Every woman whose son was born dreams that he become a real man. However, not all mothers know what to do, especially for women raising sons without a husband.
I just want to stipulate that a mother should not replace her father, in any case she should remain a woman, albeit with a strong character, but kind and gentle. Otherwise, the boy will assume that the manifestation of the harsh nature of a woman is the norm, and then you can imagine which sister-in-law is expecting you in the not-so-distant future. So how does a woman need to behave with a child, how to raise her son correctly - a real man?
The earliest age
This man is confident in himself. What to do so that the son grew up like that? The answer is simple - less to scold and more praise. The boy should not be afraid that he will be punished for some kind of wrongdoing, he must boldly learn everything new, let him experiment. Be guided by the principle “Everything is possible that is not dangerous to health and life”.
You need to talk a lot with children and start doing it from the first days of life. Give an example of simple logical chains: the glass was broken because we dropped it or the grass was wet because it was raining. The more you talk, the sooner the child will learn to think for himself, establishing causal relationships.
A man should be independent. Teach the boy to dress yourself, make the bed.
A real man is not afraid to make decisions. At three, he may choose to go to the park or to the circus, and at six he is already able to decide which section he wants to enroll in. It is important to teach the child to understand that he is responsible for his decisions. For example, if he chose a chess game circle, then initially it should be explained that he will not be able to quit - by the end of the year he will attend it. If the child has changed his mind, it is important to listen to his explanation - if he is just bored, then it is necessary to explain that what has been started must be completed. If the reason why the child does not like to go to the section, is, for example, the teacher, then the circle can be changed. Do not forget - conversations with the child are the basis on which all your subsequent relationships are based. He should always know that he can discuss any issue with you.
Never forget that the future real man is still a little boy (the main thing is not to overdo it and not reach the age of majority). He has the right to cry, because he simply does not know how to express emotions in a different way. Always try to understand it. Learn to deal with your emotions. If the child was upset because they did not buy a new toy, explain that today there is no such possibility, but you will come to the store in a week and buy it. Try to explain to your child that it is not always in life that it turns out as you want, but a person can achieve any goal, for this you need to wait sometimes, sometimes make some effort.
A real man should be active - no cartoons from morning till night. Ride bicycles, go to museums and theaters, let your son get used to being in motion all the time, then he will grow up energetic. Sport is the basis of a healthy lifestyle. The chosen sports section, a small charge in the morning with light plastic dumbbells - from the age of three (perhaps earlier), the child needs to inculcate a love for physical exertion. After all, a real man should always be able to stand up for himself.
It is important to develop a sense of responsibility in the son. The pet will cope with this task as well as possible. Even a very small child will be able, under supervision, to put food in a plate on the animal. The older a boy becomes, the more responsibilities he can be assigned.
It is not known for sure whether a real man throws socks, but it is imperative to teach your son to order. To collect toys before bedtime - at least. However, again without fanaticism, you are not in the army, if the kid is tired, naughty - help him, put the scattered things together with him, the main thing is for him to understand that leaving a mess is wrong.
When the boy grew up
How to raise a son when he grows up? If in the first years you can somehow do without a male example, then in adolescence it is much more difficult to do it. Considering that an independent woman, as a rule, is very busy at work and at home, and a sea of temptations appears around the child at this time, it is not always possible to keep track of the children. It is very important to find a man whom you can ask for help, let him teach his son, for example, repair cars - this can be a neighbor or a favorite teacher who will help in preparing for the university. It is important that the child was all the time in business, and he did not have time for nonsense.
What makes a man a man?
Of course, the attitude to the woman. Teach the boy that girls can never be offended, that they need to give way, to take care of them. Let your son help you to the best of his childhood strength. Do not say that you can do everything yourself - give your boy a reason to be proud of yourself.
