboo. Of course, there are couples who, after just a couple of hours of socializing, decided to be together, got married, and then “live happily ever after”. However, if you look at the statistics, the number of such marriages is scanty. In addition, many such a move seems strange.
- To say goodbye coquettishly, jokingly, or seriously, to clarify right away, where and when to meet next time, is all about the situation. Only advice: it is better to show sincerity and speak from the heart. Openness attracts and helps to immediately see if a person is suitable for something serious.
If something went wrong
If you understand that you don’t want or fail to build a relationship with a person, with the “verdict” it is advisable not to delay. Otherwise, the partner will build castles in the air, because silence gave him hope.
Denying hard. Awkwardness, guilt. However, it is better than deceiving and taking time of each other. In addition, it will be much easier to disperse after the second meeting than after the fifth to tenth. How to do it:
- thank you for the date, briefly emphasize the merits of the interlocutor;
- bluntly, but in a polite manner, to say that it will not work;
- Be sure to give the reason for the decision;
- apologize for taking the time, attention;
- wish good luck in finding the right person and leave.
To speak softly, calmly, respectfully, without charge, but openly, avoiding any ambiguity.
Let the second date is not as memorable as the first, but it opens the interlocutor from the new side. If the features noted in a pair like, intrigue, it is good. If not - the second meeting fits perfectly into the concept of the latter. The previous rendezvous has become the most memorable, romantic and emotional, but the latter rightfully deserves the title of the most informative and useful.
