She said “yes”, a new couple has been successfully created. Sounds like a completed mission in a computer game. However, in virtuality, after the phrase “mission completed” the player can turn off the toy. But in life everything is not so - to pause or save progress is impossible. Finally relax - too. How to behave properly in a relationship? How to meet a girl so that she was pleased? What to avoid, so as not to forget about yourself?
How to behave in a relationship with her
Show leadership qualities
What is the real leadership? In the phrase “I said!”, Punching the table and stately facial expressions? Hardly, more like despotism and tyranny. Then what is the answer?
Being a leader = taking responsibility. For safety, for reputation, for feelings. Girls adore when their man:
- does not tolerate pity for himself. Not to be confused with sympathy. “I was tired, doing nothing” and “I was tired because I worked hard” are two different things;
- does not allow himself to whine, be capricious in serious situations. If a guy mumbles sleepily to the alarm clock “morning, you're so scary,” but still gets up to work - that's cute. If he refuses to help carry heavy bags of groceries, because “well, morning is the same,” it is nagging;
- solves problems on his own and can even help his partner. In adequate framework. If she didn’t go over alcohol for the first time and smashed someone’s car, it’s better to think whether such a person is needed at all;
- performs men's household chores or troubleshoots problems in other effective ways. A professional plumber, an electrician, a gardener, a construction worker, a painter in one person is either a utopia, or an actor of “18+” films. Therefore, if the outlet sparks in the house, and the young man does not understand them, he has every right to solve the problem differently - to call a specialist;
- demonstrates determination and confidence. Flood, fire, bankruptcy, gangsters or a spider on the wall - the girls want to know that their elect will not stand aside, but will show heroism, having begun to act.
Show mind
Increasingly, girls are beginning to recognize that the most attractive part of a man is his brain. What basically explains female sexual abuse of this body.
In order to exercise intellectual abilities, it is not necessary to learn abstruse words, read textbooks on nuclear physics and Uzbek cattle breeding of the 18th century. Enough:
- deepen knowledge in areas of interest;
- improve speechits coherence, ability to explain clearly and easily;
- increase resourcefulness, sharpness (logical riddles, rebuses, charades);
- broaden your horizons, learn new things (books, crosswords, movies);
- chat with different peoplethat can teach something.
It is better not to be ashamed to say the phrases “Unfortunately, I am not familiar with this work”, “Alas, I do not know the answer to this question”, “It is a pity, but I have not heard about it”. The ability to recognize a gap in knowledge, the desire to fill it, and not to be clever about the unknown is also a sign of intelligence.
Be careful
Women's ears - erogenous zone. And it's not just the sensitivity of the shells and lobes, but also a passionate love for compliments. However, not all. How to use pleasant words correctly:
- to be diverse. Even the best praise palls if used all the time;
- Do not forget about sincerity. Saying “You have model height” to a girl with the parameter of 1.58 cm means to make her think that this is a mockery;
- pay attention to the little things. She probably already told that she has a beautiful hair and elegant dress. It is better to note her femininity, beautiful line of shoulders or graceful fingers, “like those of an aristocrat”;
- move away from common phrases. “You are very beautiful / sexy / sweet” say everything that devalues these words. “When you smile, your eyes shine like the expanse of a lake on a sunny day” is a rarer kind of compliment.
To develop the ability to find the right words at the right time, it is better to read the lyrics. Especially - Shakespeare's sonnets. And if you don’t get compliments at all, you can just quote the lines.
Engage creative
She was already taken to a cafe and a cinema. And she had already received one red rose or a bouquet of these flowers from others. I want to repeat and be like everyone else - okay. But if there is a desire to stand out from the rest, leaving them in the distant past and full Lozerskoy knockout, it is better to show originality. For example:
- ask about origami lessons and make a bouquet of flowers from paper;
- write her a love letter and send it by regular mail or slip it under the door;
- buy paired things - charms, t-shirts, scarves, pendants;
- use personal talent - draw her portrait, write a poem, compose a melody in her honor;
- make a poster with a dozen / hundreds / thousands of compliments for her, general photos, a description of the best joint moments;
- invite her to come up with a new dish or drink.
Go to the intima smoothly
Even if she almost burns with a frank desire from the first meeting, she still wants courting. To delay in this case, of course, is also not a particularly good idea. But moving on to a new stage too quickly is no less dangerous. Why?
- At first, she will rejoice, because she wanted intimacy herself.
- Later, it will seem that the relationship has become a lot of sex, but too little romance.
- She will start to wait when the CAM guy telepathically guesses about her desire for tenderness and platonic relations. Perhaps in the course go hints, subtle, as the difference between the shades of her foundation creams.
- The guy, of course, will not guess anything. Maximum - notice an increase in her failures in bed.
- The situation is heating up. Tantrums, quarrels, scandals. "You do not love me". Parting.
Why in many cases does this lead to a rupture? Because the man does not understand the sharp change in her behavior. At first she was passionate and insatiable, and after a couple of months she suddenly wanted to become another. But he liked exactly the first version.
In fact There was no change in the girl, she initially wanted to caress, beautiful courtship. However, I decided to play the role of the guru of bed battles to attract attention.
