Parting is a rather painful process for both partners, regardless of who initiated it. Often we endure long and painfully when we are abandoned, but it is no less difficult for us to tell our partner that feelings have passed, and the time has come to end the relationship. If the question arose how to part with the guy, then everything is already weighed, the decision is made and it remains only to talk. How to do it right?
How to part beautiful?
When you were a couple, trusting each other and making plans, it’s somehow mean and unfair to just send an SMS saying that everything is over. If your relations were sincere, you treasured them, then no matter how difficult, you need to gather strength, meet and talk. There is only one reason for which such a conversation (conversation, not a message) can occur by telephone - if you are in different cities now and you simply cannot meet. In other cases, take time to meet with the person who previously talked about their feelings. It is also not necessary to meet a person who is prone to aggression and is not able to control his emotions (especially in deserted places).
Men are different. I would not want the guy to act inadequate situations, began to persuade you, threaten to commit suicide, etc. But there are different cases. Therefore, your task is not to succumb to provocations and maintain calmness. The less time you spend together after a conversation, the better. Having said all that they wanted, quickly move away, give him the opportunity to “digest” what happened, calm down.
For those who understand that it will be difficult to pronounce such news, but wants to know how to end a relationship with a guy nicely, there is another way. Write a letter in which you explain everything. At the meeting, you will only have to say the phrase that you break up and give the envelope. Perhaps someone such a method is more suitable.
No hope should be given.
If he offers to remain friends - say that you, of course, agree, but in the near future there will be no meetings. Most likely, you will be helped by his friends, who will surely pull out the poor fellow and unwind and introduce him to a good girl.
Where to go?
It is better not to make an appointment with any of you at home. You can meet in a cafe, or ask your boyfriend to just take a walk - any neutral place will do, preferably, so that it is not connected in any way with your memories. It is better to pick up words for conversation in advance, to fully formulate your monologue. So you will know what to say, and you will feel more confident.
How to leave without offending a guy
Many girls prefer to start a new relationship, and then end the old one. Here you do not even want to talk about how ugly it is. Rather, the question is different: for what purpose does this girl? Basically - not to be alone, not to be bored, so that the former can see how good she is. Any of these reasons can not be a worthy reason to start a new relationship. It is likely that when they begin, they also end quickly (this is a small digression for girls who can’t figure out and figure out for themselves).
If you are interested in how to leave without offending a guy, then you don’t need to do so that the man with whom you had feelings, thought that you just traded him for a better option. It will not add respect to you, and even if the new cavalier finds out about such a method of ending the relationship, then there will also be no high opinion of you.
How to survive parting and not return?
Girls are very emotional, and they can change their decisions several times a day. Therefore, before parting with a guy, write down all the reasons why you decided to do it. You can write and the good side in your relationship - perhaps you still change your mind. If not, it is recommended not to throw away the leaf with all the reasons for the rupture, but to save it. Moreover, it is necessary to write on it not only the item itself, but also the feelings that accompanied it (resentment, irritation, etc.). The more fully you paint it, the better.
What is it for? After a week or two, when the glance accidentally falls on a teddy bear sitting in a corner, donated by a once loved person, a “relapse” is quite likely. At such moments you do not remember the bad at all, but romantic memories do not leave your head. In order not to make a mistake, and not to return to the person to whom it is not necessary to return, simply re-read your list and realize that you did the right thing.
Another difficult moment for any girl - sooner or later, with a high degree of probability, you will meet him on the other. Well, if he is in a rumpled shirt and with a full stomach, and she is in leopard leggings ... but things may be different. Therefore, you need to understand that when you part with a person, you let him go (he didn’t belong to you until this moment), and all his successes in business, personal life, etc. will not be able to cause you to chew yourself and curse the day when you decided to leave.
