How to communicate with a girl in social networks

The appearance of the Internet, dating sites and social networks, it would seem, has opened up the whole world for us. But why are so many guys and girls alone? After all, in order to meet someone and get to know a person better, you no longer need to go anywhere. I went to Facebook or Vk, found a pretty girl from my city - meet, talk, meet. But many young people just do not know how to properly communicate with the girl. And ladies, of course, very rarely write first, even in such a feminist-minded society.

How to start dating a girl in "VK"?

Vkontakte is the most popular network among young people in Russia and the CIS countries. Here you can learn a lot about the tastes, hobbies and views on the life of an individual person according to information from his personal profile. Girls always use this opportunity and carefully study the pages of guys. Therefore, in order to provoke a reciprocal desire to meet and respond to the message, first make sure that your page in "VK" attracted attention.

Remember, girls are repelled:

depressive suicidal records;
repost from groups that demean women;
quotes in the style of thieves prison lyrics;
many photos in the circle of other girls;
profanity, vulgar jokes.

If all this is in your profile, we recommend to clear it from this garbage. How to communicate with a girl in the "VK" to cause her sympathy? Start your correspondence is not with the usual: "Hello, how are you?" and with a more original phrase, for example:

"I went to your page and, I had one question for you ...";
"Hello, I want to tell you something, but I don’t know how";
"Something was said to me about you, but I went to your page and realized that this was not true."

Such an entry will intrigue any girl. She wants to find out what you are hiding. The conversation should be playful and lead to a mandatory meeting. For example, take the last phrase and build an approximate dialogue.

You: "Something was said to me about you, but I went to your page and realized that it was not true"

You: "By the way, hello"

She: "Who are you? And what did they tell you?"

You: "What's the difference? I see that they are wrong."

She: "Is this one of my friends? What are you talking about?"

You: "Okay, let's meet today, I'll tell you something. It will be interesting for you to hear this."

Believe me, the intrigued girl will run to meet with you at full speed. After all, she will be sure that behind her back someone is spreading false gossip about her. Even if she has no desire to meet anyone and go on dates, the eternal feminine curiosity will still lead her to you.

And then what? It all depends on you. Include all your charm in person. Make her a surprise - a bouquet of flowers or a small gift. Appoint a meeting in some nice cafe. And to the question: "Who and what said about me?" Answer: "I was told that you are beautiful, but they were wrong. You are incredibly beautiful." Now you can open the cards.

Social networks - the best place to meet. It is very easy to flirt, because you are not lost under the gaze of the other person and you can calmly think about the answer. Try to behave naturally, a lot of joking in personal correspondence. All you need is a spark that runs between you all the time.

What to communicate with the girl on social networks?

No one is interested in talking for hours about the weather or social and political events. But about yourself beloved ready to talk for hours. Your task is to find out everything about her:

her interests, hobbies, hobbies;
does she have male friends;
Does she have many friends?
how often she sits in the "VC";
what was the last movie she watched etc

But do not ask all these questions in order, as if you were conducting a survey. Find out everything smoothly during the conversation. The girls are more emotional, so she will definitely appreciate if at the beginning of the correspondence you ask, "How are you?" and "How was your day?"

There are topics that are definitely not worth mentioning. You also need to keep track of what you write and avoid the most common mistakes. How best to communicate with the girl in contact? Remember:

don't ask her about ex-boyfriends, past relationships;
do not touch on sexual topics;
don't be rude;
avoid vulgar jokes and profanity;
never ridicule her faults or her friends until you understand how she treats them;
do not respond in a negative way about the members of her family;
do not gossip about your ex-girls;
pouring out the soul about how sadly the previous relationship ended is also not worth it;
Watch out for literacy and purity of speech.

Trying to sound like a popular guy, "do not go too far." Often the guys try to seem like alpha males who are used to dealing with many girls. This is even taught in pickup courses. Now, don't do it! If you are not, then your acting is noticeable even by an inexperienced schoolgirl. At best, she will think that you are not in yourself. So just behave naturally. The sincerity of the girl will appreciate more than mock importance.

Subtleties of SMS correspondence

SMS communication is almost the same as correspondence in social networks, with the only difference being that Facebook or Vkontakte provide an opportunity to learn more about a person by his profile. But in the messages you can also share photos, music, pictures. Do not neglect these useful features!

How to communicate with the girl by SMS? Special knowledge you do not need. Avoid rudeness, offensive language and taboo topics. You will also find the following guidelines helpful:

Use emoji.
Ask the girl to send you a selfie.
Saw something unusual? Take a picture and send it in a message.
Be sure to give compliments.
Do not overdo it, you do not have to be intrusive.
Be original, do not use sample questions, phrases, jokes from social networks, etc.
Be sincere.
Take care. The girl will appreciate the SMS: "It's cold today, put on a warm jacket," "I hope your boss will let you go to work early."

Your task during the correspondence is to prepare the ground for a future meeting. The following correspondence is a good illustrative example.

He: "What did you do on weekends, Julia?"

She: "Cooked, cleaned ... In general, nothing special"

He: "And what was cooking?"

She: "Pasta with seafood"

He: "Wow, you know how to cook this!"

He: "Do you treat me somehow? And then for a long time nothing decent has been eaten."

She: "Required"

He: "In the meantime, let me treat you to something delicious. What would you like?"

She: "Well, I do not know ... Maybe sweetie"

He: "What time to call for you?"

In this correspondence, the guy neatly "asked for" a meeting with the girl and set the stage for a future date. After all, she promised to treat him with homemade pasta, the next time you can beat this and ask for her home or buy groceries and invite the girl to her to hold a master class on cooking Italian dishes.

In any case, do not delay with correspondence. The reciprocal interest will soon fade away if you do not translate the relationship into a real plane. More boldly, because for the sake of this and need to flirt on social networks to warm up feelings for each other in real life.

Rules of communication with the girl on dating sites

Another place for virtual communication on the Internet is dating sites. On such sites often registered girls without complexes and prejudices. Therefore, if you are interested in anything non-binding meetings - you are here. There are fewer taboo topics and prohibitions, but, nevertheless, it is better to wait until the girl herself takes the conversation to a more informal plane.

How to communicate with a girl on the Internet on a dating site? First, to avoid disappointment, immediately write the real purpose of creating a questionnaire on the site. Interested in long-term relationships and mutual feelings? So write. Then the seekers of adultery and easy affair will pass by you. But do not write in the profile of serious intentions, if you want only a slight flirtation or sex. Be extremely honest, and then communication with beautiful ladies will meet your expectations.

In any situation, the most important thing in communicating with a girl is a positive attitude. If you are depressed, upset, or just feel "not in your" plate, the girl will feel it even according to the message. If the reason that you find it difficult to meet and communicate with girls even on the Internet is an internal clip and complexes, first get rid of them. To do this, understand yourself, learn the technique of relaxing breathing, consult a psychologist.