A person depends on society, on people who are part of his circle of communication.
but chatting with some people may cause discomfort. What kind of people you should not keep in touch with and how to stop communication with them if you are already familiar?
The benefits of comfortable communication
Communication between people is not only a wonderful pastime.
In fact its value is much more weighty:
- Comfortable communication allows you to get a charge of positive energy, leave pleasant impressions after it, even out the emotional background;
- the exchange of thoughts, arguments on any topic with a pleasant person make it possible to choose the most correct course of action in a given situation, lead to a successful decision;
- communication with active people motivates, forces to act more vigorously;
- the release of negative emotions to a loved one therapeutically acts on the psyche, preventing their accumulation.
However, far from always communication brings pleasant emotions.
After communicating with some people, we, on the contrary, may experience fatigue, irritation and depression.
What people should not communicate and why?
Of course, each person has individual needs for communication, and the choice of a circle of friends is determined solely by his personal needs, however, the following types of people can be identified, communication with which leaves, as a rule, only negative impressions:
- Manipulators. Their main feature is the use of people only for their own purposes. In this case, quite often they are very interesting interlocutors, are the soul of the company, however, they are distinguished by the fact that they will never take any action to the detriment of themselves. Therefore, familiarity with them often ends in disappointment, when a manipulator, without a twinge of conscience, can blame anyone for a delicate situation if only to save his own face. It is also not uncommon for manipulators to influence their impressionable acquaintances so much that they deprive them of the possibility of self-expression, imposing their values and lines of behavior on them.
- Daffodils. When dealing with daffodils, all you have to do is admire their uniqueness, originality, beauty, intelligence, exclusivity, intelligence and ingenuity.
But in response, you will not hear anything like this, since the daffodils all these loud epithets consider only their wealth.
Moreover - if one day you forget or simply do not consider it necessary to admire your friends, narcissus, and even worse - decide that you somehow even surpass him, you run the risk of making yourself a real enemy.
- Pessimists. This type of people always sees only the bad sides in any situation, and all that is good from their gaze is hidden behind a thick curtain. At the same time, they not only do not find any positive sides in what happens to them, but they are also able to notice the disadvantages in your current situation. If you begin to talk enthusiastically about your plans, pessimists will not fail to point out their unrealizability, but this is only one side of your communication - if you try to prove to them that everything in this world is not so bad, you will only lose your spiritual strength, and the pessimists themselves will remain with my opinion.
- Critics. The critic considers it his duty to blow apart any of your theory or opinion, while not really thinking about what impression it will make on you.
His main goal is to find flaws in what surrounds him, including yours, since you are his surroundings.
You will lose a lot of vital energy, trying to prove your point, but you will not be able to convince the critic in his most important argument - that you are not right a priori.
- Actors. Their peculiarity is the absence of their own image and opinion. Communicating with you, they will admire anything, however, changing the interlocutor, throw mud at the same with the same zeal. If you are looking for a reliable comrade on whom you can rely in a difficult situation, then you will not find him in the actor.
- Ignoramuses. These people are distinguished not only by the lack of upbringing, but also by extreme impudence. They can put you in the wrong light at a time when, on the contrary, you are trying to make an impression on someone, without even realizing what a disservice you are doing. Your efforts to explain the rules of behavior to them will be doomed to failure.
- People-Problems. A characteristic feature of this type of people is that they constantly find problems, and they certainly expect help from you.
Sometimes it may appear that they never succeed without your participation.
Perhaps they can be attributed to the manipulators - they only act as a victim, playing on your sense of pity, while they themselves often do not hit the finger to get out of this situation.
- Uninteresting person to you. A rather vague definition, which, nevertheless, has a place to be. There are people who behave quite adequately in society, they can be literate and tactful, but there will still be a gap between you for the reason that you have radically different interests. You will evaluate the same situation differently, you will never find a common subject of admiration or hostility - you have different values in everything. Communication with a similar person, attempts to look at his opinion from a different point of view are similar to fitting someone else's clothes, which you are not at all in size, and attempts to find common points of contact are doomed to failure.
As a result, the time spent in communicating with such a person can safely be considered lost, and efforts to enjoy the communication are futile.
Communication between people, especially not related to the need for communication in the workplace, often born spontaneously.
It often happens that you met with any person, then unexpectedly met in another place, then decided to get to know each other more closely - and suddenly you understand that this person who already considers you his friend, brings you only negative emotions when communicating.
It does not have to correspond exactly to the type described above - sometimes this a cocktail of several of them or something completely individual.
How to stop communicating with such a person and correctly negate your interaction?
Psychological advice: how to stop communicating?
With a man you don't like
The difficulty of not communicating depends on how close people have you become to your acquaintance or friendas well as his character and affection for you.
Often, in order to stop the negative impact on you, it is not at all necessary to completely sever relations with a person, but only to exclude from the communication the most intimate and meaningful topics for you.
To do this, simply nullify their mention in your conversation, as well as stop by inertia to initiate meetings. As a rule, if a person is correct, he himself will understand that you no longer need so much in his society and will respond in the same way.
If a person is imposed, offers to meet, not paying attention to the fact that you avoid his company, refer to the fact that you have important immediate business.
This can cause offense, therefore try to make it as polite as possible.
In cases where it is not possible to avoid his company, nullify communication on personal topics, make it clear that confidential conversations no longer interest you.
Although it is may seem somewhat cruel, for yourself, you should note that you yourself manage your time and have the full right to choose for yourself the society that will be pleasant for you, not to sacrifice yourself just because other people want it.
With the former
How to stop communicating with ex boyfriend or girlfriend? For lovers, the process of parting can be much more painful - quite rarely it happens spontaneously, of course, when the break in relations both partners perceive as the right decision.
Therefore, the option of gradually negating communication is not always appropriate - it is best done in a frank conversation.
The most important thing in this case is by no means. do not insult a person's feelingsyou want to break up with.
Do not send a farewell letter by e-mail, much less do not send a short SMS message informing you that everything is over.
The best thing talk about it in private in a quiet and peaceful setting.
Explain to the person that you do not see the prospects for your communication, while being as sincere as possible.
It is not necessary to invent any additional compelling reasons, in your understanding, it is your sincerity that will respect your partner's feelingsyou want to break up with.
Do not seek to do it rudely and aggressively - the person you leave behind will be so depressed, so don’t bring him any additional pain, even if you think that he hurt you and that you are the victim.
However, you must make it clear that your decision is weighted, that it is not an impulse, a rush, after which you can change your position - as this can give your partner hope that relationships can resume.
Explain that relations between people are impossible, if only one person feels sympathy or love - such relations are doomed to failure a priori, and to prolong them means to give a partner empty hopes.
Also quite a common mistake after you explained - completely disappear from sightwith whom you break up.
It is better, after some time, to try to contact him, to ask about the affairs - that is, to make it clear that it is the intimate communication that stops between you, but you don’t want this person to be offended or even consider you an enemy.
remember, that not all people are ideal companions, and not all friends can please you with their communication. However, it is you who chooses which of them you will devote to the time allotted for your personal communication.
Also, not all couples of lovers really have chances for the future - and the sooner you notice and understand this, the less you will be in the grip of illusions.
7 signs that it is time to stop communicating with a person:
