The most dangerous lie can be considered deception of oneself. The worst thing is that a person misleads himself not consciously, but because he simply cannot understand himself. He goes through life in the wrong direction, risking at any time to give up on himself and other people. Such a person very often works in an unloved job, lives in uncomfortable conditions and feels like a stranger in his own campaign. Still, how to understand yourself? How to find your vocation? How to understand which way to go? Answers to these questions have long been given by professional psychologists and wise people. This article contains the most effective recommendations.
Can't figure yourself out?
If these thoughts are increasingly beginning to visit someone, then he really needs to engage in introspection. Positive at this point is at least a slight insight. It turns out that something is wrong! This is better than empty wandering in a hopeless direction.
Indeed, self-deception is so dangerous that it is difficult to recognize. But, if the problem is found, you should proceed to its immediate solution. The following are tips on how to understand yourself and save time to realize your true goals.
Accept yourself present
The problem with most people is that they find it difficult to accept themselves as they are. Perhaps not cool enough or rich, unable to sing or dance beautifully, do not understand anything in business, etc. Many, with stubbornness, worthy of a ram, are knocking on closed doors that they will never open. Often a person cannot accept himself, not only because of his convictions, but also under the onslaught of people around him.
For example, the hereditary general in the third knee refuses to listen at all that his beloved grandson wants to become a musician. Here is a child from childhood and learning to play war games, although this is somehow not convincing for him. Over time, he even begins to believe in his army vocation. Until the next war. And there, he and his colleagues already quickly realize that grandfather was wrong. Only unlikely to have time to fix it. And if the grown-up kid still took the time to understand himself, then perhaps he himself would become famous, and the platoon would not set up.
Create a personal diary
Sometimes it is more interesting for someone to read about the fate of other people than to live your own life. In this case, you can use a little psychological cunning. Just start your diary, where to start recording all your thoughts, plans and events in life. When the number of records has accumulated, you should start reading it from the very beginning, as if about another person. Look at your own life from the side. After all, it is sometimes much easier to understand oneself by presenting oneself as an independent spectator than in one’s own skin.
Remember your childhood interesting and dreams
Since in the early years of life, a person is maximally sincere with himself and other people, then childhood memories can tell a lot. If the obsessive phrase “I cannot understand myself” sounds in my head, you can rewind time a little back, until the period when everything was more definite and understandable. It was bad or good, light or dark, like or dislike.
EIf you dreamed of becoming an astronaut, you did it with all your heart. And though, having matured, you already soberly estimate that the astronaut will not work, you can still find yourself in the adjacent direction. From a graphic designer who draws spaceships, to a musician who sings about the conquest of the stars. The main thing to highlight the very "highlight" from which the heart begins to beat faster and make it your "guiding star."
I really want to compare my own, and I can, in order to understand the presence of those qualities that are necessary for the realization of a cherished goal. For example, if someone wanted to be a prince on a white horse, then at least he should get a horse. Well, the pedigree, it is already more difficult. Although, for money, you can at least become a direct descendant of Julius Caesar himself along the grandmother’s line. And with the corresponding entry in the birth certificate.
Take advantage of tips over
Even as adults, people have a weakness for being able to pass on responsibility for their lives to others. On parents, on wives and husbands, on heads and public figures. Well, in the most intimate questions - to the higher forces, with which, as many believe, can be contacted through all sorts of fortune telling and predictions. Quite an interesting way to understand yourself and not to engage in long-term self-analysis - astrology, palmistry, Tarot cards and other occult features.
Thoughtlessly follow their advice is akin to a crime with itself, but to see some kind of clue is real. Still, these teachings were formed by the smartest representatives of the human race. They contain knowledge about psychology, human physiology, his most intimate desires and hopes. So, the general patterns that allow predicting certain moments can be very plausible. And this is at least some guideline in life, if you lost your course and absolutely do not know where to go next.
Analyze your hobbies
Many people cannot understand themselves, because they do not hear their inner voice. He is muffled by the moralizing of others, fashion trends of the present, obsessive public opinion, etc. Because we sometimes choose the wrong job, go with the wrong friends in the wrong places. In general, we live an exemplary life of a stranger. How to understand yourself in this case? The answer is simple - a hobby! In their hobbies, most people are still free.
It is in them that we can build the occupation for which we have a vocation. It may be completely different from our exemplary social appearance. There are cases when huge men collect butterflies or make origami. Just do not advertise it, because this hobby weakly fits into their brutal appearance. At the same time, it is precisely immersing themselves in their favorite activity that they truly find themselves.
How to understand yourself? The question is not the most difficult! It is more difficult to have the courage to hear oneself and accept the answer, even if it is very unexpected. After all, the further into the jungle the stray traveler leaves, the more radical the maneuver must be taken to get out of them. There are really not many who are capable of such an act. But this is a topic for another publication.
