Emotional (or energetic) vampirism is a concept that everyone has heard today.
Despite some esoteric in the definition, the phenomenon of energy vampirism quite scientifically describes modern psychology.
Vampires looking for donor victims - ordinary people living among us. Moreover, every man at least once in his life has found himself in the role of an energetic vampire.
Concept
Emotional (energy) vampirism - the process of communication (or other forms of interaction) of people, in which violent seizure occurs energy and emotions of one person to another.
It would seem that both feelings and energy are inside a person and are given to them exclusively voluntarily. However, it is not.
A surge of emotion can be provoked, and together with the release of feelings in a person, inevitably there will be an outflow of vital forces. All this literally becomes food for the energy vampire.
Who are they?
Of course, not every person who causes us emotions (even negative ones) is an energetic vampire. After all, emotions and exchange of energy - the norm of human communication.
Giving emotions, warmth, love to other people, we can feel joy, thirst for life and energy boost.
Talking about emotional vampirism is possible only when, as a result of communication, one person felt a clear deterioration in health, a decline in mood and physical strength, and another, on the contrary, “recharged” and felt a surge of strength and an increase in emotions.
Can highlight Top 5 Energy Vampires (although their varieties are much larger):
- Teacher-controller.
- Narcissistic narcissist.
- Whiner and complainer.
- Provocateur, instigator of quarrels (on the Internet - a troll).
- Critic.
"Vampire" people can quite consciously (and even pass it off as an active stance). But often the "fence" of emotions and energy from other people happens without malicious intent the vampires themselves.
For example, emotional vampires become Small childrenwho behave unreasonably due to age or lack of upbringing.
Older people "shake" energy from the inner circle. The reason is their removal from active life, the lack of full-fledged energy exchange with the external environment.
How to understand that you communicate with a vampire?
It is easy to track that there is an outflow of energy, you just need to be attentive to your own feelings. After talking to an emotional vampire, the following symptoms occur.:
- sharp decline in mood: roll depression, melancholy, sadness, anxiety;
- headache, dizziness;
- weakness in the body, lethargy, decrease (or, on the contrary, increase) pressure.
You can get to know an emotional vampire by using characteristic methods with the help of which he tries to get the “food” he needs.
They deliberately create situationsin which they attract attention to themselves, seizing the conversation and politely getting rid of them is not so easy.
More aggressive vampires can cause a person I kiss a storm of negative emotions: anger, hate, resentment, anger.
Even if an open conflict was finally avoided, such feelings are not in vain, triggering a whole chain of psychosomatic pathological processes in the body.
Signs of
Standard favorite themes and recognizable features of the behavior of the power vampers:
- Criticism, dissatisfaction with one and all, the imposition of discussions of negative events, gossip. Sources of "knowledge" can be any - the Internet, television or the story of the grandmother on the bench at the entrance. The main thing is not the transfer of valuable (and even more reliable) information, but the intensification of claims, fear, anxiety in order to cause an emotional return from the interlocutor.
- Nagging, complaints, stories about how hard and hard life, describing in detail the endless adversity and misfortunes, the dramatization of the most insignificant events. Clings to pity, sympathy. Such victim vampires are not averse to accepting real help, but not in the form of advice on how to solve the problems themselves (they will not do anything on their own).
- Dispute, active imposition of personal opinion. Agree that someone else's point of view has the right to exist, it is impossible for a vampire.
Convince at any cost, despite the resistance of the "enemy" - that is their task.
- Pessimistic predictions regarding any life events, both your own and other people. A gloomy prediction accompanies even the brightest and most optimistic situation.
- Infantilism. The inability to take responsibility for their own lives, the constant accusations of all around in their failures and bitter fate. Popular “scapegoats” are parents who did not give and did not share their love, ungrateful children, the government, bosses, ex-husbands and wives. Permanent search for shoulders and necks, which can be shifted to solving urgent problems.
