Hello, I do not know at the address if I ask a question, but there is no one else to turn to. My problem is that I do not know how to think logically. She did not know how since childhood. Maybe it was the upbringing of parents that influenced me, because I was always forced to do something and discouraged from everything.
I studied well, but not for myself, but for my mother. In school, problems were always with mathematics, I can solve light examples, and what is more complicated - by 5 - no. Geometry was not given at all. By drawing, there were also always problems; I could not imagine, for example, how a figure looks like in three types, etc.
At the institute, the same thing, the teacher alone always said: you tortured it, but you do not understand. Other guys did not even study notes, but because they knew how to think, they learned well. I also studied well, but as I taught all the time.
I tried to solve logical problems - nothing happens. In Charles Phillips's book “Super Trainer for the Brain”, where he gives light tasks at first, and then moves on to complex ones, even the first one could not solve it.
I work there the same thing, I'm the dumbest one there. At the same time, everyone started to learn a new program on the computer, so the guys themselves “reached” what was there and how, and I ran and asked. Help me, please, is it possible to change something? I am 24 years old.
Olga, St. Petersburg
Psychologist comment:
Hello Olga.
I am not an expert in the field of neuropsychology, but if you were able to finish the school well, and then the institute, this suggests that you obviously do not have any serious brain damage. And certainly not all people can understand geometry, solve math for 5+ and master new computer programs, without asking anyone for help at all. I would even say that few people can do it.
But the fact that you are very complex because of your supposedly weak mathematical-logical abilities draws my attention as a psychologist. Do your, as you put it, “problems with logic” really interfere with career advancement or have a strong influence on your communication with other people? You write that you tried to solve logical problems, read various books about the development and "pumping" of your brain ... Tell me, why do you need all this? Are you trying to prove something to someone? Who and what exactly?
You indicated that you are 24 years old. Young people and girls at this age are often consumed with the search for relationships and career development, but I did not get the impression that studying the book “Super Trainer for the Brain” is designed to take you up the career ladder. Therefore, I would suggest that you think about why a problem takes you that is certainly very important for you for some reason, but it does not have a destructive effect on your life - that you are supposedly the “most stupid”.
I can offer you one of the possible versions of why a similar situation has developed in your life. You write that you did not study for yourself, but for your mother. When a person does something not for himself, but for another, even if a person significant to him is something that he doesn’t like very much, then with time he may form a subconscious protest towards such activity, or his inner forces can fulfill uninteresting activities just end.
And when, for example, it is impossible to protest openly for some reason, such a protest can be expressed in the form of “stupefaction”, when the child's learning ability gradually deteriorates. Of course, such a psychic mechanism is activated unconsciously: the child does not realize what is happening and is not guilty of what is happening.
And if the child is unable, as it seems to him, to solve complex examples or to study geometry, then what to take from him? It can only be left alone. You may have been left behind, but your vision of yourself as “the most stupid” remains and continues to influence your daily life and your sense of self so much that it worsens your quality of life.
What do you think, does the above look like what was happening to you?
If you do not have any guesses about the origin of your "intellectual problems", and the version proposed above finds your response, you may need to discuss the situation with a psychologist and psychotherapist in person. With it, you can understand why so much of your mental energy, your attention and strength is directed to this zone, this is a special idea of yourself, and what can be done in order to release these forces and direct them to those areas of your life where this the applied energy will bring you more benefit and joy.
Psychotherapist, family psychologist Yevgeny Makhlin
