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I am nobody or how to stop appearing to be nothingness

I am nobody. Many people pass through me and do not even notice my presence, there are so many opportunities around, and they all avoid contact with me. So many things you want to understand, to do that in my head one mess. How to clearly prioritize and act for sure? Where did the feeling of insignificance come from? When life becomes erratic, and you lose the ability to think soberly - it's time to analyze your behavior. What are we doing wrong and what rake are we constantly attacking?

I am insignificant or how to deal with emptiness

There are so many interesting people around who blows success, with particular excitement. The rest are drawn to them, they want to be invited to their place, they never go unheeded ... and I am an outsider. No one can call me for a month, and when I appear, it will be all the same, for a long time I don’t have feelings of love, but inside of me, like cats scrubbed. I want to laugh so much, but rather, I want to cry from my insignificance. What's wrong with me? Appearance, like, in place, physical data in place, there is time and potential, but nothing happens in my life.

This is nothing like a mess in my head. This is she, because there are so many reasons, facts, complaints. If a person is in a chaotic state, then he may experience sadness, anger, apathy, make a call to others at the same time. But the desire to embrace the immensity turns into a fiasco. How to stop living in such stress and stop appearing like a loser? It is “to appear,” not “to be,” because often a person himself comes up with his status and drives him into a rigid framework.

When you think that you are not capable of anything, and all your actions deliberately turn out to be a failure, you need to stop marking time. There is no need to complain about the circumstances, but it is better to do everything possible to achieve success. Life never loves losers, weak in spirit, who for any reason closes themselves. To throw the thought "I am nobody", it is worth changing your comfort zone to an unusual atmosphere.

When you want to stop all bullying yourself, to acquire a new status - you need to say goodbye to your habits. A weak-willed person gives himself the right to refuse responsibility, has a habit of avoiding undue attention. It turns out that we ourselves avoid the possibility of being on the "happy wave" and standing at the helm of all prospects. Japanese scientists have proven that the first step to any decisive action is sports. He erases any insecurity, and it is precisely because of this feeling that people are at an impasse.

Uncertainty to speak out, speak, go out into the open world, emphasize individuality, take an important task - people refuse to take an active role. Sport hardens not only the body, but also the spirit, which is often lacking. Exercise gives psychological relaxation, which, by the way, saves from that cereal in the head.

A complexed person needs to form a solid character, thanks to regular training. A beautiful body makes you confident, and the brain - ready for any obstacles. Especially sport is useful in nature, when you are not limited to four walls. Jogging, meditation - it perfectly saves you from chaos in your head and puts your thoughts in order.

I'm nobody or real life

Anya is a university student who is experiencing psychological problems. She is considered to be a nonentity, because she does not have such obvious results as her peers. She can not boast of expensive things, travel, training in a prestigious university. The girl reproaches herself for the fact that her friends live separately from their parents and earn their own living ... and she learns like an ordinary teenager and has no merit. And also this Arkady, who was casting for the series and now is being played on TV. They want to always see him in the company, and my name is for the sake of exclusion. How can they be so cool, and I am so helpless?

"I am nobody, because I can not spend a day without the support and my comfort zone. I am offered to leave home to live in a dormitory, but I cannot imagine myself surrounded by strangers". By her size Anya is complete, therefore she is always demanded to be an Instagram model and find a boyfriend. Yes, she had experience when the boy wanted nothing more from her than meeting at once, but this is not a relationship. Porridge in her head from misunderstanding on the part of peers, relatives, lack of attention and some success made Anya a "victim" of circumstances.

In a situation where you do not want to take control of your life, it is important to listen to your needs. Speak out to a person you trust and you have a sincere relationship. To be honest, you are not attractive to others because of your appearance. Here it is important either to value your individuality and respect yourself, or to try to change, if you consider it necessary. You can never make yourself a victim of circumstances and sit back. There are two options - to fight for personal happiness and by all means to achieve success, or further blame everyone for their troubles.

What can be done to reboot your life

First of all - stop! You can not go on the standard path. This is fundamentally wrong, because of this there is no result. To make sense in your actions, you need to pay maximum attention to the results. Set a goal, set priorities and do everything possible for specific changes. The result should be measured by time. I will become slim after six months, start eating right, study English and stop communicating with people I do not need.

What steps can be taken to approximate the results:

  • Find a teacher and trust his advice. This may be a person with a great reputation who will give an independent assessment. There are those people who are neutral and always open to support. They do not condemn, they subconsciously experience the psychology of a person, give effective advice. Among his friends, relatives may be the one who will set an example or direct, but you will have to work on the rest.
  • Be able to plan. Porridge in the head from what arises? Just from the randomness, which scatters all in the far corners. There is a specific idea, for this you need to take such steps and get rid of such habits, I have so much time and resources - this alignment will bring you closer to success.
  • Achieve recognition. We are placed in society, so we can not live without attention. To achieve support, it is important to be able to take responsibility. A reliable person is loved, respected, set as an example and never forgotten. You will not be ignored if you become useful or interesting to others. This is where confidence is required for self-esteem. If it is not underestimated, then others will not even think of you “riding”. If you are naive, then you can just use. It is important to filter the people around you.
  • Invest in your future. You can not build a solid foundation, if not to be one step ahead. How to gradually save for a house? Collect money in a good bank or be interested in the financial market of currencies. How to work in a good overseas company and live in England? It is necessary to persevere in the language and subtleties of the profession. Personal and material growth does not exist without planning.

We are sure that the thought "I am nobody and I have nothing for personal happiness" does not attend you anymore. There is so much potential inside you that you need to work on every day. The results will not take long to wait if you are determined to become a person, and not to be a gray mouse. Say goodbye to your point A and come to point B, where you have become a different person. Realize your strength and move forward without stopping!

Watch the video: Alan Watts - You Are Who You Keep Seeking Lecture (November 2024).