Even from school, it becomes noticeable that all boys fall in love with some girls, and no one pays attention to someone at all. Later this attitude is transferred to adulthood. What is the secret? What kind of girls do men like the most and what can be done to be interesting for them?
Some might think, “Why is it necessary? Let me love the way I am. ”But therein lies the problem. In this world, no one is born perfect, and if you do not work on your character, you get a sad result. You can check it simply: with whom it is more pleasant to communicate - with someone who is willing to exercise patience, self-control, takes into account the feelings of others, or with someone who is “as is”? Usually such a phrase serves to justify the reluctance to engage in themselves.
The benefits of change
The benefits of the changes will be only if they are not ostentatious. False behavior is always noticeable. Someone may cheat for a while, but then the unsightly qualities become obvious, and the person feels deceived.
In order for the changes to take place inside, you need to make a conscious effort. To acquire some kind of positive quality, such as generosity, you must first think what will be good if you show it, and what will be bad if you are greedy. Then you need to keep in mind the goal - to show generosity during the day. Over time, this will become a character trait. The same applies to other qualities.
What is worth working on and what to consider? Of course, much that concerns tastes depends on a particular man. But there are factors that most healthy men look the same.
Appearance
This is what immediately comes to the mind of women who want to please. They want to look better, and this is natural. Beauty is the first thing men pay attention to. To some it may be a shame - but what about the rich inner world? But thoughts about the inner world disappear when an untidy girl with a dirty head and bad breath is in front of her eyes.
There is another extreme - women who turn their appearance into a kind of cult. Such an attitude to beauty leads to obsession with oneself, and this no longer attracts, but repels. If a person is overly focused on himself, this may indicate internal insecurity.
Respect
About half of young men and 70% of adults think that respect is the most important thing in relationships. They often put it even higher than love. How will such respect show?
A woman who respects her man will listen to him carefully. She will not be tempted to constantly correct or tug him. The same applies to discussing his shortcomings with friends and flirting with other men.
Men love to be praised. This serves as an incentive to do something for your beloved. Respect will manifest itself in the following way: a woman will talk more about the fact that her man is doing well, and much less about what he is doing wrong.
It is worth respecting the fact that he loves. Do not make fun of his hobbies or hobbies, even if they do not like. This may be sports, computer games or car repairs in the garage. It is necessary to refrain from caustic remarks about this. If these classes began to take too much time from him, it is better to say about your feelings without conflict overtones. For example, instead of: “Again you are with your stupid toys!”, “I miss you. Let's do something together? ”
Positive attitude
One of the popular women's fun is to complain and criticize. But it is unpleasant for anyone to listen. You can fight this with a positive attitude. Try in every situation to find something good. Is his mom coming? Well, you can give them the opportunity to talk separately, she missed her son. It should even encourage her husband to reduce mom in a cafe. There is no doubt that he will appreciate this, and his nerves are in place.
Another offensive situation for women is to notice that the man looked at the other. Usually women are instantly offended. But this is not the best way. If such a case is a single case, do not give it much importance. If this happens often, you can kindly ask: "What did you notice on it?". If he is ashamed to say something, this will be a better lesson than accusations and offenses. And if he says that he has paid attention to his shoes, his hairstyle or his friend, there is no need to inflate a scandal from this. Girls often do not believe that men pay attention to something in girls without vulgar subtext. But it is so.
In general, it is very disappointing if bad motives are attributed to you. If you constantly blame the man for lust, you can permanently push him away. Or he will really start to think he is.
A positive attitude will help support your man in a difficult moment. To show him that even when everything goes awry, there is something good. For such a sunlight in life, many are ready to fight. And it is more pleasant to communicate with a person who is smiling and calm, and not with someone who is constantly dissatisfied with something.
Do not expect too much
Novels and TV series impose the image of an ideal man who always guesses the thoughts, feelings and desires of his girlfriend. But the reality is very different from the fairy tale. Thinking guys is very different from the female. For example, men can perceive two times less information than a woman. Therefore, one should not be offended when in the evening he cannot concentrate on the story of his half. This does not mean that he is not interested, just his brain is not able to perceive information, it is overloaded.
Subtle hints - another misconception of women. Male thinking is characterized by an almost complete lack of intuition. A girl may feel that her friend is bad, even if just talking to her on the phone, men are deprived of this ability. Therefore, if a girl wants to hint at something, it is better for her to say this directly.
So, to make men want to be close, you need to remember simple things:
- balanced attitude to appearance
- respect for your man,
- positive attitude
- reasonable expectations.
Working on yourself is not only an opportunity to be attractive for a man. This is a chance to really become better, and therefore, like people and yourself.
