Sometimes an awkward pause occurs in a conversation with a man, especially on the first date.
How to be? What to ask a man on what topic to talk? The article provides examples of questions and ideas for conversation, which will help to know each other better.
Also reviewed a list of topics that are better not to zastragivat when communicating.
The reasons for the lack of common themes
“I don’t know what to talk about with the boy,” “There’s nothing to talk about with the guy”: why and what to do?
To understand the reasons, it is necessary analyze the situation.
It all depends on the timeduring which you are dating. We will consider two stages of relationships - the beginning and the serious relationship.
If you just started dating (first-second date), the reason is simple - no common interests, hobbies. You have nothing to discuss, since no points of contact were found. At this stage, your task is to find them.
To do this, take an interest in hobbies, activities, work guy. If there is a match with your hobbies, choose one and build a dialogue about it. For example, you both like foreign movies. Therefore, you can start a conversation about new products, favorite movies, actors.
If you you meet a long period of time (from six months), then perhaps you have already discussed a lot of topics and got to know each other well.
In this case, you need to bring the drive, the novelty in the relationship - to engage in fresh common activities.
A trip to nature, a picnic, going to the movies, going to the theater, it all depends on common interests and hobbies. The main thing - do it together.
What can I talk to a guy?
What can you talk to a guy about? Psychologists and pikapery will give some recommendations.
When you walk
What to talk to the guy on a walk:
- On the architecture and interesting places of the city. Ask about the surrounding situation: in what places he visited, where to go. This is not only a reason to hear a story about an interesting place, but also to understand whether a guy is active socially, how often he chooses to rest, to have fun.
- About pets. Walking you can often meet the owners walking their dogs. This is an excellent reason to start talking about pets, if they have a guy and how he generally relates to pets. Good attitude towards animals and the surrounding nature is a good sign. If a young man has a pet, you can ask about interesting cases, about the animal itself.
If the guy responsibly cares about "our smaller friends", then he is likely to be reliable in the relationship.
On the first date
What to talk about on a date with a man:
- What is keen on? Men care about their hobbies, hobbies. And therefore, even if his favorite thing does not coincide with yours - you should not criticize or make fun of it. Hobbies - one of the best topics for a relaxed conversation on the first date.
- Where to study? If the guy is a student, ask at what school. It will also reveal his interests. If a guy does not just attend classes, but burns with a future profession, this is a big plus. It means that your interlocutor is purposeful, disciplined and with independent thinking, once he chose his favorite profession.
- Where does work? Here you need to ask a question with caution. Some men are concerned about the issue of wages, cars and other material things. There is a suspicion about the mercantile spirit of the girl. Therefore, on the first date, it is better to inquire about the nature of the work, whether he likes it or not, about some funny events, relationships with colleagues.
- About childhood. Early childhood and school are full of adventures, interesting stories. The second point - you can easily touch the topic of parents.
It is important to understand what kind of relationship a guy has with his mom and dad, as this also reveals his personality.
- About sport. Does the guy doing sports in one form or another (gym, jogging, horizontal bars). Here you can learn about the presence of bad habits (alcohol, smoking). If a young person pays attention to physical development, is well-groomed, follows hair and clothes, then he knows how to take care of himself, respects himself and his health.
With husband
The range of topics for discussion with my husband is huge - you can say how about simple things (like cinema, going to nature, accidents at work), and more serious, associated with long-term planning.
- About life. About the arrangement of your home, the discussion of future purchases or interior upgrades.
- About serious purchases. These include repair, car, apartment, and more. They require careful thought and discussion.
A man is pleased when his opinion is considered and it has weight in the deliberative process.
- About parenting or planning children. If there are children - about which school to send to, about future education. If the children are only in the plans - about the future moments of upbringing, about the attitude towards punishments, instilling a love for sports, science, about thematic circles.
With the former at the meeting
If you met an ex-boyfriend, then you shouldn’t have intimate conversations, since he might think about renewing relationships.
If you split up peacefully, you can ask about his new successes at work, in school. Ask friends or parents.
That is to have a simple friendly conversation.
Not recommended remember the past, blame him for the mistakes made.
If you still feel offended, then it is better to just greet each other, say a couple of phrases and disperse on a neutral note.
