Man is a social creature. For many centuries people lived, feeling themselves a member of a clan, a tribe, a community, and even the family was often created to unite clans or communities. Today the world is getting closer, but the feeling of loneliness is becoming more and more tangible. But how to get rid of loneliness in a cramped world?
Why are we alone?
Before you get rid of loneliness, try to understand a few things. First of all, the current disunity has grown out of the comfort of modern life: it is no longer necessary to resist the cruel forces of nature, which means there is no need to unite. And here it becomes clear that man is not a gregarious being. The family institute was probably created artificially, so that any relationship and any need for a relationship should be matched with one size fits all. Our ancestors got married in order to improve their financial situation, in order to get one more workers into the family in order to make friends with the neighboring community or tribe. Love came later. Today everything is more complicated, but there are a lot of people who are unable to find a pair.
The reason for loneliness in this case may be the expectation of a prince, or simply the unwillingness to work on relationships, and the fear that nothing will come out again, and male greed: after all, family is too expensive ...
In fact, we really need loneliness: many things need to be experienced alone with ourselves, time is needed for self-development. But if you prefer to watch TV shows or useless climbing on the Internet to communicate with people or to build love, this loneliness is unproductive. Here you need to fight him.
Occupy yourself
Let any activity interesting for you take up all your free time and then you will simply never have time to even think that you are alone. And if this is a collective occupation, then you will definitely have many like-minded people.
Also try to change the environment more often. Of course, it's nice to hang out all the time watching the show and very well when you work at home. But what if you try to work in a cafe or in a park?
Look for like-minded people everywhere. Surely you are fascinated by something, but there are people who are also interested in this. Movie? Reading? Singing? Look for people with the same interests among colleagues, those guys who go to the gym at the same time with you ... Perhaps you will have a new friend or a loved one. But do not mess with those who manipulate you or just make bad acquaintances just because you are lonely.
Appreciate your neighbors
We ourselves are often afraid to share our experiences, and this is one of the reasons why they are lonely. Not worth it. Just tell about everything that is happening to you to a friend who lives a mile away from you, or to your elder brother, with whom you shared troubles in your childhood. You can not tell everything, but only what you are ready to share. People will surely thank you for it.
Search for brothers in mind (and soul) on the Internet
In social networks there are groups dedicated to your favorite movies, writers, comics and TV shows, creative groups. Moreover, they organize meetings and parties in real life. Take part in this, create motives for meetings. It is always dating and always the chance to find "your" person. Just go somewhere and don't wait for being invited.
Find a four-legged friend
Firstly, it’s an ideal friend and antidepressant, and secondly, if you walk in the park with other dog owners, you’ll definitely not be alone: you have common interests with these people. Frequently, friendly walking groups and families are formed on dog walk areas. But only cope so that the shaggy friend does not force people out of your life. Although this is rare. And further. Do not take yourself a pathetic dog in a super expensive kennel, you do not buy friends for money. It is better to go to a shelter and a friend will find you himself, and you will help to get rid of loneliness to a kind being.
Think about your neighbors
Loneliness is often strongly associated with egoism. No, you need to dive into yourself, but there are hundreds and thousands of people who need you. Participate in a volunteer organization, help hospitals or canteen for the homeless, the same animal protection society and loneliness will melt on its own. Know that you need and in nursing homes, and babies, and in many hospitals. Such an activity will always help to establish the closest emotional connection and brings satisfaction. And weakened old people or children in distress, thanks to you, will feel not so lonely. So loneliness in the world will be a little less.
Attend training and practical psychology clubs
Know that you are not alone, and if people go to such events, they are no less than you need help ... And besides additional communication, you will also receive new knowledge and skills.
Change your mindset
Think about where your loneliness grows legs, when thoughts about it arise most often. You can record all the observations and track them. So, if you moved to another city and found friends, but you feel lonely, you may lack a closer emotional connection. It is possible that in the new place you miss your home, and this is normal.
And of course, you should not think negatively and divide everything only into black and white. Go to any party or meeting with a positive attitude and knowing that you will have a lot of interesting communication. And if no one understands you at the new job, it does not mean that you will never find close people here.
Of course, drive away the thought that if you do not have half, this is because of your inferiority.
By the way, in order to develop this most positive thinking, you need to communicate with positive people. Here is another reason not to whirl away another lonely evening after the show.
And remember that depending on the structure of the psyche and the need for communication is different (decide whether you are an introvert or an extrovert), and in general, loneliness is just a feeling, that is, irritated neurons, and not an objective situation. Feelings can pass by themselves.
