Why do people lie
Since childhood, everybody was inculcated with the conviction that it is impossible to lie and you must always tell the truth and be sincere. But why do people lie to each other, and what are the reasons? Absolutely everyone in his life at least once, but he lied. And according to statistics, people all day lie about fifteen times.
What is really considered a lie? After all, some people, especially creative ones, like to embellish something in their stories, someone hides the truth from close people, someone lies, so as not to offend or disappoint, and for some it has become just a habit. Each person sees and perceives the situation differently, for example, for someone a lie will become a real betrayal, and someone will not even take this seriously.
But, unfortunately, a person can not only tell the truth. In order to lie there are many reasons and each has a specific goal.
- Diffidence. One of the reasons people lie is because it is an inferiority complex or a lack of self-confidence. Most often, people lie while being in a relationship to their partner in order, for example, to hide their flaws and flaws, or let’s say they are afraid to admit to financial difficulties.
- Benefit. Such situations in the modern world occur quite often, and what is remarkable is that in this case the benefit is perceived as material values, money, and advancement on the career ladder. But such a lie is rarely unpunished and the deceived party will sooner or later find out the whole truth.
- Lie for good. In this case, people lie in order not to upset and disappoint, as a rule, their orchestra or close people.
In general, the reasons why people lie, a great many, and this is a kind of excuse. Justifications to hide the real reasons or motives, the fear of confessing to something, one's own weakness and selfishness, low self-esteem or mistrust in relationships.
Before you understand the situation, you need to find out why the person lied, what, strictly speaking, the motives and why the person did not decide to tell you the truth, maybe it's you, maybe you do not deserve trust or respect. This is if you are deceived by the party. You do not need to kindle conflict and take a lie as a betrayal, try to find out everything peacefully and find a compromise.
If you notice that you often lie, and it gives you discomfort, then it's time to understand yourself and your own life. Listen to yourself and carefully analyze the situations in which you had to lie, find the real reasons and start working on yourself. The main thing at this moment is not to lie to yourself, be as frank as possible.
An example of a situation is the early rise to work, when a person’s own irresponsibility and lack of organization covers with excuses that the alarm did not work, he went to bed late, fell ill, etc., thereby using a lie. But sooner or later this lie will bother your employer, and you will be left without work, or you and you will begin to hate your own work even more.
After all, if you have no desire to wake up in the morning and run to work, then this is not your favorite business and your work activity does not suit you. This is the main reason why people lie to employers. The way out of this situation is to find the job of your dreams, there are also a number of actions for this, for example, making a list of skills and abilities.
In general, in order not to lie to other people or to yourself, you need to eradicate the causes and motives because of which you would seem to be forced to lie. To do this, communicate with yourself more often and listen to yourself, do not do what is unpleasant for you, learn to refuse and say no. Foster in yourself such qualities as organization, responsibility, gratitude. Learn to love and respect yourself and those around you, smile more often and realize your goals.
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