At all times a woman was a muse for a man, a source of inspiration and motivation.
But modern ladies often forget about it, and instead of prompting to action they simply saw and reproach their chosen ones.
How to make a man want to move forward and conquer new peaks?
What is it for?
The main task of the woman in a pair - it is not easy to recognize the potential in a man, but also to show it to your lover.
Motivation aimed at creating a personality allows you to “charge” a representative of the stronger sex with new sports, professional, financial, intellectual, spiritual and personal feats.
Thanks to the motivation, the wife / girl can get what she wants from her chosen one, but make it very elegant and beautiful. A man will catch fire with a goal and will go right through on his own will, and not at the behest of his companion.
How does motivation work?
Motivation - this is a psychological process, the mechanism of action of which is to initiate and maintain targeted actions / behavior of a person.
It begins with a goal that has emerged in the head as a desired guide. Further, motivation develops through actions performed by a person in order to achieve a goal.
The principle of work of motivation is quite simple and consists in the formula “need - ability to achieve - action - goal achievement”.
The state of rest for a person is the most comfortable, as it allows you to save energy and protect yourself. In this way, man is prone to inertia. And motivation acts as an impulse that allows you to break through the comfort zone, fear and laziness.
Motivational impulse can be:
- internal (based on a clear awareness of their desires and individual values);
- external (formed from external data arriving in the information field of a person and causing a certain response).
What is different from manipulation?
Motivation and manipulation - completely different in nature concepts, although they are often used to achieve seemingly similar goals.
Manipulation is always fraught with deception, suppression of personality, classical pressure and blackmail. A woman who manipulates her chosen one seeks personal gain.
Wherein the process of achieving its goal is not interested. For example, if a lady-manipulator wants a fur coat, she will be glad to be equally happy if her husband / boyfriend takes a loan, earns money, goes into debt or sells valuable things.
Those. The representative of the stronger sex is interested only in the selfish satisfaction of their own needs.
Motivation is not related to lies, profit and pressure.
A woman may indeed be interested in improving the standard of living through a man.
But at the same time she is interested in the fact that the man has achieved progress through personal growth and achievement.
In this case, it is important for a motivator woman to man enjoyed his success and wanted to move forward, and did not go in the wake of the blackmailing companion.
Myths about how to motivate men
Spouses and girls, dreaming of motivating their men to great deeds, make common mistakes and take false statements on faith.
- If a woman had a few / many relationships, she definitely learned how to motivate men. This is a rather controversial assumption.
After all, even if she is seeking the desired gifts / gestures / actions from a loved one, a woman can develop relationships in a destructive scenario.
Perhaps earlier, she simply resorted to using blackmail, tears and gimmicks.
- The most effective way to motivate is sex.. Sex can not be a way of motivation in the long term. If a man is interested in a woman, he will try to please her. But the real reason for moving forward in this case is not his desire to achieve the goal, but the prospect of intimate relationships. Sooner or later, the desire will weaken or fade away altogether, which means that the female “trick” will stop working.
- Motivation is always good and positive. If a man is mired in self-destruction, laziness and degradation, positive attitudes will be powerless. Do not write off the method of "carrots and sticks." Negative emotions and a slight blow to self-esteem are able to lift from the couch even a staunch fan of football and TV shows.
- To motivate a man, you have to promise him something in return.. If a woman motivates a man with any prize or benefit, then she simply makes a deal. Under the condition of true motivation, the representative of the stronger sex perceives his goal as a reward. He gets pleasure from his actions, rather than overpowering himself for the sake of encouragement from his wife / girlfriend.
- To motivate a man can only beautiful and stilted speeches. This is how professional speakers work.
But it’s not at all necessary for the wife to stand in front of her husband on a chair and recite a memorized speech. Wake up the desire for feats and other ways.
Techniques
The most correct and logical way of motivation - love. If a woman cares about her lover, supports the family hearth, fills life together with warmth and affection, the man will be ready to move mountains and get a star for his chosen one.
But if a man is going through hard times, lost interest to the eternal race for success or just relaxed, you can resort to using various techniques of motivation.
On making money
How to motivate a husband to make more money?
Discussion of ideas
Woman should not sit away, expecting monetary results from a lover.
After all, she, as a powerful source of energy, can support and charge a man.
And for this you need show sincere interest to all his ideas, discuss plans and cheer the chosen one. But to condemn ridiculous ideas is not worth it, because then a man will be ashamed of his thoughts and feel insecure.
Cannot provide assistance
it totally ineffective strategy. Some women get a second job, desperately save and pull on their family. They think that in this way they give the man time and opportunity to perform exploits.
But contrary to their expectations, the man does not become a millionaire. It simply turns into a houseplant stuck in a comfort zone and losing motivation.
Why achieve something, if the beloved herself can provide life? After all, nicer relax and let it go. And over time, it becomes not a shame to exploit your chosen one.
Trust as a basis
If a woman doubts the decisions of a man, she conveys uncertainty in their own actions and chosen one.
Important to broadcast calm and faith that the beloved will be able to adequately provide for the family.
In this case, the representative of the stronger sex will simply justify this trust, motivated by the firm position of his woman.
Ability to accept gifts
If a woman does not know how to accept expensive gifts and money, a man quickly loses motivation to make money.
After all, for a representative of the stronger sex, it is very important to receive thanks and delight in response to the “booty” he brought home.
Why compete with other men, experience stress and take risks if a woman demonstratively pays for herself in a restaurant?
And how to be in situations where the wife scolds her husband for wastefulness after buying an expensive gift? The need to ensure and delight her beloved immediately disappears on her initiative.
For success
How to motivate a guy to succeed?
"Stroking"
It is important to stop any desire to shout at the husband / boyfriend, saw him and scold him.
Instead, start praise him for every step towards the goal.
Even if this step ended in failure, it is important to show the man that his attempt was noticed and appreciated.
But it is better to restrict yourself to a simple compliment or praise, without turning to flattery. Gradually, such "self-rated strokes" will help a man to take the right course to achieve success.
"Example"
Perhaps the man does not even think that he could succeed. And from the lips of a beloved woman, the words about the need to develop seem offensive. After all, the beloved openly says that the present state of affairs does not suit her.
Wise woman will show the elect a positive example but will do it very carefully. You can give a biography of a successful businessman, offer to watch a motivating film together, invite your loved one to speak with an authoritative specialist in his field.
The appearance of a successful man will provoke any representative of the stronger sex to compete and take concrete actions.
"Self-development"
Some relationship able to kill men potential.
If a woman every now and then persuades her lover to soak in bed instead of taking a step towards her dream, it is very difficult to resist.
Well, if the chosen one also cares too much of his boyfriend / husband, in parallel, drawing him into useless leisure, over time, even a guy with ideas will turn into a passive homebody.
Woman must show motivating example. For this you need to find a hobby and invest in self-improvement.
You can learn Chinese, dance hip-hop, do needlework or learn a new profession. Next to the active woman, the man himself will want to perform feats.
On deeds
Men do not understand hints, so it is necessary to speak directly and honestly. If a woman wants a man to do something, she’s should mark your desire. And do it better without aggression, reproaches and tears. The desire of the beloved is already a motivating factor.
A woman can help a man not only as a muse, but also as an adviser. Do not be afraid to recommend a man the right direction.
After all, sometimes it is the spouse or girl who can soberly assess the abilities and potential of a man, without exaggerating or minimizing his abilities. Relevant advice will push the hero to commit the act.
Delight - Another effective way to motivate men.
The reason for admiration can be current merit or courageous deeds committed in the past.
When the chosen one realizes that he has already “accomplished the impossible,” decide on the act will be easier.
Everything is good in moderation. Motivation should be dosed. Do not turn family life into training on personal growth. Otherwise, any heartfelt words will lose their power, turning into an empty sound.
Do not forget that motivation alone is not enough for great accomplishments. A man also needs resources, an action plan and the right moment.
Therefore, if the chosen one has already achieved success and has great potential, you should not be disappointed in him in moments of apathy and indifference. Everyone has the right to rest and break. A full respite will allow you to accumulate strength for a new breakthrough.
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