The main measure of success can be called "a view from the side," that is, an external criterion. What do outsiders think about your situation? What do granny gossip about at the entrance, seeing you off? If you have a good apartment, a well-paid job, a car, a summer house, a family and children, then, in the opinion of most ordinary people, you are a successful person. It is noteworthy that material goods are usually put on the first position. People who remember the post-war famine and devastation put wealth at the forefront as the most important indicator of success.
Inside view. So, by external criteria, you are a successful person. Do you really feel that way? The decisive criterion for assessing success is not an external, but an internal indicator. How does a person feel in life, is he in his place?
Types and parameters of success.
Money - career - success.
Are you satisfied with the work, feel your need? Are you sure that you are doing your own business? Do you realize yourself as a professional, do you enjoy your work, do you feel satisfied observing the results of your work? You can be congratulated, you have achieved success in the professional field! If at the same time you earn decently, then they are doubly successful, both in external and internal criteria. But does this mean that you are a generally successful person? No, life is multifaceted, let's look at other sections.
Success in a relationship.
Loneliness is a terrible ordeal. People need a society. You have a loved one, you have a wonderful relationship in your pair, there is no place for jealousy and misunderstanding. This is another plus in the piggy bank of success. If your partner is good-looking, has two arms and legs, is wealthy, then the public votes for.
Here we also assign parent-child relationships and friendship. The mechanism is clear. Raised children - the delight of grandmothers, "bad company" - a minus. Yes, gossips at the entrance know better what your friends are.
Health is success.
If you have good health, immediately take it to yourself as a plus. And unconditionally on both criteria. Perhaps this is the only point on which there can be no discrepancies.
Personal growth is a success.
An important indicator of success is the human self-development. If you are religious or highly spiritual without mediators, you are engaged in self-improvement and spiritual enlightenment, you are, without doubt, on the road to success. By the way, self-development and spirituality can go completely unnoticed by outside observers, but for the internal criterion this is an important indicator. As far as you are in harmony with yourself, are satisfied with your position and move on, you are so successful.
Dual understanding of success.
To rely only on external or only internal criterion of success is a useless exercise. What looks like the pinnacle of success by external criteria can be a complete disappointment from the point of view of internal one.
Examples of success.
Researcher in the best years. He is dressed casually, is not interested in life, earns little, but his eyes are burning. Busy in love, halfway to a scientific discovery. If you still have a wife - a friend and comrade, healthy children, then we have an absolutely successful person in terms of internal criteria. Outwardly, it looks like this - a healthy man suffers from nonsense for a penny, and his wife was not lucky.
Male businessman Long hard work, as a result - a good income, life is arranged at a high level, dinners in expensive restaurants, travel twice a year, beautiful companions. But there is no close person, with children is rarely seen and suffers from loneliness. Externally - a man on top of success, but internally - emptiness, sadness.
The conclusions suggest themselves, there is no single concept - a successful person. This is a set of parameters that everyone can search for, think, study. It’s not at all the fact that the researcher from the first example has a good understanding wife and children; rather, they are not there, he is alone and depressed. And only at work comes to life, he is successful in his case, but not as a whole, he cannot be called just a successful person. And of course it is not necessary for a wealthy businessman to suffer from loneliness, not at all. But at some point he may realize that you cannot make money all the time. He looks around and begins to see his eyes, how many poor, unfortunate people are around, how many are disabled. And he wants to help, to provide charity. And this will be his first step towards personal growth, spiritual cultivation and success.
Results
Such self-analysis, analysis of the available pros and cons is very useful and in fact is a means of depression. Just think how much success there is in your life. Are you provided? Great, many people dream about it. Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Remarkably, few people can boast of sincere and kind communication with the older generation. Maybe you have funny children, did you give them a happy childhood? It's just awesome, your children will grow up self-sufficient and confident people. Do not complain about health? Great, you can move mountains! And if you are a thinking, thinking person, then you will definitely achieve your success. You understand that the most important thing is your inner criterion. You are able to deal with yourself and understand what you still do not have enough to be a truly successful person!
P.S.
Call at once one historical figure, a prominent figure, scientist or painter, who can be called without a doubt successful person in terms of both external and internal criteria. There are such? Use the search engine, look through the biography. Now what do you say?
Do not be afraid to take a step forward. There are no perfect people, there is always something to work on. You will succeed, the main thing is to realize what exactly you want and what real success is for you!
