People meet, people fall in love, get married ... but not always. Often the relationship ends with parting, and if both partners feel that it is time to stop, then it will be easier to cross the finish line. If only you are so tired of the connection that you want to interrupt her, and the thought of how to leave the girl painlessly doesn’t give rest more and more often, then it's time to make a decision and act.
What not to do?
Some young people try to just “go into the shadows”, ceasing to call, respond to messages, avoid meetings. At the same time, they are guided by the idea that sooner or later the girl herself will guess that everything is over, love has passed, and there is nothing to find out.
Is it worth it if you want the girl to have fond memories of your relationship? You spent time together, gave each other love, it was good for you - it's much better to finish your story beautifully. To remain friends, most likely, will not work, but let the moment of parting be as painful as possible and do not negate the good things that bound you.
Speed
Long seeing - extra tears. This is exactly about this situation. Neither you nor she, in fact, need to find out exactly what happened, and why the relationship should be terminated. This, of course, does not apply to situations where feelings have remained, and indeed there is a chance to correct everything and be together. After all, the reason for parting, as a rule, is one - love was not there or not at the moment, and you can always work on the other reasons. Therefore, extra demagogy is recommended to exclude. Do not tell the girl that the reason for it, do not blame the fact that she destroyed the relationship.
Be honest to yourself and to the girl. In this case, you will be able to respect yourself, and she will keep in her memory the memories of you as a worthy man (though not immediately).
Say that you are grateful to her for the happy moments, that you were well (you should not go deep), but you do not see the future of your relationship. It is better to say this quickly and as quickly as possible, as the girl will certainly want to develop this topic, and this is likely to end in conflict.
How to behave after breaking up
In the near future, you can expect calls or messages in the “You are a goat” format. No matter how unpleasant it may be, try to refrain from responding replicas: the girl is experiencing, she has a lot of emotions, she can be confused and very offended, especially if she really had feelings for you.
The best thing you can do in this situation is just to be silent. The worst is to respond as if something can be returned. Never give a girl hope for the renewal of relations, if you are not going to return.
The girls are very emotional and sensitive, so she can remember for a long time how well you were together, forgetting the turmoil, and sincerely wondering why you ended the relationship. She may freak out, ask you to come back, but you should stand your ground. After some time, she will understand that your silence was for her own good.
Exceptions
There are situations when you need to be responsible for your actions. The question of how painlessly to part with a girl should not stand if she got pregnant from you, or she has a black streak in life, and she needs support. Those who want to remain a man, it is highly recommended to weigh all the pros and cons.
If you are not sure that the separation - the only way out - no nerves either to yourself or to the girl. If she loves you, wants to be close and support you, does not disappear when you have problems, just think - are there any objective reasons for parting or do you just want to show character instead of building relationships properly?
