Often, girls want to resume ended relationships and look for a way to do it. However, before you return the guy after parting with him, it is worth analyzing the situation. If the man himself made such a decision, because he somehow did not suit your character or appearance, if he found another girl and because of this he left you, there is a high probability that it’s not worth returning anyone at all.
Of course, two or three weeks of sadness and memories of past happiness await you in front of you, but it’s better to go through it than to try to return a person who is not interested in your relationship initially.
When is it worth returning a guy?
The situation is completely different if there really is your share of guilt in the break in relations. You should not justify your partner here, but you need to adequately assess the situation - if you have offended, offended your young man, and now you want to rectify the situation, you should certainly act.
In some cases, simply asking for forgiveness and explaining your act. Perhaps you broke up because of a misunderstanding, and a conversation in a relaxed atmosphere will change everything. If your second half doesn’t pick up the phone, write a letter, just act without unnecessary emotions - tell them that you regret the break, explain the situation and offer to resume the relationship.
After that, do not take any initiative, if he needs to, he will find you himself. If you continue to throw him messages and annoy calls, then soon you will not have a drop of self-esteem. And this is fraught with problems in the following relationships, even though you still don’t think about them.
What steps to take?
The first advice to girls who think how to get a guy back after breaking up is to remember how the relationship started and how you behaved in them. Surely you shared positive emotions, did not spoil his mood by the whims and tried to always look spectacular. Take care of yourself, spend your free time with benefit, tell your mutual acquaintances that your life (even if you feel a little sorry that you broke up with your loved one) is interesting and fascinating.
It is much easier to correct the situation when you constantly see, for example, working together. If you do not even have the opportunity to arrange a “random” meeting, act differently. Contact him for help if he does not refuse - then half the work has been done. The rest is in your hands.
If you still have complaints and unresolved problems, you must either decide that this issue is not so important, or abandon the idea of restoring relations at all. This is directly related to the second tip - carefully watch what you are talking about. You should not remember the negative moments, blame your man (he didn’t meet with you for this), and not now or after you return him. Otherwise, a repeated break is provided to you.
Despite the cliché of the phrase “let's be friends”, this is what you should strive for. If you can give support when your boyfriend needs it, be sure to do it. He will be able to evaluate your attitude towards him and his problems. Just be careful - if he doesn’t need a girl in your face, and he simply takes advantage of your desire to return him, do what he promised and no longer take any initiative.
A girl should have a fine sense of the edge when one can act and when one should slow down. If you can see that the guy is annoyed by any attempts to restore the relationship, it is better to stop them. In no case should not put pressure on pity, cry and beg to return. Many women are ready to fulfill any whim of a loved one, as long as he is near. However, this certainly does not help build normal relations based on respect for each other.
There are other things that are definitely not worth doing. For example, resort to the "help" of various witches and "sell the soul to the devil." You have one soul, and there can be many more guys.
You should not try to entice him "the night of love." As a rule, men do not refuse from this kind of pastime, especially if it is intrusive to offer it, and they have no serious relationship. Understand that for him it will be just a night, and in the morning everything will remain as before. Then you will feel much worse.
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Thinking through a plan to return a partner, you must consider the likelihood that nothing will work out. Be prepared for this: in the end, love implies a certain freedom and it is impossible to make love. Take care of yourself and be ready for a new relationship.
Of course, it is better not to bring up to have to return the guy. Learn to take care of your second half, bring only positive things into relationships and remain always desirable. Then the man will not want to leave. As you know, it is much easier to prevent a problem than to search for ways to solve it.
