The expression "real woman" bears a deep and for many mystical meaning. Some believe that only a lady who has managed to achieve unprecedented heights in personal and public life — and, of course, in the material sphere — is worthy of such a flattering epithet. For others, this concept is limited to the framework of the unique feminine charm and attractiveness. So what does make such a unique concept, and how do the representatives of two sexes view it?
Real woman: what is she?
First of all, one should not succumb to the power of delusion that to be a real woman is a happy opportunity prepared by Fate for the very few chosen. No matter how trite it sounds, all women are born the same and with equal opportunities and potential. And what kind of woman will become with time - “an ordinary gray mouse” or a bright, charming and successful lady in all respects - depends only on the strength of her desire and desire to be loved and happy in all respects. This is for many "ordinary" women a stumbling block, because the lack of desire for self-improvement and life achievements does not contribute to personal growth and magical transformations of appearance.
Representations of the "real woman" or the female ideal of both sexes are the same and consist of the following nuances:
Femininity.
Of course, this quality is in this case in the first place. The very sound of this word reminds a woman of her belonging to the beautiful "weak" sex. That femininity is the main tool for women in the art of attracting male attention. And this is not necessarily a matter of the compliance of the figure and appearance with the prevailing fashionable standards. Femininity is the complete antipode of masculinity, forcing men to recall their best and strongest qualities and strive to their maximum manifestation. The concept of femininity is a unique combination of tenderness, fragility and defenselessness, causing a man's desire to protect and become a reliable support. The presence of femininity is ninety percent of success on the way to the goal of becoming happy in personal relationships.
The ability to create comfort and coziness in the house.
Whatever conditions may offer her life, a real woman can always turn these conditions into at least suitable for a comfortable life. Any man would like to have order and a warm atmosphere in his house, and a hot dinner prepared by the caring hands of the woman he loved awaited on the table. The ability and the desire of women to maintain homeland are among the priority demands of men to their darlings.
Ability to love.
This quality, without which the concept of "real woman" has no right to exist. The ability to give light and warmth, to show sincere concern for others, to share with them sadness and adversity is a special feature, love, which is sometimes inaccessible to the most exquisite beauties. It is in the ability to love, understand, and forgive that the true strength of any woman lies, turning her into the only and necessary one for a loved one.
Appearance.
Even if God did not award a woman with the features of Marilyn Monroe or another idol of feminine beauty, nothing prevents her from looking attractive and well-groomed. The rule of a real woman is to look perfect in any situation, no matter which band - black or white - now prevails in her life. And being limited in funds for visiting expensive salons and gyms, such a woman will always find 15 minutes for daily sports and will not allow herself to go out - and even more so - towards a beloved man - scruffy or with unwashed hair.
Individuality.
"Raisin" - so called special charm inherent in any of the fair sex. There are cases when a woman not endowed with special external data literally attracts people and men to her, forcing them only to guess what secret is hidden in this extraordinary lady. Someone gives a “zest” to nature itself, endowing a person almost from birth with amazing inner charm, while someone is quite capable of “inventing” and “making it work” on her own, setting herself with the desire to attract men and call their sincere disposition. Of course, only a real woman is capable of such a thing!
Purposefulness and a wide range of interests.
In order to succeed in anything, a real woman should be, first of all, an educated person and a developing person. The widespread stereotype of the times of domostroi that the role of the representative of the weaker sex lies solely in keeping the household hearth, does not work for the benefit of a woman striving for success and the most complete self-realization. Undoubtedly, the ability to create and maintain a warm and cozy atmosphere in the house is one of the indispensable qualities of a real woman, but in order to be interesting to your loved one and others, you should not limit yourself to endless pastime in the four walls, which consists only in cleaning, cooking and watching not conducive to the personal growth of female serials.
Optimism.
No goal will be achieved if you do not believe in your own strength or do not love this life. A real woman is an inexhaustible source of optimism and vital energy, generously sharing them with people close to her. And since a true lady should be happy in everything, then for this, she must first make her close associates happy!
Self esteem
The attitude of others to a person depends, first of all, on his attitude to himself. A real woman knows her own worth, is confident in herself and knows how to convey this to others. It has nothing to do with arrogance or arrogance, it simply will not tolerate a disrespectful attitude and any insults from anyone, even from a loved one.
Wisdom.
If you put together all the qualities that a real woman should have, and not add to them the concept of "wisdom", all other components simply lose all meaning of life. The wisdom of a woman is not necessarily a rich life experience. This is the ability to make the right decisions, sometimes to the detriment of one's own convictions, the ability to smooth out sharp edges in relationships, the ability to forgive and give a loved one a chance to correct the mistakes he made. Exceptionally due to the wisdom of women, many couples retain their relationships in difficult and even critical times for them. The ability of a woman to empathy and forgiveness gives her magical power over circumstances and ties any loved person to her more tightly than any ties.
As you can see, among all the qualities that make up the idea of a real woman, there is not one that could not be developed independently. Of course, in this, as in any other work on oneself, one needs to observe a sense of proportion, not bringing oneself in striving for the ideal to conditions close to a nervous breakdown or physical exhaustion. After all, you see, a real woman should certainly look healthy and attractive!
