The sexual revolution, which broke into the minds of people in the last century, created a new kind of relationship for those times. Previously, if a woman was caught with someone in an illegal intimate relationship, the society rejected her. At the same time, there was no such strictness towards men. Now, as an alternative to traditional marriage, open relationships are being offered - this is a bond without commitment.
Why strive for it
To create and maintain a happy marriage requires a lot of effort. Someone is too young for such responsibility, some can not give up a career in favor of the family. It is not uncommon for a person to be legally married to someone who did not appreciate it. Having experienced betrayal, a person may simply not be ready to trust another person. Someone family ties seem boring, burdened with domestic issues.
All these situations have something in common: people want to get physical satisfaction, have a good time with someone of the opposite sex, communicate, but not have such deep intimacy, in which the gap would hurt someone in the couple. In this case, physical betrayal is not always perceived as a betrayal, it is treated condescendingly.
For many, free relationships are natural: quite a few people grew up on the wave of this revolution.
The older generation does not blame young people for their choices; parents can be met who encourage younger children to give free rein to romantic feelings and emotions.
Free or not needed
The main idea of a free relationship: no feelings - no problem. It is believed that an attempt to hold someone will lead to a painful loss, and vice versa: if you do not make efforts, the person will try to be close. In such a pair wins the one who does not develop feelings, and it is impossible to completely eliminate. It is difficult to call happy relationships in which one loves, and the other allows himself to love.
In addition, open relationships require some emotional restraint. It is necessary to manage not to become attached to a person so as not to be jealous of him. Given that the couple does not bind anything but intimate relationships, it can be difficult to resist the temptation to control and check every step of a partner.
Another aspect concerning the senses is how the free relationship ends. There are only two options: a break or a transition to a more serious connection. Being ready for any outcome is almost impossible.
There is an opinion that you need to "walk up" before you start a family. However, the fact that a person changes partners, instead of learning to solve the emerging difficulties, can hardly be called a good basis for marriage.
In addition, it can be difficult to cope with the fear of loneliness. Free relationships do not give any guarantees that this person will be near after a while.
Many people see the idea of a free relationship only as the right to have sex without mutual obligations.
However, obligations can not only be to each other. Although contraception is fairly reliable and affordable, the risk of unplanned pregnancy cannot be ruled out. This situation puts a woman in front of a difficult choice. Get rid of the baby? Educate him yourself? To create a family with an unloved or not loving person, if only the child was born in marriage?
Those who have children should especially think about the fact that their parents decided not to create a serious relationship that would have a negative impact on their emotional state and their subsequent life.
Every person is free to choose with whom and how to connect his life. Someone creates a family consciously, understanding that daily happiness requires hourly efforts, and they are ready to put them. Others marry because it is so accepted, not understanding responsibility, and even more so without being ready to take it upon themselves - and this union becomes a burden for both. Still others are looking for partners for pleasant meetings, trying not to become attached too much to some person.
