How to start life from scratch
Everyone dreams to be happy. It is important for a person to wake up and fall asleep with a smile, knowing that the next day has not been wasted. It is important for him to feel loved, to feel support, to have good conditions for life.
However, we are told that this is impossible. We are assured that you will not escape fate, unhappy parents impose unhappy stereotypes.
This is not true. Only we are the owners of our own destiny. The only thing that we cannot change is our own birth and death. Everything else is subject to change. If you do not feel like a full-fledged and full of strength man, it's time to change something.
The problems leading to a new life from scratch
Before asking the question "how to start a new life from scratch," we must understand that we are not satisfied with the "future former life." It is important to pay attention to these points.
Superficial causes are few:
1) personal problems. Often the desire to start living again appears after a divorce or separation;
2) hateful work. Sometimes it is work that occupies the main part of life, turning it into existence;
3) problems in the family. If you live with relatives, and you are uncomfortable with them;
4) emotional trauma. For example, the experience of the death of a loved one;
5) physical injury. Sometimes we begin to live in a new way after experiencing physical injuries;
6) place of residence. Many dream to move from the place where they live at the moment, starting a new life in a new place;
7) routine. Daily repetitions of the same actions make you wonder why we are so uselessly spending the allotted years.
Did you find your problem in the list? There are several? If you see and understand your problems, then your life really needs a change for the better.
Starting life with a clean slate - theory
If you have wondered how to start a new life from scratch, go through the theoretical part. To do this, take a notebook and a pen and write a few points:
- What does not suit me;
- What prevents me from starting to live differently;
- What I miss;
- My goals: near and far-sighted;
- My dreams.
Then honestly answer yourself every question. You can answer with several words unrelated to each other, or whole essays. It depends only on your writing skills and desire to speak.
After reading your answers, you will know why to make a start, what to strive for and what or who to strike out from life. Understanding the current problem and your desires is the first step towards a serene future.
Now you can go to practice.
-Change yourself. Start with the exterior. Changes from outside will push for change from within. Psychologists have proven that a radically changed appearance (shortly cutting and dyeing long hair brightly, for example), makes us more confident, gives courage and increases self-esteem.
-Please stay away from unpleasant memories. You don't need a thing that makes you cry. Give this item to someone or discard it. Negative memories generate negative thoughts.
- Release the people who make you unhappy. The problem is not in them, but in you - you keep them. You cling to old events, trying to prove to yourself that you need these people. By no means. If you feel no joy next to a person, then this person is not meant for you.
- Find new people and new hobbies. Take care of what really makes you happy. Communicate with people who make you smile, from which comes success. Love those who radiate a positive, appreciate, respect and understand you.
- Acquire new things. Let them symbolize a new life.
- Change your place of residence. Try to go as far as possible. Run from your problems that make you unhappy.
-Start thinking differently. How to do this, we now discuss.
Change yourself for the sake of a new life
The problems between happiness and you are only projections of your thoughts and fears. You can get rid of them by changing yourself and your worldview.
You can do this by following a few rules:
- Use affirmations. Affirmations are statements that we inspire. Excellent and universal affirmations are “I am fine” and “I love life, and life loves me.” Make up your own statements and repeat them as often as possible. Start and end the day with them.
- Give and take. Try to give as much positive as possible even to unknown people. Do good deeds for free. And take the help of others just as easily.
- Take a walk. Try to communicate with people meet. Loneliness inspires negative thoughts.
- Gaining knowledge. Read, study the industries that interest you. You will distract from the thoughts about the past, become a more interesting conversationalist and realize how worthless your problems are.
- Live the present. The past is a part of your life. The part that you yourself painted and put in a corner, covered with a new canvas. You can get a picture and admire your creativity, but now you draw even better, so there is no point in doing this. New canvases in front of you, and you can see them at any time, seeing their best strokes.
Finally
Now you know how to change yourself and start a new life. Adhere to the above tips, listen to yourself, appreciate your thoughts, sometimes act at the behest of a small child living in you.
Enjoy life and be happy!
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