Millions of people think about how to start a new life and change yourself, but doing nothing.
Let's find out how any person can be completely different.
Is it possible?
Can a person change drastically?
Is it possible to change your temperament? Is it possible to change your life scenario, fate?
For a start, it is important to answer the question: can a person change so that practically become a different person?
When we live in certain conditions, nothing new happens around us, then there is no incentive for development. In this case, it is almost impossible to change, especially if there is no motivation.
A person lives in his comfort zone. Yes, he has a small salary, an unsuccessful personal life, but he continues to seem to want to change everything, but at the same time does nothing. Leaving the comfort zone is always scary.
Character acts on our actions, goals, motivation - these are established in the process of social development features of the psyche and personality. The basis of character, that which is given to us at birth, is temperament.
It is almost impossible to change the type of the nervous system, although it is quite realistic to learn to act differently, to develop concrete traits.
For example, if melancholic wants to be more active, sociable, then he will have to try and work on himself. Choleric is quite capable of learning to control himself, although this is given to him with difficulty.
Over character traits can also work.
If you are not satisfied with specific personality traits, develop a plan for how to get rid of them.
There is such a theory that we are destined to a certain fate, and we cannot change it. However, the examples of many people refute this theory. For example, people born with disabilities.
They could live on a disability pension and be content with this. But there are those who, despite the difficulties, work, achieve, become famous and respected people.
Part of the script is recorded in us since childhood. Parents, the closest environment instill in us attitudes, life values shape character. Child injuries are particularly affected.
But this does not mean that will have to accept this. In our power to change the scenario prescribed by our parents, we only need to identify what prevents to become successful and achieve the desired.
What can be changed in yourself?
What would you like to change in yourself? Yes almost anything. Want to be more relaxed, learn oratorical skills - go to courses, trainings.
You do not like your quick temper - yoga will help. You understand that the muscles are weak, you are inferior to other people in endurance - why not go in for sports.
In the modern world a lot of opportunities.
And the point is not that we cannot, but that we do not want, we are afraid, we are lazy, we don’t want to leave the usual comfort zone.
But only in this way changes occur.
How to find out what you want to change:
- write your positive and negative personality traits, evaluate what you would like to leave, and get rid of;
- list your achievements;
- write what you would like to achieve, but not achieved;
- think what prevented you from getting what you want;
- who you blame for failures - the outside world, your parents, yourself;
If you can not decide on their own, then go to a psychologist to consult. He will conduct the appropriate tests and help you choose the direction of motion.
Choose a professional coach who deals with the problem of self-development.
Where to begin?
How to change life for the better? Any changes start somewhere. They do not happen by themselves. The exception is traumatic situations when sharp revaluation of values.
Where to begin? Understand exactly what you want to change. Be realistic about the assessment of your personality, achievements and mistakes. Do not be afraid to know yourself. Sometimes we know that we have some deficiencies, but the consciousness does not allow them to be adequately evaluated.
If you can't do it yourself, ask people you trust.
Be prepared for criticism and do not be offended if you hear not what you would like.
Changes are associated with motivation. Set yourself goals: for the sake of what to change, what you want to eventually achieve, in what time frame.
How to change?
Now we come to the most difficult stage: the process of changing one’s personality and life.
Your identity beyond recognition
The manifestation of personality outside - this is our feature. If you know your shortcomings, work on them.
- Radically change your schedule. Write the schedule of the day, remove all unnecessary things that prevent you from achieving the goal.
- Pay attention to the life of successful people: read their biography, find out how they went to their goal, what obstacles they overcame. Be inspired by their experiences.
- Every day, learn something new.
- Change your social circle. The social environment has a strong influence on us, it can inspire or lower to the bottom.
Exclude from your circle of losers, whiners, pessimists.
- Work on your character traits - improve the positive and try to get rid of the negative.
Inner world
How to change internally? Who are you - a pessimist or an optimist, and maybe you consider yourself a realist?
We see the world in black colors, pay attention to the negative, as a result, life is getting worse and worse, and positive events disappear from our lives.
Try to look at the world with different eyes. This is not easy, especially at the beginning.
Wake up, smile. Just smile to the new day., even if your waiting for a difficult job, general cleaning, a trip to a public institution.
Remember - you create your own world.
Do a little exercise: Imagine that there is a light around you, you radiate a radiance into the world, and all people notice it. White, gentle light, emitting kindness, energy, warmth
You will see how your day will pass in a different way, they will start to notice you, make compliments, and your mood will be much better.
Thinking positive
How to change your thoughts on positive? everyday find something positive around you. Let it first be little things. It started to rain - the weather is conducive to relaxation and meditation.
Nakhamili in transport - perhaps the world wants you to pay attention to something or it is a test of your emotional stability. Look at the city with different eyes - architecture, thousands of people rushing to work.
Communicate as little as possible with negative people. Even if you consider them to be your friends - the negative is contagious.
therefore look for those with whom it is pleasant to communicatewith whom you feel easy, who increases your energy, but not takes it.
Positive thinking requires training. At first it will be difficult to look for a positive, it will seem to you that everything is bad. But after three weeks, you will be surprised to notice how the world began to change, and you along with it.
Beliefs
First, decide if you really need to change them. If other people require it, remember, beliefs - features of your personality. Do not change just because it is required by others.
If you want to really change beliefs, then read more, evaluate opinions, facts, look for the right ones.
Lifestyle
It's simple - start doing something right now. Not tomorrow, Monday or from the New Year, but from this minute. If you want to get rid of a bad habit - do it immediately, do not wait for the right moment, because it will not come.
Do you want to get up earlier - get an alarm clock, a little one - put three. To the new regime, you will begin to get used in a few days.
Spend a lot of time on useless classes - just stop doing it now - turn off social networks, remove the TV from the house, stop meeting people who are taking your time and not bringing you good.
Habits
How to force yourself to change your habits? Motivation is what matters.
Answer your question - why do you want to change your habits. Look at the perspective.
If you smoke, think about your health, wrinkles, sagging skin, and problems with the lungs, which will certainly await you in a few years. Bad habits - this is early aging.
You want as long as possible to have a fresh and blooming look, to be active, like the opposite sex - then break the habit right now. The person gets used to the new conditions in about 21 days, you need to hold out for only three weeks.
Attitude to life
Cultivate optimism. Yes, it seems that everything is bad. In fact, there is a lot of beauty in the world. Life was difficult at all times, but now we have so many opportunities that they need to be used.
What gives you your pessimism? You see everything in black and gray. Worried about the health of poor wages, evil people. So start living for yourself. Enjoy life for yourself. Work and achieve for yourself.
Stop complaining. Remember: complainers and whiners do not like. If you want to feel sorry for you, stop yourself. Nobody cares about our problems, but your complaints will be pushed away from you by really standing and positive people.
How to change for the better?
For girl
Girls love strong guys capable of doing.
They prefer those who keep their word, who can be trusted, with whom it is not terrible to go through life.
How to change:
- develop;
- forget the aimless pastime;
- work;
- take time to relax together;
- respect the girl;
- give her time, but do not be too intrusive - attention should not be with an excess, otherwise it will quickly get bored.
The most important thing - be purposeful, do not stop there.
For a guy
If you plan to live with a guy happily ever after, you will need a little work on your personality.
No, you do not need to adapt to someone, stay yourself, but develop your best qualities.
What to do:
- monitor your appearance;
- pay attention to speech - it is desirable to exclude parasitic words;
- be faithful;
- show your love, but not be too intrusive;
- to be self-sufficient, and not to strive to be completely dependent on the guy;
- develop activity, purposefulness;
- find interests that could unite you.
The worst thing you can think of is falsehood and pretense. Stay yourself, develop positive thinking and strive to be active in life.
Real stories of people
There are many examples of people who have decided to radically change their lives, and age is not a hindrance.
Daphne Self 86 years. Glory came to her after 70, when she decided to become a model. Her husband died, the children became adults, and there was a choice before her - like all, to spend old age in front of the TV or live for yourself.
Grant Ashac. He won the cancer and fulfilled his dream - he became a famous chef.
Susan Street is 59 years old. She lost weight after 50 years, and since then in her life began to change dramatically. She was able to survive the loss of work, cancer, became a vegetarian, started a blog and helps other people to change.
Thousands of such examples.
All you need is a push, an awareness that your life is meaningless and wrong. Do not wait for the right moment, start changing from this minute.
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