No matter how many poems, songs, novels great authors devote to this feeling, no matter how much psychologists, neurologists and other scientists investigate this phenomenon of the manifestation of human emotions, love remains one of the secrets of nature to this day. To date, do not consider the interpretations of this feeling in various sciences. For example, tens of thousands of scientific papers are devoted to the psychology of love alone.
Psychologists say that there are so-called stages of love, which, in one way or another, each couple goes through at different stages of their relationship. Is it really? And you check it out yourself: compare the theory of psychologists with the history of your own relationships, in order to understand what stage you and your partner are at.
The content of the article:
Initial stage
Remaining stages
Psychologist's comment
The stages of building love are certain stages of relationships, each of which can last for different times depending on the strength of the feelings, their reciprocity, the temperament of the partners, and also depending on the similar and opposite features of their characters. Of course, it is impossible to substitute all relations under one pattern: some couples may skip intermediate stages, others - to stop at any intermediate level.
In addition, the stages of development of love relationships may be cyclical: for example, after going through the first three stages, the couple may return to the first one, having experienced initial feelings for each other again.
Stage 1 - love
This is the most intense stage of love and emotions. He is especially remembered by man, as it often includes some of the happiest moments in life.
Thanks to the hormones that are released in the human body when in love, everything around him seems to be magical, bright, cheerful. That is why the feeling of love inspires, inspires to feats: a person becomes more relaxed, the voice of reason is muffled by agitations of the heart and emotional experiences.
This stage of love is mainly distinguished by almost cloudless relationships: lovers do not notice each other’s shortcomings, because they are blinded by their feelings. Often, lovers try to seem better than they really are, in order to please their partner and not inadvertently upset him.
Stage 2 - satiation
Usually this stage of love begins a few months after the start of a relationship. Primary euphoria, forcing to spend all free time together, gradually recedes. Everyday things begin to slowly return lovers in ordinary life, lowering them from heaven to earth.
At this stage, quite possibly, the first quarrels can begin. The reason for them can serve as a later transition to the second stage of one of the partners: while his half is trying to make up the neglected business, he still wants to give her maximum of his time, resenting her desire to be not only with him, but also to meet with friends, to work more etc.
Stage 3 - rejection
At this stage of love, partners may have the first doubts about the correctness of their choice. There are no ideally matched people, so anyway, sooner or later, misunderstandings can arise between two lovers.
This stage is characterized by the analysis of the behavior of the partner, the first clarification of the relationship, long talk "heart to heart". Many couples at this stage, not finding understanding, diverge. Those who are in love, who manage to establish a dialogue, continue their journey together.
Stage 4 - Patience
One of the most difficult stages when partners need to learn to live with the fact that they are not similar in order to preserve relationships. Only the strongest, strong-willed people who have real feelings for each other, can pass this stage. There is a real war between our own ideas about the ideal partner and his real embodiment.
At this stage there is often another test for relationships - the birth of a child. The partners either get closer together trying to resist difficulties together, or gradually move away from each other, wallowing in family squabbles.
5th stage - ministry
The name of this stage has nothing to do with using each other for their own purposes. Having passed the stage of patience, the partners already know each other deeply enough, not trying to change each other. If they stay together, they are truly ready for true love.
A characteristic feature of this stage is the well-established cooperation between partners, when everyone wants to make his contribution to the family, help his chosen one and take care of him. Quarrels are already quite rare, because the couple have almost exhausted the reasons for them.
Stage 6 - Respect
This stage is achieved by many couples due to the fact that by this time they have already experienced a lot together. Knowing how a person behaves in a difficult situation or on happy days can either ruin a marriage or provide a serious foundation for a relationship.
Respect is achieved as a result of passing through all the previous stages, in which partners were able to know well the advantages and disadvantages of each other and assess the degree of seriousness of the relationship.
Stage 7 - love
The final stage is a real feeling that rarely can anyone grow and save. The ability to cherish the first shoots of passionate love, to keep a thin stalk of relationships in a period of bad weather, feeding it with mutual respect and support - all this is necessary for the love bud to finally bloom.
At this stage, the couple is already impossible to break, because the degree of trust, loyalty, respect and love for each other is so high that no obstacles or temptations can destroy it.
In order to experience true love, it is not enough to meet the right person. This requires titanic work, dedication, the ability to compromise, great patience and faith in a partner. Do not regret the relationship ended in rupture: if you really are ready for this feeling, it will definitely be in your life. On one condition - if you make every effort for this.
Victoria, Moscow