It is better to immediately give her a flirt, compliments and the whole candy-bouquet period so that she can get enough of it. Only after that it will be possible to smoothly move on to the intimate, not forgetting to periodically throw up evidence to her in favor of the fact “we have not only sex, but love”.
Typical blunders
How to behave with her is already clear. It remains to find out what errors are recommended to avoid. Ideally, this information would have to be registered in the army statute and passed from generation to generation through the father's cuffs, forever fitting in the DNA.
However, nothing in the world is perfect. Therefore, to find out about what can not be done in a relationship with girls, you will have to read the following sections. They describe blunders, which are highly desirable to prevent.
Sag
Such a mistake can be made even unconsciously. It happens when you really want something to please your girlfriend, even to the detriment of yourself.
“She likes melodramas, and I love action movies. Do not worry, we go to “Demolished by the wind and sobs”, and not “Strong peanuts” ... And nothing is 48 times, because the main thing is for her to smile ”.
There is nothing wrong in a couple of times to give in the same choice of movie. But doing it all the time is a bad idea. Ignoring their own interests, the individual leads only to new problems in the relationship.
- Your ties are very good, start wearing them.
- Good (I hate ties, but okay, she will be so happy).
- Gather the beard. Like a bum go. And kissing is impossible - prickly.
- All right (eh, only half a year of beard care).
- I do not like your friends. They always drink and make greasy jokes. I have already scheduled you to meet with Olin Tolik. Good guy. Go. ”
- Yes, good, I go (bore, whiner, also Olka knocks about everything).
- You know ... You have changed so much. I loved you before. More so I can not, everything, I'm leaving. ”
- (… )
Forget everything else
More often, this behavior is characteristic of the first months of a relationship. When you want to be with her all the time, and all the men around her are perceived as a potential threat or as future victims. Absolutely everything - even Arkady Fedorovich, 73-year-old dean of its faculty.
In this period friends and relatives suddenly find themselves in the background. At work or in school problems can start because thoughts are always somewhere else. Cast some hobbygiving way to a new hobby.
Such situations are strange in themselves. But it gets worse. When she suddenly says something like:
- "The question is an edge - either I or your friends!".
- “Choose: either you stop going to your stupid football, or I'm leaving.”
- "If you do not go to samba courses with me, I will not go to your bedroom with you!"
When someone suddenly begins to demand to make a choice between themselves and another important part of life, this is a dead end. Demands over time will grow. As a result, the manipulator will take everything expensive, impose ideas and interests, thereby forcing to live someone else's life. If at the same time the person refuses to make compromises, peacefully resolve the dispute, then the question becomes ripe - is there any sense at all to be with her?
Show or encourage selfishness
Relationships are a job for two. If one invests in them, and the second is used only to receive a contribution, such a pair will not go far. A family in which “dad works, and mom is beautiful” (or vice versa) is suitable for jokes, but not for a happy life. It is better to temper egoism and make sure that he is not in the chosen one. For this you will need:
- take care of the feelings, desires of the partner;
- make compromises in controversial issues;
- learn to calmly talk about what is in a relationship does not suit;
- thank your couple for showing care and conflict-free behavior;
- take distinctive views, interests and try to implement them separately.
For example, the guy loves football, and the girl - shopping. Why choose one thing and make the partner give up his hobby? Let everyone do what he likes one by one or with friends.
Let it go
Girls love romance, attention, surprises (not necessarily material). And they want to get it all on a regular basis. If you stop the flow of compliments, dramatically reduce the time spent together, they will not like it. And if the girls do not like something, then often begins what? That's right, tantrums.
Periodically, to pay attention to her, to say pleasant words - not so difficult. But the woman will be pleased. Perhaps she will not even begin to grumble when her lover returns from friendly fishing without any fish at all, but with alcoholic scent. But it is not exactly.
Avoid tantrums
When she, usually cute and funny, suddenly starts screaming, like a Hulk, hitting his little finger on the bedside table - this is depressing. Translating everything into a calm and understandable language, such expression may mean 3 thoughts.
- “Houston, we have problems! I try to give a signal about it so ominously, because while I’m calm, you don’t see these difficulties. Although I have already spoken about them, but you have not responded. ”
- “I do not know how to properly express emotions, so here's a tantrum for you. But it is not out of the blue. Something really happened to me. Not the fact that this is generally related to you or our relationship, but please understand. ”
- “I’m just hysterical and I don’t care about your feelings. My mother, grandmother, great-grandmother and all the relatives on the female line loved hysteria. And I do not want to move away from family traditions ”.
If she suddenly began to talk in a raised voice, it would be helpful to listen to her words. If there is even a drop of logic in her phrases, it is better to correct your “cant” or make out the situation. If not, she doesn’t want to explain anything, just like in principle to make contact, congratulations! This is a rare kind of selfish - passionate, but dangerous, which means it's time to pack your bags.
Usually, understanding how to meet a girl is possible, and how it is impossible, comes with experience. Sly - they are also watching other people's mistakes. Clever - do not wait, when the familiar couple will fail, to analyze the situation and not to repeat such blunders. Why wait and risk running into the phrase “do not go into your own business,” if you only need to read the information in this article?
