Friends often ask how my husband and I, despite the impressive number of years spent together, managed to maintain respect, sincere interest and sympathy for each other. I am happy to share ideas on how to diversify relationships in family life, so that boredom and indifference do not cause separation.
If you really want your husband’s gaze, as before, to shine with admiration and gratitude, you need to keep your spouse in good shape and not let him relax, strengthening and filling the marriage with new impressions.
The content of the article:
Use of family traditions
Romantic trip
Psychologist's comment
In order to make you want to make a novelty in a fading relationship, imagine that there is no longer a partner nearby - this is a strong incentive for action.
Traditions
The foundation of a strong family relationship is family traditions and values, passed on from generation to generation. Children take the best from the family of the parents and carry it into their families, instilling important habits to the children.
There are many good traditions in our family. The main one is joint breakfasts, lunches and dinners, when all household members sit down to the table with delicious dishes. Of course, it happens that someone is early to work, someone is late and does not have time for dinner, but Sunday gatherings are a great reason to gather the whole family.
Enjoying a joint evening tea party, I noticed how pleasant it is for her husband to see everyone together, how important it is to tell about the day lived, about important events and interesting meetings. Regret the offended, rejoice in the lucky ones and find peace from admiring their relatives.
Confessions
When we only got acquainted with the future spouse, each meeting was filled with compliments: we noted all the attractive qualities and did not stint on praise. After the wedding, somehow gradually and imperceptibly warm words became less. I felt that my husband loves me, as before, found confirmation of his love in his views and actions, but longing for beautiful words and insane confessions made me take the first step.
I wrote some pleasurable confessions on sticky leaves and hung them in different parts of the apartment. Little little notes listing the merits of her husband, nestled in the pockets of his clothes and even in the wallet compartments. Then he confessed to me how pleasant it was to find another confession, how warm was the heart and I wanted to give joy in return.
Romance
Dinner by candlelight, rose petals on the marriage bed, a bath full of fragrant foam, calling to relax ... It would seem trite, boring and jaded? And no! To impress the spouse, we had to try and look decent, and fit the situation, and even any acting skills to use. The main thing is that the husband wants to participate in your dramatization and enjoy intimate pastime.
Be sure to take the time to care for yourself: a beautiful haircut, a relaxing massage in the salon after work, a set of tools and skin care procedures ...
Travels
For a long time I could not afford such a rest, and my husband and I were slightly “stuck” in everyday life: children, garden, school, work ... On the long-awaited vacation, we went together. In the unusual atmosphere of relaxation, steadiness and enjoyment of the beauty of nature, masterpieces of architecture and delights of cooking, we supposedly looked at each other again.
It turned out that I still have a beautiful figure (especially in a new swimsuit), and my husband and with all the lust escorted the views of the girl. Such discoveries stimulated us greatly, and we felt young and newly in love. I wanted to surprise with surprises, please each other with compliments and even experiment on a huge elegant private bed.
So this very timely vacation allowed us to fill our family life with new impressions and sensations. We maintained this state by going to the cinema or the theater, to the opening of a new exhibition, running after work in a cafe or restaurant.
Hobbies
A good way to warm up a fading family life is a new hobby. Desirable interesting to both spouses. After all, a passion, for example, dancing, where you will be partners and discover the beauty and passion of synchronized movements to music, or a bathhouse, where you can take your soul away by unfastening your partner with a birch or even juniper broom, brings you together.
But if it was not possible to find a new joint hobby, do not be discouraged - do what interests you personally. An enthusiastic family member not only will not leave the household indifferent to his hobby, but will also cause respect with perseverance and dedication in achieving heights.
Thanks to such simple ideas, I manage to keep the heat of family passions at the right level. The main thing is to understand that any relationship needs to be “nourished”, and you need to try so that the fire of love and understanding always burns brightly.
Varvara, Moscow
