The basis of romantic relationships are the feelings that people have for each other. It depends on them how durable the union will be and whether it can bring happiness. Sometimes people with horror realize that the feelings once burning in their hearts have disappeared, and the partner does not just cause adoration, he is annoying. To avoid this, you need to know how to distinguish love from love. Moreover, it is important to understand not only your feelings, but also how real your partner’s feelings are.
Own feelings
It seems strange, but sometimes a man himself cannot really understand what he feels - especially when it comes to women. This can be especially difficult because under the onslaught of emotions it is difficult to take a sober look at reality. Therefore, it is useful to know what characteristics distinguish falling in love.
Fulminant appearance. Feelings can become very strong in a short time, sometimes just a few hours. For love this is not enough - it takes time to truly know a person, learn to trust. Even in order for the brain to connect the production of oxytocin, a hormone responsible for trust, with a specific person, time is needed.
Anyone who is passionate about is different in a hurry - to quickly develop relationships, move from one stage to another. Impatience is a sign of frivolity.
Love is characterized by feelings of incredible power. All-consuming and all-forgiving. The object of adoration is beautiful with all its flaws, if such were accidentally discovered. Conflicts are resolved with a kiss.
Love manifests itself differently. Feelings develop gradually, therefore they cannot be strong right away. The man is not blinded: he sees the partner's shortcomings, and does not wave them off. He is looking for, so that can put up with the worst manifestations of a loved one.
When falling in love, everything flies around. The habitual way of life gets off, but who cares? It often happens that lovers do not have a sense of reality. Love enters a person's life gradually, making it better.
In love passes as quickly as it began. And emotionally, a person is ready for a new relationship almost immediately, sometimes in a couple of days.
Determining the depth of your own feelings on your own is not easy. When in love, emotions take precedence over judgment, and the part of the brain responsible for criticism is turned off. Therefore, to honestly determine your feelings, you may need third-party help. It is better to consult a close friend or parents. Sometimes a variant with a written answer to some questions helps, for example:
- How long have I loved this man?
- What features especially appeal to me: appearance and manners, or inner qualities?
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How do I imagine a joint future: a careless fairy tale, or a life with its problems and their solutions? - Can I take a critical look at the situation?
- Do these relationships make me and my life better?
How do I imagine a joint future: a careless fairy tale, or a life with its problems and their solutions?To give an honest answer can be difficult. However, increased emotional excitability is not a sign of deep feelings.
For example, if the first thought that comes to mind: “We will never quarrel!” Means that the feelings are superficial, it is falling in love.
In relation to itself
Proper assessment of feelings towards yourself is a good way to protect your own nerves. There are difficulties in this process: it is impossible to fully understand what the other person feels. But it saves the fact that such feelings can not proceed without manifestations, and if you do not go right in the wake of emotions, you can soberly assess reality.
Sincere assurances of love can not be a reliable indicator. A person can easily confuse the concept of love and passion.
Understanding the essence will help the goals of the person. Love is the desire to make people happy every day, and falling in love once for the rest of their lives. Because of this, the pursuit of bright effects.
True love is alien to selfishness. The one who loves thinks not only that he needs this person. The lover himself wants to be needed, and makes efforts for it. Although true love is unselfish, it does not mean that a loving person will tolerate ingratitude.
The principles of definition are the same: the time during which the feelings arose, their strength and ways of manifestation. For example, if a person claims to have seen a girl a couple of times, and is ready for anything for her, most likely, this is a romantic hobby.
What can prevent to correctly identify the feeling
When it comes to relationships, you can hear “listen to your heart.” But to understand how deep the feelings are, first of all, the mind is needed, which means conscious efforts.
Opinion surrounding. Although it is wise to consult with a close friend, it makes no sense to know the opinions of all your friends. Everyone will give advice from his point of view, not knowing all the details.
Fashion trend - compatibility tests. Better to trust what is known exactly about the person. The result of the test can not be a real indicator: goals, education and values are different even for those born under the same zodiac sign, for example.
Although falling in love and love is in many respects opposites, under certain circumstances and efforts, a passion can grow into a more serious feeling.
