Girls - very sensitive and tender creatures.
They often have mood swings, they react painfully to trouble and rudeness.
But, fortunately, girls are receptive and positive. And if the significant representative of the fair sex is disheartened, you can try to cheer her up.
What if the girl is not in the mood?
Need to tune in to the fact that a bad mood can affect the attitude of the girl to others.
Perhaps an upset lady will rudely answer, rush into tears, try to close herself from everyone or blame others for her problems.
In this case important to keep calm and remember that a loved one does all this not from evil, but under the influence of a number of complex emotions.
General tips:
- Do not judge her for a bad mood (do not complain about the situation). If you point out that you do not like her attitude, the girl will come to a state of irritation. After all, she is also a man!
She has every right to have bad emotions and wants to rely on support and understanding during difficult periods.
- Do not react to provocations. Some people remove the negative due to quarrels, shouting and bringing to conflict. But after such a “discharge”, negative emotions accumulate even more, because there is an insult to the partner. Try to skip taunts past the ears. When your darling calms down, she will be ashamed of her behavior and she will be grateful for your patience.
- Listen. It is important for a frustrated person to speak out, remove this burden from his heart and find a like-minded person. Therefore, the guy should be a "vest" and a grateful listener. Perhaps the girl will play the "martyr" and send the guy out the door, while really needing support. In this case, you should gently ask her to tell about what happened several times. But if the woman really does not want to talk and openly declares this, it will be superfluous to insist.
- If a girl wants to be alone - give her the opportunity. You can gently ask about the reasons for a bad mood and offer your help / company. But by participating, do not be too persistent. Maybe your darling needs time to rethink the situation. Or the mention of what happened hurt her. Or she, knowing the characteristics of her character, wants to calm down a little before talking with you.
The reasons may be mass. And if the girl asked to leave her for some time alone, it is worth retiring.
- You can not talk about their problems. If a frustrated girl talks about her problems, you can’t interrupt her and list your adversity. First, it will only increase the sense of hopelessness, because girls are very worried about their loved ones. Secondly, the lady immediately feels that her problems and feelings are overshadowed, as the guy "pulled the blanket over himself."
- Not a word about ICP! More than anything, women do not like being exposed to unbalanced and inadequate personalities. And tying critical days together in one story and a nervous breakdown has long become a bad form.
- Always pay attention on the mood of the girl. Most of the problems can be avoided by responding to changes in the mood of the woman. If your other half is upset or slightly annoyed, show concern and participation, ask suggestive or direct questions about the mood. As a result, the girl will speak out immediately and will not wind herself up.
- Tactile contact. Hug and kiss the girl, show tenderness. Touches can distract from bad thoughts, tune in a positive way and charge with positive energy.
Until the girl calms down, do not point her to mistakes and cross her.
Even if the cause of a bad mood was a situation in which she herself was to blame.
In a state of nervous excitement, the girl will not be able to take logical arguments and become even more angry.
What cheers you up?
If there are no serious reasons for the girl’s feelings, and her mood has deteriorated as a result of a series of unpleasant trifles, you can return the lady to a good mood. little surprises.
Postcard
A cute card with a soulful signature will lift your spirits. But an unexpected surprise will work even more effectively.
Instead of giving the card in hand, you can push it in the gap under the door.
Or ask a friend to work "Courier" and delivered a modest gift addressed to the girl. And if the girl is actively using diary, you can hide the gift between the sheets.
You can go further and turn the card into Treasure map.
To do this, you will need to hide sweets or a present in the apartment.
Then it is necessary to draw a schematic depiction of the rooms inside the postcard and mark the location of the treasure.
A photo
You can raise your mood with the help of joint photos, which capture memorable events or exciting moments.
You can bring a photo album and review pictures together, discussing a particular photograph in a positive way.
Meeting with girlfriends
No one will understand a girl better than her friend. Take the initiative and arrange a favorite meeting with friends. Invite them home or book a table in a cafe.
In most cases, the hoverings dislike the friends of their girls and prevent frequent meetings. But some problems of the weaker sex can openly discuss only with her friends.
Provide your favorite vacation
If your second half is working, studying and performing household duties, she may just get tired.
And if you add to this and everyday troubles, you can get a full depression.
Send a girl to sleep or watch your favorite series, and then go for groceries, cook dinner, do general cleaning, or rewrite the notes yourself to make life easier for the girl.
After she regains her strength, her mood will certainly rise.
Help her get away
To charge positive just change the situation. A walk in the open air, going to a museum or a movie will distract a girl from sad thoughts. You can engage your favorite pet game, tell her a funny story, etc.
The most important thing is to seize her attention and carry a positive.
Psychology tips
How to cheer up a girl who is sad or sick?
Sometimes a frustrated girl cannot be brought to a frank conversation, intrusive questions only aggravate the situation.
In this case, it is necessary to abstract from the problem and act "workarounds."
Sweets and compliments - this is a universal set that will cheer up any girl. It is very important that the compliments are not feigned and forced.
Speak sincerely and heartily. Well, if a girl follows a diet or proper nutrition, sweets can be replaced with fruits, or any other goodies that can please her.
A sick person needs support. Prepare your favorite hot soup, get some medication and make sure that she can relax.
If she agrees, you can independently call her boss and friends to cancel scheduled cases and meetings referring to the bad state of the girl.
And, of course, show that you love your soulmate, regardless of its appearance and condition. After all, women are always worried about how they look during illness. Kiss and nice words will strengthen her faith in the fact that for you she is always irresistible.
What to write to her?
If there is no opportunity to be near the girl or she wished to remain alone, this does not mean that you can let the situation take its course. Support her by correspondence.
Enough short cheering messages:
- "Good morning! Today will certainly be a good day! ”
- “I wish a good day to the most beautiful girl!”
- “Today you looked especially gorgeous!”
- “Your new dress is awesome!”
- “I remember your laughter and involuntarily smile!”
- "All day I think about your clear and kind eyes!"
- "It is a pity that I can not be right next to you, but thoughts of you cheer me up."
If you had a funny or funny story, you can describe it and send it to the girl in the form of a short story.
You can raise your mood with the help of short SMS, which do not imply a dialogue or response:
I write SMS to the greatest happiness on Earth,
and so beautiful
that you got to me.
In a dream and in reality
I only see you.
You light up my life
my love!
… .
This SMS went to the princess,
And revealed in all its glory,
Soon we will be with you together
After all, fate managed to bring us down.
… .
Dear angel told me
That you are my ideal
I thank heaven
For the fact that I love you!
You can give pleasant emotions with the help of poems:
What happened, baby, why are you sad, Cheer up a little, raise your eyes,
Where is your smile? I do not see her!
Sweet, sweet, dear my baby -
Share with me, I will not hurt!
Look at the sky - the birds are flying in it!
You cast the sorrows far back,
Let joy blossom in your little heart!
…
By you is infinitely bewitched,
You are the meaning of life, the angel in the flesh,
You constantly fascinated
And if something goes wrong, please forgive me!
Every day you just inspire,
You are always needed side by side,
And I will do everything you dream about
If only there was always mine!
…
Let your mood today Let the soul peace and joy
Like a bird soars into heaven.
Throw away all the doubts,
Let miracles begin.
As scarlet orchids bloom.
Do not worry let you tired
And only happiness, tenderness and comfort.
What to say to her?
How to cheer up your girlfriend with words?
Girl I will be glad to hear compliments no matter what mood she is in.
But in order to “hit the mark,” you will have to be observant.
Do not say common phrases. Better focus on the little things. Mark in a positive way new hairstyle, manicure or outfit.
Make a compliment to the little things that really attract you in your girlfriend (eyes, gait, manner of speaking, etc.). Work fine and situational compliments - examples:
- “You are very feminine today!”
- “I have long noticed your new lipstick. She really suits you. ”
- "I am delighted with your perfume!"
The girl will also be pleased to know that you need her. Say that you have been bored, you want to know her opinion about an important issue, or you cannot take any decision without her.
Anyone feels a surge of strength when it becomes important and necessary.
If you have an extraordinary sense of humor, you can try to make the girl laugh with a witty phrase or make a mini stand-up. But the main thing to remember is that jokes should not:
- make fun of the girl;
- make fun of the unpleasant situation in which the girl finds herself;
- make fun of her friends or loved ones.
How to cheer best friend?
If your best friend is discouraged, you can try to bring her to the conversation and listen carefully.
In this case, do not transfer the focus to yourself. Focus on your friend and her experiences. And you can share your problems later.
Do not want to discuss an unpleasant topic? Try take her out for a walk or a friendly get-together in her favorite place.
And in order to raise her self-esteem, you can arrange a hen party with makeup, fitting dresses and styling. Sweets or pizza in this situation will not be superfluous.
The most important thing is to treat the girl with understanding. Moments of gloom are every person. And pour oil on the fire can not in any case. You should not be offended and “climb into the soul” either.
Otherwise unpleasant residue will remain even when good mood returns to the girl. Indeed, in a difficult moment, she needed support, not censure.
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