How to make friends ice and flame: temperament compatibility

In relationships between people important has many nuances.

Including what kind of temperament they have.

Concept and types of temperaments

Temperament is the properties of the psyche that determine the dynamics of the mental activity of the individual.

For the first time, a typology of temperaments was developed. ancient Greek doctor Hippocrates.

There are 4 types of temperament:

Sanguine. A person who has expressive gestures and facial expressions. If something gets into the field of his attention, then he will react very actively, excitedly. He expresses his emotions violently, and his mood immediately reflects on his face. Differs in the increased vigor and working capacity
He easily adapts to the new situation, switches from one to another. Extrovert
Choleric. Can be described as a quick-tempered, impatient person. He instantly reacts to the situation, as a rule, not even having time to penetrate into it. Unrestrained in emotions. It is more difficult for him to switch attention from one object to another. Choleric persistent and stubborn, has a certain stability, stability in their own interests and aspirations. It can be attributed to extroverts rather than introverts.

Phlegmatic person. On the emotions he is stingy and rarely shows them. Has inexpressive mimicry, slow gestures and movements. Can keep calm, even if everyone around will laugh. Differs calmness and poise, even if it falls on the trouble. He is efficient and energetic, but he hardly switches his attention and gets used to the new environment for a long time. Introvert.
Melancholic Very sensitive type of temperament. It may even burst into tears because of the most insignificant occasion. Differs extremely high anxiety and sensitivity. Poor on gestures and movements, has a mean facial expression and quiet voice. Most often shy and not confident, surrenders at the first obstacle.
Quickly tired, low-energy, easily distracted. Most often introverts.

What types are psychologically compatible and why?

Temperament imposes a direct imprint on human behavior, which means it directly affects the relationships between people.

In doing so, different combinations of types create lead to different interactions.

Consider what types of temperament more psychologically compatible.

Choleric + phlegmatic. Phlegmatic soothes choleric, complementing it in any activity. Due to the different character traits, in any situation they are able to smooth corners and come together to the best result with joint efforts.
Melancholic + sanguine. They also complement each other, which has a positive effect on their union, no matter how loving or working. Sanguine supports melancholic, encouraging him and toning.
Despite the fact that there may be misunderstandings in the relationship, they easily cope with it.
Phlegmatic + phlegmatic. Phlegmatic people themselves are very calm and balanced people, they are generally difficult to ruffle. Therefore, peace and tranquility reign in such a union. Even if problems arise, such a pair can quickly solve them.

Melancholic + melancholic. Although melancholic and vulnerable, but tend to find peace of mind. For this, they are even ready to compromise and concession, if only to become calm again.
Sanguine + Sanguine. Such a union will be very emotional and stormy. But sanguine persons are very quick-witted and ready to give way in order to restore balance to a relationship.

All other combinations also have a place to be, but they have much more nuances and more problematic.

They will need much more time and effort to find an approach to each other and establish some kind of balance in the relationship.

Compatibility

In friendship and business

Business and friendships are also much easier to maintain if you have similar temperaments. Consider for each type of temperament, with whom it will be easier for them to cooperate and communicate.

Sanguine. If desired, he is able to get along with any person. He is able to adapt to circumstances and easily converge with new people. This quality allows them to be friends and cooperate with almost everyone. But the most productive will be the relationship with melancholic or choleric.
Choleric. Their working relationships are best with sanguine. Both types are energetic, which allows them to quickly solve their tasks. If we talk about friendship, then the phlegmatic person who has a calm character will become the best friend for them.
Due to his poise, he is able to cool the choleric ardor a little at the right moment.
Phlegmatic person. Both at work and in friendship for phlegmatic melancholic people become the best partners. And this is completely logical. Melancholic have high sensitivity and softness, and this effect on cold-blooded phlegmatic. Due to this, the latter become more emotional, decide on various actions.
Melancholic. The best friend and co-worker for this type of temperament becomes a sanguine person, who is distinguished by vigor and communication skills. He is able to withstand the pessimism of the melancholic, listen to him and support him.
In business, cooperation with a phlegmatic person will be the most productive, whose calm and slowness will have a positive impact on him. As a result, they will be very thorough in addressing business issues, not performing rash actions and not risking too much.

In relationships and marriage

It is one thing - interaction with a friend or partner and quite another - with a lover or spouse. In the second case, you spend much more time together, and any contradictions and quarrels are perceived much more painful. Therefore, compatibility is much more important.

Studies of various combinations of temperaments in a loving relationship have shown that the most successful marital unions are created by people who have opposite types of temperament.

As a rule, they have similar views on life, have common interests and much stronger attachment to each other.

Consider the various options for combinations of temperaments:

Sanguine + melancholic. A particularly successful union if the spouse is sanguine and the spouse is melancholic. Such relationships are very strong and they suit both partners.
Choleric + sanguine. This is exactly the case when temperaments are not opposites, but, on the contrary, are similar. In such a union, there is one problem: the spouses compete with each other on the question of who is in charge of their family. As a rule, when solving any issues, everyone insists on his opinion as the only true one. But, if they work on their relationships and learn to compromise, the union will be happy and strong.
Phlegmatic + melancholic. This is a very interesting version of the relationship, but it is much more common. Such a pair is distinguished by stability and duration of relationships. However, according to surveys, both spouses rarely speak of a high level of satisfaction from their union. This suggests that in such a family there are often contradictions and there are obvious difficulties in understanding. But both are ready to compromise, only to keep peace and quiet in the family. Such a situation can hardly be called good, but it suits many.

As for the love relationship in which both partners belong to the same type of temperament, such relationships are characterized by increased complexity.

Differences and misunderstandings often arise between them. Therefore, most often such couples break up, and families break up.

What to do with their distinction?

What if my wife and husband have a different temperament?

There are situations when partners pulls each other despite the differences in temperaments.

These are cases from a number of times "and together we cannot, and individually it is difficult."

There are also such families in which the wedding took place very soon after they met, and the partners simply did not have time to get to know each other quite well. And now, when all the features of their temperament came out, don't know what to do next.

If the spouses have different temperaments - this does not mean that they have no chance. Even if they are incompatible. The most important thing in this case is the feelings that exist between the partners, as well as the desire to work on relationships.

It all depends on are you ready to compromise and work on yourselfto keep your family or not. If yes, then first you need to sit down together and discuss what contradictions arise most often and how you can solve them.

For example, in a pair "Choleric + melancholic" first need to be more restrained, especially in his statements.

In turn, melancholic people need to work on sensitivity and vulnerability in order to stop taking everything to heart or at least react less violently.

It will be difficult for both, but if there is a desire - anything is possible.

If spouses are a couple "Phlegmatic + sanguine", they also have work to do.

So, phlegmatic should learn to more openly demonstrate emotions and learn to talk about their feelings.

In addition, they should reconsider the existing conservatism and stubbornness in behavior, to become more flexible.

In turn, on the part of sanguine persons it would be right to learn to take responsibility for their words and promises, and also to be consistent in what they do. Then peace and tranquility will come in their pair.

As you can see, the desire must come from both sides. Only if both partners work on themselves. you can achieve a happy relationship.

The initial compatibility of temperament types can significantly simplify relationships. But, in any case, to a greater extent, everything depends on you and your desire to communicate with this person.

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