Not everything in life is possible return or change.
Some actions and decisions radically change the course of personal history, directing events along a new and definite vector.
What does this mean in psychology?
Point of no return - this is a critical milestone, when passing through which it is already impossible to return to the initial state, i.e. the outcome becomes irreversible.
Any intentions and deeds in their process also contain a point of no return.
Life can be represented as a series of cycles, each of which is born and ends at such points.
If the individual is not aware of what is happening and is subject to external forces / effects, approaching the irrevocable line becomes inevitable. But a conscious approach to thinking and behavior allows you to delay / avoid / circumvent such boundaries.
A mistake would be to consider the point of no return exclusively in a negative way.
After all, in fact, this concept reflects the prevailing new trends, which were previously only a hidden potential, but eventually opened up and took a dominant position in relation to other alternative scenarios.
In life
In everyday life "point of no return" symbolizes turning pointsin which the individual makes complex decisions that trigger a whole chain of interrelated and resulting from each other consequences.
And even making an effort, a person can no longer undo or eliminate these consequences.
The concept itself has come to psychology and everyday life from aviation. The point of no return was called a certain point after which the plane could not go back due to lack of fuel on the way back.
In life, a similar picture arises when a person makes a final decision, voices it and takes measures for its implementation. So the irrevocable coordinate in family life can be the recognition of one spouse of treason.
Very often, after such a development, the relationship breaks down, trust disappears, and the wife / husband can no longer resurrect their former tenderness towards their partner.
The point of no return may be moving to another country. If a person breaks off all ties, quits his job, sells property and invests all his resources in arranging a new place of residence, it is not possible to go back and re-enter the “familiar flow”.
Of course, technically you can come back. But at the same time, the irreversible consequences of the move are obvious: they have already taken a new employee for their previous work, the old living space is in the possession of other owners, and their former friends have already firmly established themselves in new companies.
In personal terms, the point of no return - any strong shockwhich radically changes the attitudes and behavioral strategy of a person.
For example, a convinced bachelor can become aware of his loneliness as a result of a series of traumatic events, and then see a vivid example of a happy family life.
And if in the end he decides to marry and have children, and then make his plans a reality, for him the point of no return will come.
Responsibility for the child, the experience of living together, the legal status of the spouse and all the consequences arising from this can not be excluded from life.
The point of no return may become independent of the person’s desire. element determining fate. Thus, serious accidents with concomitant injuries and disabilities are a critical milestone that radically changes the reality for an individual and people associated with it.
In relationship
The point of no return in a relationship is the partner’s inner conviction that the relationship has become obsolete, and any attempt to revive feelings will fail. In what situations partners crossing the critical line?
The words
Loud words and confessions, made consciously or in a temper, irreversible consequences.
Usually revelations relate to your own feelings, reveal pitfalls in relationships or open your eyes to the true state of things.
For example, one of the partners after a long silence admits that love has passed.
And for the couple it becomes obvious that the pretending pretense could not change the situation, and the further continuation of the relationship is meaningless.
Also, a woman can openly catch a man in a lie / cowardice / hopelessness, as well as the representative of the stronger sex can indicate some kind of negative qualities.
And even if earlier there were hints on this topic in a pair, it is the direct statement that will become the point of no returnsince “the masks will be torn off” and it will be impossible to give the words an alternative interpretation.
Actions
Critical milestones can be actions.
Very often the irrevocable coordinate is tied to treason. Relationships change after partner raises his hand to his darling.
Even change of job can fundamentally change the "weather" in the family, if these changes entail strengthening in a certain position and making final decisions regarding the partner.
Change of world view
It also happens that the point of no return only one partner crossesworking on your views or position. At the same time, the other partner remains in ignorance for a long time, because his line of conduct and thinking remains unchanged.
Critical line may be tied to a new love, increased ambitions of one of the participants in the relationship (provided that the position of the other is static), etc.
But most often it is the unwillingness of a woman or a man to put up with the behavior of his chosen one.
Dependencies
Point of no return inevitable in families where one of the participants of the union suffers from alcohol, drug or gambling addiction.
The turn may be positive (rejection of harmful habits) or negative (divorce or disintegration of the family).
External conditions and natural changes
Birth of a child for a couple, it becomes a definite milestone and a litmus test for relationships. After all, when an heir appears, the mother and father no longer belong to themselves fully.
In this case, you can talk about the point of no return, because to return to the starting point is no longer possible, as well as to eliminate the consequences of the appearance of the baby.
As external conditions, you can give an example of moving or changing social status. After all, any major changes affect relationships.
Point of no return passed
What does it mean?
If the point of no return is passed, it means that return to the basic model of relations is no longer possible.
Even self-deception and ignoring the situation will give only a short-term effect of stability.
When people cross the critical line, they can no longer arrive in a static position. The old pattern of behavior "deleted" from the database and it must be replaced with a new one.
Man launched a chain of events that will inevitably entail a movement towards a new formula of thinking.
How to understand that the point of no return is passed? Understand it can be on the behavior of a partner.
Even if the decision is not voiced out loud, when they cross the critical line, people stop pretending, playing along and enduring things that are unpleasant for them.
Man acts openly, since he no longer seeks to preserve deceptive stability and ready for change.
You can understand the transition through your own point of no return by your internal sensations.
When tolerating the behavior of a partner becomes unbearable, as well as giving up your own ambitions for the sake of relationships, a person approaching the reference coordinates.
And the transition will happen at the moment when the plan will appear in the head of the “transition” across the border and 100% willingness to follow this plan.
What to do? No need to try to return to the "original line". This is impossible, and the attempts are energy-consuming. The most important thing when going through the point of no return is to accept change.
You can move forward by adjusting your behavior. The relationship will have to take a new role.
For example, if earlier the husband behaved with his wife despotic, then after the betrayal and his wife’s refusal to forgive betrayal, to save his family will have to become an exemplary family man.
After all, the point of no return is passed, and the woman will not agree to cohabit with the despot and the role of the victim. Her consciousness requires change and abandonment of the original model of family life.
It is useless to deny crossing the point of no return, trying to avoid the consequences.
In this case, it is very easy to be “overboard” of events and get stuck in the memories, finally destroying the relationship.
Critical line not a sentence, because it does not limit the person, but only changes the motion vector. In addition to the outdated relationship model, there are many alternative options that can be selected for each specific situation.
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