How to stop being an introvert?
Communication, communication skills occupy an important place in society. Therefore, sociable and open people, as a rule, attract more to themselves than closed and silent ones. The latter, in turn, understand that with such communication skills they will have a hard time in this life, and you need to somehow change your life, open up, become more outgoing, but, unfortunately, it’s not as easy as it sounds. first glance.
According to communicative abilities, psychologists divide people into two types: extroverts and introverts. Extroverts are people who are ready to make contact with the others. Introverts - those who are afraid, do not want to contact people or with a certain group of people.
This article focuses on introverts, namely how to become more sociable. So, first you need to understand who you are: an introvert or an extrovert, or you are a mixed type, for example, with relatives and friends, you are an extrovert, at work or school - an introvert, and vice versa. To find out, you need to pass a special test or visit a psychologist. Both in the first and second variants, as a rule, your characteristic is given, the type is determined, and possible reasons for your behavior are identified.
Top tip for introverts - understand the reason for this behavior and solve problems that interfere with communication with other people. You also need to practice communication. Do not be afraid to look stupid, put yourself above or above the rest of the people involved in the conversation.
Some people behave closed due to speech defects. If you do not like the way you speak, then if possible, you should visit a speech therapist at least twice a week, or work independently at home: read out loud, while trying not to make mistakes while reading, pronounce words correctly, put stress, do not swallow of words. Here the main thing is not the amount of reading, but the practice of correct pronunciation of words.
If you are okay with your voice and pronunciation, only your own shyness and indecision prevent you, then you need to deal with them. It is worth trying to go to acting classes, theater groups, and if you do not have the opportunity to attend them, then the Internet will help you! You can find allies, together it will be easier for you to cope with shyness. You can also get online acting training.
It often happens that people with psychological traumas become introverts. It is important to remember what exactly hurt you, made you reticent, instilled self-doubt and unwillingness to contact people. It is necessary to realize the reason for leaving oneself and to let go of those negative moments that caused psychological trauma. Professional psychotherapists can help you with this. Sometimes you can help yourself without assistance. But for this, willpower, character, self-control, honesty with oneself and, of course, daily work on oneself are necessary.
So let's summarize. How to stop being an introvert? First, you need to start to understand whether you are an introvert or you think (and it happens). And if you are an introvert, you need to identify which one: 100% or mixed type. Secondly, you need to deal with the reason why you became them. Thirdly, work on yourself is necessary: it is the elimination of the factors that prevent you from communicating with people, and a visit to a psychotherapist, various circles and independent work on yourself.
If you want to achieve any goal, it is worth remembering that each person creates the weather for himself, and he is responsible for his successes and failures. Therefore, do not look for an excuse for yourself, do not shut down even more, but get to know yourself, solve problems and live a full and happy life without complexes!
