"I hate people and cannot work in a team. I dislike society, as a stranger, or as members of my family. I don’t need friends. Anyone’s presence, empty talk, other people's emotions are just annoying." Does the above apply to you? Or do you just perceive others indifferently, slightly with contempt and avoid communicating with them? In any case, if such thoughts express your lifestyle, most likely you are a misanthrope!
Is misanthropy good or bad?
What is the name of hate for people and people hating people? So, we will sort everything out:
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Misanthropy - alienation, mistrust and opposition of oneself to society, rejection of other members of society, extreme degree of individualism; - a misanthrope - a person who avoids other people, is indifferent to this fact or, on the contrary, enjoys a sense of superiority;
- Mysandria / Misogyny - Dislike only males / females;
- Misopedia - hatred towards children.
Misanthropy - alienation, mistrust and opposition of oneself to society, rejection of other members of society, extreme degree of individualism;Normally, misanthropy is simply a character trait of idealists who despise humanity for weakness, ignorance and other unsightly qualities. Such an individualist still has close and like-minded people, but this is a very narrow circle, which is not so easy to get into. From all others he shields himself with a wall of mistrust and rejection.
Such people often realize themselves in creativity, deeply despise not only in themselves, but also in others such evils as cowardice, hypocrisy, etc. They do not harm others, but all colleagues and friends know that without an important reason, this person is better not fit
It is bad when misanthropy begins to go beyond the normal range. In this case, hatred of people is expressed in cruel deeds, stinging jokes, rudeness. Sometimes such a worldview can be a background and one of the manifestations of a mental illness, for example, schizophrenia, psychopathic personality disorder.
To understand the depth of the problem, you need to consider the situation as a whole and analyze the degree of emotional reaction in relation to society. Indifference is neutral, zero, hatred is already a minus sign. We strive for positive emotions, which are so necessary in order to live in harmony with ourselves and those around us!
Cause and effect
You never asked yourself the question, why do I hate people? The main reasons for contempt for the whole human race are as follows:
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Your intellectual development is higher than that of others, therefore you have difficulty in communication. You do not understand the emotions and "everyday joys" of others; their goals and achievements seem petty and amaze with their simplicity. After all, you are in a completely different plane. - If you were harassed in the past in a school or other team, they rejected you and did not understand, then surely misanthropy is your armor, which protects your subtle mental organization, moral principles and worldview from other people.
- Broken dreams, lost illusions or betrayal of a loved one can be the answer to the question: "Why do I hate others?" You no longer want to feel the pain of disappointment.
- You do not love yourself and project this feeling on others, because what are they better for?
- The black bar was delayed, fatigue and hopelessness do not allow to live a normal life. You just can no longer ignore the stupidity of colleagues, friends, squabbling neighbors, everyone annoys you. Misanthropy only develops, but can gain momentum and destroy all relationships with others. Urgently need to change something!
Your intellectual development is higher than that of others, therefore you have difficulty in communication. You do not understand the emotions and "everyday joys" of others; their goals and achievements seem petty and amaze with their simplicity. After all, you are in a completely different plane.No great thing can be realized without interaction with other people. The introduction of new technologies, the construction of roads, buildings and much more occurs through joint efforts. Moreover, hatred is dangerous - it destroys you from the inside. Every day you encounter other people, so you need to change attitudes towards them for your own good.
How to stop experiencing negative to others
Even if you work remotely and have the opportunity to avoid daily communication with colleagues in the office and travel in public transport, one way or another, other people are present in your life. It is not necessary to love everyone and live in "rose-colored glasses", but with a negative attitude towards others it is necessary to fight. How to stop hating people? The following recommendations will help to cope with emotions that destroy your personality:
- Stop counting others worse than you.
Yes, it is possible that an alcoholic neighbor is not at the same level of development with you, but in another apartment there lives an academic who will surpass you in terms of intelligence and awareness. Humanity consists of many individuals and can not be vicious, because ordinary people build houses, explore space, extract oil and create beautiful canvases and music. And among our contemporaries there are geniuses - Stephen Hokking, Steve Jobs, Grigory Perelman and many others. How do you know, maybe the screaming kid from the house opposite - the future great mathematician?
- Change contempt for pity.
The addict is weak and worthy of pity, the quarrelsome neighbor has become so due to difficult life circumstances and problems with the nervous system, annoying yard boys are unhappy, because their parents do not have enough time and resources to direct their energy in the right direction, etc. Think in this vein, change the thought: "I hate people" to "I am so sorry for you all."
- Forgive others around their weaknesses and unsightly deeds.
Forgiveness is a manifestation of inner strength and maturity. Instead of resentment and hate, analyze in detail why the other person did so. How would you behave in his place? Be higher and wiser, learn to forgive the mistakes of others.
- Develop empathy.
Learn to empathize. It is not easy if you do not have a natural inclination, but it is possible. Get a dog, help those you despise, sign up for a volunteer organization. "Why do I need it?" - you think. To change the world, you need to go on the other side of the wall that you have built between yourself and others.
- Be kind to others.
Politeness, a smile and an open attitude towards people is the result of hard work on oneself. No one forces you to become a patron of the arts for someone or solve other people's problems. Try it and you will see that a kind word costs nothing.
What if you hate people? Change the world and become better, stronger, wiser! Each of us is faced with a lot of difficulties in his life path, why complicate things with mutual contempt? What happens if everyone becomes a misanthrope? I assure you, the end of the world will come early! Let's develop tolerance in ourselves! Do not forget the wisdom: "Every man fights in a battle of which you know nothing. Be polite always."