A list of questions
What to ask a man when communicating? The most important thing - not just ask a question, but fully develop the conversation. Do not jump from topic to topic, often with questions.
Otherwise, the conversation will be like either an interrogation or a frivolous dialogue. It is better to touch on 4-5 topics, but to talk about them longer than to sort out 20 questions superficially.
The list of potential issues can be huge, so we have compiled simplified pattern of patterns, for example, for direct communication or correspondence in the network:
- Direct question. For example: “Do you like rock music?”, “Do you play sports?”
- Question-relation. A more accurate format allows you to indirectly find out the information: “What do you think about smoking?”, “What do you think about trips out of town?”
- About relationships and girls. Examples: “Do you like puffy hairstyles?”, “What feminine qualities are important to you?”, “What attracts you most to women?” In this case, the task is to clarify the attitude towards women in general, and to themselves in particular. For example, you do not like aggressive makeup and appreciate the natural beauty. Then it is worth asking questions based on this. Directly you do not ask about yourself (for the guy can dodge the answer or say something so that you like it), but talk about the girls in general terms.
Communication topics
How to find a common topic for conversation?
Interesting
Interesting topics for a conversation with a guy:
- About travel. Ask where he went, what cities or countries he visited. What is new learned from trips, which saw the sights.
Surely recall the pleasant events, which he hastens to share.
- About interesting places. What places he often visits. Does he love theater, museums, cinema? Where he prefers to relax - in nature, at home or in a cafe. As relates to parties.
- About past experience. Everyone has a fascinating story from the past. As an option - you can ask a question about your friends, how they spend their time and what they do.
Serious
If you have a long-term serious relationship (6 months or more), then it’s time discuss a shared future and its planning.
- About the future of relationships. Does a man want to start a family, children? As he relates to various aspects of education, as a whole applies to children.
- About life. Where you plan to live, how to rent an apartment or what to change in the current one.
- About the ambitions of a guy. How is he going to develop, whether he plans a career. If a man remains at the same level for a long time and does not particularly like his profession, then he is not reliable.
An active man is always striving for growth, advanced training, looking for sources of additional income and capital accumulation.
What not to talk about?
What can not talk with men, boys and boys?
- About the former. For the first date - taboo topic. If he himself is interested in your past - suffice it to say that the relationship was. Categorically you can not affect the past sex life, and especially to compare the guy with the former. This topic strongly beats the ego of a man and can form a negative attitude towards you. Also, do not like asking about the girls he met earlier and why he broke up.
- About earnings (especially on the first date), about money, about housing. A man might think that you are meeting him for financial reasons. It is not recommended to be interested in what expensive purchases he makes. When we first met the topic of money superfluous.
- About friends and relatives in a negative light. A man reacts sharply to a negative opinion about his friends, parents and other relatives. He lived next to them for a large number of years, and if he stayed close, he appreciates and respects them. Also, the guys do not like it when the girl pulls the blanket over herself and requires too much attention, limiting the pastime of the guy with the old company.
- On the suitor. If other men are claiming you, you shouldn’t talk about this guy. Moreover, if you have firmly decided to be with him, then it is necessary to clearly and clearly let the others understand that you are busy.
If a man possesses self-esteem and self-confidence, he will not tolerate boyfriends winding around the girl.
- About religion. And other intimate aspects of the guy's life. The worldview, values, view of the world was formed in his life, and therefore a man devotedly relates to his convictions.
- On the past mistakes of men. If you meet for a long time and the man was wrong with you, then you shouldn’t remind him again about the mistakes, blame him. Men tend to immediately solve the problem, and if it is solved - it analyzes the experience, conducts work on the mistakes and no longer recalls the past. Pointing to failure demoralizes the guy.
- Compare a man with others. For example, “Vasya got a promotion” or “Lena's boyfriend bought her a new smartphone.” If you love a man and want him to grow up in a career plan, you can say this directly, with care. But not setting the example of other guys. Comparison does not motivate a man, but on the contrary, annoying, and his attitude towards you can deteriorate.
Using the questions and topics for discussion in the article, you can not only keep up the conversation, but also reveal the character and personality of a man.
This will allow him to get to know him better, and also to decide whether he is close to you as a person and whether it is worth developing relationships.
What to talk about with a guy:
