Getting married, every girl probably truly believes that this marriage will be strong, long and, most importantly, happy. But, alas, life sometimes presents unpleasant surprises. And one situation can cause a beloved husband to suddenly become a person towards whom a feeling of hatred appears.
The content of the article:
What are the causes of hate
Some tips for women
Psychologist's comment
Causes of Hate
Hatred of a loved one does not appear just like that, it always has its own reasons, and each one has his own. Let's try to understand what exactly can provoke such feelings:
- husband changes;
- the husband insults and humiliates his spouse;
- the husband raises his hand to his woman;
- the husband is indifferent to his beloved;
- the woman lost interest in her husband.
Perhaps the most common reason that almost every woman will say: "I hate my husband" - is treason. Yes, it is very painful to realize that a loved one has betrayed you. And no matter how much he repents of his deed. After all, the past can not be changed, and this means that a loved one will forever remain a traitor, even if you forgive him or not. And, as we know, hate feelings are often born to traitors.
And there are those husbands who do not follow their own words and actions, and therefore can afford to offend, humiliate or even hit their spouse. At first, we will tolerate it and forgive our man, since love sometimes closes our eyes to such actions. But sooner or later, patience ends, and gradually we begin to realize that next to us is not the beloved man, but the tyrant, whom we no longer only hate, but also fear.
Male indifference is also able to bring a woman to hate her lover. Imagine the situation that you are always trying to please your husband in everything: you indulge with surprises, prepare amazing dishes, create coziness in the house, and he doesn’t seem to notice all this. At first, you hurt. Perhaps you try to talk heart to heart, explain that it is unpleasant to you. But what if the husband again shows indifference? Then the insult is replaced by anger, and then completely into hatred.
Yes, it happens that a husband treats a woman well, but for some reason she cools off to him. Perhaps she is tired of relationships, she does not like her husband's habits and his behavior. And the longer she stays with him, the stronger the woman begins to feel lonely, and this makes her dislike her husband.
Tips for women
I once told myself that I hate my husband. Realizing this, I want to leave, put a fat point in the relationship, go in search of a new love. But is care a solution? Not! After all, no one will guarantee that the next man will be better. It is possible that his shortcomings will not awaken the feeling of hatred sooner or later. But you don’t want to endure such a man next to you, do you? What to do?
First, try to calm down and analyze the whole situation. What made you hate your husband? Maybe you are tired of problems at work or have you had a quarrel with your best friend?
Of course, these and many other factors can make you see everything in black. It seems to you that everyone is opposed to you: strangers are rude, cars, as luck would have it, spray you with mud, even rain, and then, according to the law of meanness, it starts at the wrong moment, completely spoiling your makeup and hairstyle.
After all this, it is not surprising that the closest people will annoy you, because now you are simply not able to adequately use your emotions, and even an ordinary passerby can cause you to hate you.
To find out if you really hate your husband, or if it just says hurt and irritation in you, try to imagine your life without him. What emotions will you experience if he disappears forever from your life? Fear, sadness or indifference? If emotions are negative, then the situation can still be corrected.
Why don't you talk to your husband? After all, if you feel hatred for him, then the relationship has serious problems. And the fact that you keep all the anger in yourself will not make it any easier for anyone. Try to trust him, perhaps your man will understand everything and agree to change something so that in the future you will not have negative emotions towards him.
And, of course, do not rush, because situations often occur that a woman in a fit of anger breaks off a relationship, and then when she loses her husband forever, she realizes that she made a mistake. Don't let emotions ruin your life. Care is advisable only in cases where the thought of divorce does not cause you negative feelings ...
Personally, I still sometimes tell myself that I can't help but hate my husband, but for the time being, I'm not going to divorce him. I am afraid to regret my act, because now, despite all the anger towards him, he is still the best compared to other men.
So why rush? Let the time pass, which will allow me to sort out my feelings, and which will put everything in its place ...
Regina, Omsk