- Intentional conflict creation, provocation of quarrels, conflicts, even fights. Vampires in this category like to create emergency situations on the roads, reveling in their recklessness.
- Candid narcissism, narcissismwhen a person literally does not give passage to anyone, constantly saying “about himself, beloved”. This kind of vampirism is especially inherent in women, although men are often passionate about it.
The recognizable difference between vampires - they literally "cling to the ear" of the interlocutor.
Reflex tracking victim's desire to leave or stop talking, they can take it by the sleeve, stand up, as if by chance blocking the path to retreat, continue their story with new force, involving in the continuation of the conversation at any cost.
How to protect yourself?
The best (and, perhaps, the only true) protection from the emotional vampire - termination of contact or restriction of communication with him (if it is impossible to completely interrupt the interaction).
If you have determined that you are a vampire (and not an ordinary person who really needs the necessary help), need to act without delay.
If the vampire is not a member of your family, but, for example, a colleague:
- Do not engage in listed issues.. Usually, a person makes such a mistake, experiencing participation and a sincere desire to help the person “in distress”. When you realize that the vampire’s purpose is different, learn to quickly get out of a dangerous situation under specious pretexts — the phone rang, you called to your boss, your stomach ached.
- Express your sympathy politely, but clearly define your boundaries. Many people become permanent "donors" for vampires because of their inability to say no, fear of offending a colleague or just a "good person."
It is better to say two or three times firmly and adamantly that you have no time to hold such conversations than regularly suffer morally and physically.
- Irony and laughter are great weapons against a vampire. They will allow you not to get involved in the problem or in the conflict.
The most humane way to interact with an emotional vampire - give him what you want voluntarily and with love.
This especially applies to situations where family members, friends, that is, in principle, close and dear people, are subject to energetic vampirism.
Effective solution - to express to them my love, sympathy for their emotional pain, to say that you believe in successful resolution of problems.
In this case, do not get involved in the imposed conversation, but quickly cease contact and go about your business.
In the case when you encounter energy vampires in public places - shops, on the streets, on the bus, the only effective way out is: not to interact, retire as quickly as possible.
Vampires specifically provoke conflicts, behave arrogantly, in a boorish way, with the goal of causing people negative emotions that are their energetic feed.
If you can’t quickly get rid of an unpleasant neighborhood, you need to make every effort to mentally distract and switch attention from a vampire to something useful and pleasant for myself.
How to get rid of yourself?
Periodically in need "Talk out" everyone needs.
Emotional difficulties are familiar to anyone when it seems to be unwittingly, but you “break down” on close and dear people, provoking conflicts and quarrels.
Once in a long stressful situation, which fraught with a constant outflow of energy, a person unwillingly begins to "swing" it from the available sources of "power."
Get rid of your own energy vampirism is not only possible, but also vital (because such "power consumption" can destroy even the closest relationships):
- Realize the problem. Keep track of how and in what situations the mode of consumption of foreign energy is activated.
It is important not to deceive yourself, do not close your eyes to your own behavior. Effectively compile a written list of situations and observations on this topic.
- Try to warn provoking situations. For example, acute irritation causes any questions and contacts at home, if they occur immediately after returning from work. It is better to honestly say to your family that it will provoke conflicts, offer them to postpone the solution of all problems to another time, for example, after a shower, dinner and a little rest.
- If possible, bring the nervous system in order. This will help observance of the regime of the day, sports, walks in nature. It would not be superfluous to go to the doctor. If you manage to cope with stress does not come out - it is time to drink antidepressants and vitamins.
The main thing in solving the problem - to realize the inadmissibility of the violent consumption of other people's emotions and energy.
The refusal of ugly and traumatic behavior for others begins with cultivating a deep respect for the individual, understanding the need to respect other people's borders.
Emotional Vampirism - a common phenomenon. Just realizing the problem is not enough, respecting one's own health requires mastering the skills of quickly recognizing energampiruses and effectively opposing them.
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