How to stop loving a guy, even if you really love him

It is always very painful to part with the person you love. However, in life there can be situations in which parting is inevitable or very desirable. Is it possible to survive parting with a loved one with a minimum of losses? You can, if you try to get rid of the remnants of feelings for him.

Consider a few situations how to stop loving a guy when it is really necessary to start a new life and be happy.

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Unrequited love
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If the guy is a drug addict or an alcoholic

Many Russian women all life endure the fact that they live with dependent people. They pity them, even when all the appliances and valuables in the house are sold to buy alcohol or a new dose. You should not bring yourself to such situations, it is necessary to understand in time that it is impossible to live with such a person. This can be dangerous: in the process of breaking up such people cannot cope with themselves, which provokes strong aggression even on the closest people.

Before you finally part with a young man dependent on drugs or alcohol, assess the severity of the situation. If there really are feelings between you, and the guy wants to recover from his addiction, try to help him. Help to find a good clinic where he can undergo treatment. If you really love this person, then you need to try to save him.

If a person does not want to give up his destructive habits, then you still have to end this relationship for its own sake. How to stop loving alcoholic or drug addict to be happy again? It is necessary, firstly, to pull oneself in and try not to feel sorry for him or for oneself. It is necessary to think that you are doing this for your future: for the sake of creating a family, the birth of children, for the sake of a new life. Continuing the relationship with a deeply addicted person, you automatically give up all of this.

Another way is often to remember all the bad actions that this person committed towards you. This option is good at the initial stage, when only a strong emotion will help to cope with feelings, and anger will work fine. But then you shouldn’t talk about this person badly all your life and be angry with him - all negative emotions harm you first and foremost. Release your anger as soon as you realize that there is no feeling left.

If a guy doesn't love you

Quite often you can meet couples in which the girl is in love very much, and the guy only allows herself to love, using all the positive bonuses of the relationship in anticipation of true love. Of course, these girls are very sorry: they lose time on unpromising relationships when they could be open for a new true love.

How to determine that the guy does not love you? If most of the items are present in your relationship, then you need to think about why you are wasting your time with this person:

He rarely calls himself.
He can go to a meeting with friends without warning you, and not pick up the phone later.
He did not introduce you to his friends, although you meet more than six months.
He does not drive you anywhere (neither in the cinema, nor in the cafe - nowhere), you only meet at home.
He never told you about love.
He does not fulfill his promises and your requests.
He does not help in difficult times.

How to stop loving the guy who is indifferent to you? Answer him the same. Just think: you are not imposing your society on people who are indifferent to you, so why is it better?

Look at yourself from the side: forgiving all his misdeeds, looking at him with a loving glance, while he flirts with another woman, you degrade your own dignity. Sometimes it is better to be proud and free than humiliated and offended in a relationship.

If a guy left you / changed / left for another

Sooner or later, every woman faces such situations in her life, so no one is immune from them. Of course, your reaction will depend on many factors: on the strength of your feelings, on the degree of seriousness of the relationship, on his behavior during parting.

Many women in such situations are trying with all their might to return their loved one, forgetting about their pride and dignity.

If you intend to part, then we offer you a few recommendations on how to get rid of feelings for the guy who betrayed you:

Give him back all his things that he ever left in your apartment.
Remove his photo from the computer and phone so that there is no temptation to cry over them.
Do not call him. It is difficult, but you need to try to do it in order not to rub salt on the wound, but to let it heal.
Go out and see your friends more often. Positive communication always has a positive effect on a broken heart. Who knows, maybe tomorrow you will meet a new love? Sitting at home, you can not count on it.
Find a new hobby. Sign up for a dance or fitness, start to learn a foreign language, go to the second higher education, do handicrafts. Plunging headlong into a new hobby, you can at least for a while throw it out of your head image.
Weep. Do not hold back your emotions, throw them out at least once. But you shouldn't get involved in it in order not to become completely limp.
Ask friends and acquaintances not to tell you about who they saw with him and what news he has. Explain to them that you are no longer interested. Reminders of an ex-boyfriend can cause a new wave of sadness, so try to protect yourself from them.
Start chatting with young people on the Internet. It is not necessary to go on dates, you can start only with a simple correspondence. Attention men are always nice. In addition, flirting provokes the production of endorphins, hormones of happiness.
Read good psychological books on how to deal with emotions after a painful breakup. Advice of specialists will help you to get out of a depressive state with minimal losses.

Update

In order to change your attitude towards a person, you need to change yourself. External changes can have a stunning effect on your world view and help you to leave past feelings in the past.

Start with a hairstyle. Scientists have proven that our hair accumulates all the energy of the past. So get rid of negative energy - trim the length. Today there are many options for trendy and stylish haircuts. Updating your hair, you can think about the new hair color, which can change you beyond recognition!

Looking at your updated reflection in the mirror, you will experience emotions of joy and inspiration, expectations of something new and exciting.

New hair color and hairstyle will require changes in the wardrobe. Try new things for yourself: if you used to prefer a feminine style of clothing, try trying on ripped jeans and big shoes. It is likely that you will find them attractive.

Errors

Many girls, trying to stop loving a guy, make rather trivial mistakes. We advise you to familiarize yourself with them, so as not to waste time and nerves on it:

Walking on fortunetellers. No one will ever be able to "dry" or "dry" people from each other. Today, a lot of trusting ladies come across the bait of charlatans; do not enter their number, be sensible.
Attempts to permanently erase his image from memory. That you will not succeed: amnesia can not occur at will. It is necessary to change the attitude towards memories, and not to erase them. Think of what was, in a positive way: it's good that it happened to you, making you wiser and stronger.
Self-flagellation. Often, after a painful breakup, girls start blaming themselves. It is not right. One person is never to blame for relationships because they are built by two people. If a guy left you, it does not mean at all that you are stupid, ugly or hysterical. Just feelings could gradually run out, this could happen to you.